2008

Kill it with kindness girl! Dont let a single hair on your head stand up, no matter what he does... thats what hes doing this for...  for a reaction. For a snot sniveling cryin session... DONT GIVE IT TO HIM!

Handle it all with dignity and respect. in the next few days approach him and ask him when does he plan on packing up his things. ... be composed! Once he sees that its not working, he will quickly move to plan B... he will start with the "you dont care" drama and he will pout. In the meantime... stay with your counselor, keep your happy hour appts, get your hair done and relax! Isnt it amazing how predictable a man can be?

Men are some of the most predictable creatures on earth.....every one of them.....well most of them.  You give good advice. Rachel

LMAO!!! it was my first calling in life I guess, but sometimes im too "brassy" so I opted to steer clear... you know, just in case I pushed someone over the edge.... But for you, we wear the same shoes so its easy!

I don't think I can add anything to what everyone else has said. I wish you all the best in this situation, but I honestly think that the best thing is him leaving and you getting on with your life. You don't deserve having anyone make you feel like it's your fault and that you need fixing. He needs fixing in more ways than one and one day he will realize that it was him that made the mistake in your marriage, not you. Have a wonderful NEW YEAR and NEW LIFE! Mary

I know that I do not "know" you or all of your personal situation...BUt I can tell you you deserves some who will treat you with respect and dignity.  I have been married for 10 years...and I am  now going thru a very ugly divorce (no kids!)  Part of me misses him so bad that I even called his voice mail at work this weekend just to hear his voice...But my husband made a choice and he will have to live with it for ever.  (He had an affair with one of his employees and then she got pregnant!) I deserve better too.  He does not know I have had surgery and I cannot wait to see him in court.  I am losing weight and his girlfiend is gaining weight! Ha!!  My counselor told me..." .You can not correct -what you are not willing to confront" I think this applies to many things....even weight loss.  We all have issues whether we like to admit it or not.   Seems to me he has some major issues.  You need to love you and heal your hurt and brokeness.  IT will take time (Everyday is better for me) I wish you all the best- Good luck! Angela

I think everyone beat me to all the advise.. just hang in there girl. be optimistic over the next year and prepare yourself for great things!! You deserve the best..  i know you had been trying for children before, but maybe this was Gods way of you not having to be pulled to stay with john for the kids now if you know what i mean! its alot harder to go through a divorce with children.. im here for you if you need to talk! (my cell phone is broken, hopefully will have it back by the end of the week)  love ya!!! CHIN UP! :)

oh and p.s... womans intuition, i think hes still being unfaithful. i have thought that for a whileee now. something you might wanna check into somehow!

Yep.  And I bet you know who it is.

 im not THAT psychic! lmao... or do i KNOW them?? im lost in translation..

No, I think RACHEL knows who it is.