OT: I CAN'T do it ALL!!!

Hey Kathy....I know that feeling!!!

Debra Spencer cleans houses. She does a doctor's house that isn't too far from your house. She said it's a BIG house. I'm not sure what days she does it, but if she could possibly do yours and his on the same day. I'm sure she would be reasonable. Her email is [email protected] if you want to get in touch with her.

.....thinking...maybe I should get her to do my house too!!!

Hugs,
Dianne

AMEN!!! i know exactly how you feel.. my stress is horrible. . i miss smoking it was my relief! lol.. i need a maid.. we have a great one who does our office and my brothers house very reputable.. isnt very expensive either.. but debra s sounds like she would be good too!

I figured I would weigh in since I am a man (or so I am constantly trying to prove that fact to Kathy and others on this board) and a tightwad with my money With my wife and I working full time--duties do need to be split down the middle. She likes mowing the lawn, I like grocery shopping (there goes the man card)....but my point is-pick the things you enjoy, split them up and figure out the rest And I hate to pay money for things we can do BUT a cleaning lady is SOOOO worth it. I think you have to splurge alittle so that when your kids are grown and gone you don't say to yourself---dang, I spent too much time cleaning and cooking and not enough time playing and spending quality time We decided to spend more on already prepared meals, a splurge but wrth it. On Sundays I'll cook 8lbs of chicken breast and use it throughout the week. We've gotten the girls involved in the cooking process; I know Teagan is young but she could make a salad by adding things to it from a bag, tear lettuce, get the veggies from the freezer, etc.....it starts slow but can grow

AND-its ALL easier said then done, and I don't think it's going to be successful unless hubby pitches in. When 2 work-you gotta!!  I'm sorry you are going thru that.  Maybe you start letting things slide, like HIS laundry or HIS meals.....it makes a man sit up and take notice. Sometimes we men need a slap in the face ya know!! Good luck. If we ever get together-I can always bring it up and chat with him about it in a secretive way so he does not know I know

You know, I may be giving you guys the wrong idea about hubby.  He does ALL the laundry to the best of HIS ability () and he washes the dishes.  He also takes care of all the yard work.  So he does contribute. And even though he is constantly working right now because of a big project at work, they are compensating him for his overtime.  He is giving ME all the extra money so I won't be so upset about it.  I'd still rather have HIM than the money though. I think maybe the part that is irking me is that everything having to do with Teagan is falling on me right now.  He really doesn't have much of an idea on what is going on with her.  He keeps her when I hang out with you guys, but that usually means parking her in front of the TV in the office while he works on the computer.  *sigh* I just need to suck it up and get it all done.  I've figured the extra money he is giving me can go towards a cleaning service.  That may make things easier.

I don't understand-you are the woman so why wouldn't it fall on you I mean c'mon........heck I cannot even finish that statement without smirking too much.

Definitely do the housecleaner. When you come home and find a clean-smelling nice-everything put away house, it is SOOOO worth it.  OUTSOURCE. Thats the secret to life I say. Outsource the lawn, the house cleaning, the meals (meal replacements are healthy). I just go the extra mile and clip coupons, do rebates, save everywhere else to offset the outsourcing of the things I hate to do..... Good luck. It does get easier when they get older. My wife gets caught up in work sometimes and I just feel sorry for her because they'll be grown and I'll have no regrets but I know she will