ok ladies I need some advice...

thanks maybe I need to start drinking ... *lol* back in the day (hey I'm old) I smoked dope and was always ready for my first hubby..  but that's been over 20 years ago... I'm in the process now of finding a shrink that can help me here close to home... I hate going all the way to Spartanburg.. I have other problems besides this... Stephie

Where do you live?

I live in Gaffney towards Blacksburg

Stephanie, You are so not alone in dealing with these issues many of us are going through it to. Me and my husband have not went to bed the same time in 2 years because of the Damn computer and Warcraft, and that doesn't help with the self image at all. We want our husbands to want us even if we don't want sex we want to feel atractive to them, but if they are more interested in the computer how does that make us feel? I really could care less about sex but need some intmincy(SP). What makes it hard for me is my hubby was a 32 year old virgin when we got married and in the five years we been married we may have had sex 30 times now thats a kick in the mouth I would think he would want it all the time but no! I know his is body image too hee is over weight and he says sex is to much work sometimes so who knows. Just hang in there. Hugs Marcey

we do have the same problems... my husband is addicted to second life and star wars... used to be everquest.. then he wanted me to play so we could do something together... well he stopped playing everquest and started playing starwars...  maybe I need to see a lawyer instead of a shrink... but I love him and this is my 3rd marriage and I want to make it work so badly... *hugs* I'm so glad I'm not the only one but just hate someone else has to be going through it Stephie

my momma always told me NO TVS In the bedroom... cause the bedroom is NOT TV TIME... so for you... NO COMPUTERS IN THE HOUSE!!!.... haha Hang in there Steph....it will be OK!!  BOB can help in an instant!!!!

no computers means I can't visit all you lovely people... and who's bob?

Stephanie Bob is that special friend that runs on battery's and can do the job anytime and doesn't complain. Marcey

ohhhhhh *LoL* never owned one of those... might have to check into it though *lol* Stephie

Speaking of "Bob"... my mom had an adult toy party at her house twice! Talk about weird (and lots of fun!!) my 2 daughters (who are both grown) were there too! LOL