ok ladies I need some advice...

I have no answers, I do know that my husband feels weird about it since I've lost weight.  He worries.  It is better when I sort of take charge,  Remember Stephie, we're here to try to help each other.  Never worry about posting something mary

thanks Mary Stephie

my mom and sister have both had hysterectomys you probably do need some hormones. My mom also has MS so she doesn't want to have to take anything else and she is going through early menopause but there are plenty of natural things out there you can do. The problem is you do have to talk to your doctor because he can run the tests to see what hormones are low and what are high so you know what to do. My mom finds that soy helps the affects of menopause so she takes in more soy now. As far as your sex drive it is probably a hormonal imbalance because I know someone who had no drive what so ever and had a 0 testotorone level. Your hubby probably is just reading signs from you after years of being with the same person we read each others signals. So he probably just thinks you don't want hime too. I would just thell your doctor your "drive" is not there and can he run some tests and that tell you where to go next. But don't be ashamed I think this problem is more common than you think. It is the 2nd time I have heard someone with this problem this month. Diane W. 

thanks hon your info has helped alot.. monday I will ask the doc to check and see if I do need some hormones... thanks bunches Stephie