I GOTTA GO TO A SHRINK....

Well, I got some fun news this morning.  After having several panic attacks over the weekend and crying the rest of the time, I decided to go back to my PCP to get back on my old meds.  This new crap doesn't work.  He put me back on the meds and gave me another RX for ativan.    Anyway, he wants to send my to a shrink...no offense to Dr. Russell...but a real shrink.  He thinks I may have something like post tramatic stress disorder!!!  I asked him if that wasn't something that people who had been in real stress got.  He told me on anxiety scales, that discovery of an affair ranks as one of the highest stress situations possible and adding that we are trying to work through it makes it even harder and more stressful.  He said this is because instead of being able to move on, I live with the constant reminders and have to work on forgiveness.....and right now that seems impossible.  So, has anyone ever been to a real shrink.  Are they gonna hook me up to the electric shock therapy machine?   Are they gonna brainwash me?  LOL  I watched the new movie....Borne Ultimatum this weekend.  It was great but its got me thinking I might be brainwashed.  LOL.  BTW, Matt Damon is so freakin hot in that movie.....it's worth the 8 bucks to see him....whew!!!  Gotta run.  Gotta go get ready to go see my counselor. Rachel

lmao.. u go from shrink talk to matt damon's hotness! thanks for the smile.. lol. he is hawt. and no youre not crazy.. if i had been in your shoes i would be in jail right now for castraiting my husband not a the shrinks office! LOL so youre doing good!!! im proud of you.. you will feel better soon i hope. i havent smoked in a week now.. and I REALLY WANT ONE NOW lol.. damn hernia

I LOVE MY SHRINK AND MY COUNSELOR.  I had some events that causes PTSD, and have to have my meds adjusted accordingly.   If I had not gone to a shrink and counselor, I would not have had WLS, gone back to school, and refound myself.  As we said yesterday , the meds just change after time and the psych is medically trained to know whats best for YOU.  Good Luck!!! Mary

SHRINKS RULE!

You are dealing with one of the toughest things to deal with.  Girl, I can relate.  The thought of someone else getting your promised touches and sweet words.  I don't even think the sex part got to me as bad as the "other life" he must have had.  All of the intimate conversations.... OOOO  make me want to kill this man right now and it has been about 6 years. I had kicked in the house door on the first one, then we were planning to be married within 2 weeks and he felt the need to confess 2 others.  How kind of him.  Needless to say, we still aren't married. I probably should have gone to see a pro.  My family Dr. gave me "coaping drugs"  my kids called them my "nice pills".  Even after all of these years, things can throw me in a tail spin and I don't trust him.  I tend to just freek out and want to throw in the towel. What I did learn was it is his responsibility to make you feel secure.  He messed this up and it is up to him to fix it.  As Dr. Phil would say, and his book Relationship Rescue was great, no matter how long it takes, he has to be willing to fix this. A lady from my church lent me this book, I have the name of it some where because I took so many notes, I nearly copied the whole book.  But that book helped me so much.  I will find the name of it and you can go to your local library and check it out. I hate that men think with their heads (little head) and not their hearts. If there is ever a Next time, I will think with super glueing his dick to his belly.  Oh damn, now enjoy it while it is glued to your belly you sob.  ugh oh, I may have to put a pillow over his head now that I am thinking about it again. You can call me girl.  You can't wait until I'm not busy.  My life seems to always be on over drive.  It will be a pleasant distraction to talk to you. Hang in there and go talk to this Dr.  It can't hurt.

Thanks a lot!!  Its great to be able to talk to someone who has been there.  I know it is gonna be a long hard struggle and I am not 100% sure that it is worth it but only time will tell.  I was thinking about getting that Dr. Phil book but just haven't had the chance.  I like the super glue idea.  I also love Carrie Underwood's song "before he cheats."  I think I might get put in jail if I did all that but it might be worth it.  Will you come bail me out??  I'll call sometime. Rachel

Shrinks (psychiatrists) are really just medication managers these days.  They don't usually get into the counseling side of things ... that is left to the psychologists and the licensed counselors.

So if you see a psychiatrist, you'll leave with some new prescriptions ... and that's about it.   And you're worth whatever it takes ... so do it!

That's what the doctor is hoping for instead of him trying all these different medicines and me freaking out in the time I have to wait for it to get in my system. Rachel