DIVORCE AFTER WEIGHT LOSS

DOES ANYONE KNOW IF DIVORCE IS REAL COMMON AFTER THE WEIGHT LOSS? I USE TO HEAR OF SEPERATIONS BEFORE I  EVER HAD THIS SURGERY AND I SAID I WOULD NEVER LEAVE MY HUSBAND BUT WE HAVE RECENTLY SEPERATED AND I DID LEAVE HIM BECAUSE OF SOMEONE ELSE BUT BECAUSE I WAS UNHAPPY AND HAVE BEEN FOR YEARS. I GUESS THE WEIGHT LOSS JUST GAVE ME THE NERVE TO DO SO. HAVE ANYONE ELSE ON THIS WEBSITE SEPERATED? AND WHY?

totally comnon. weight loss highlights the underlying problems.... jealousy, insecurity etc. WLS changes people, both the patient and everyone surrounding them.  WLS helps people discover their physical attractiveness, makes them more appealing to the opposite sex and all of that seems to work like a wedge... seperating marriages. sad, but true. There are alot of forums about that online...  im not seperated, but the idea of WLS makes my husband nervous... hes very jealous of the whole process and its something we are working on.... he thinks that once I loose weight and am attractive to ALL men and not just the men that LOVE plus size women... that I would leave him for someone better...  its a crazy mess! But I hope you find happiness and joy and love.... GOD BLESS

THANKS! THE BIGGEST PROBLEM IN OUR MARRIAGE IS MONEY. MY HUSBAND HAS A LAZY STREAK AND WOULD AND STILL DO LAY OUT OF WORK THAT CAUSED BIG PROBLEMS (REPOED VEHICLES, BILL BEING BEING BEHIND ETC) SO I WENT OUT AND GOT A SECOND JOB WELL WHEN I DID THAT HE STILL LAYED OUT BUT STILL WANTED THE FINER THINGS IN LIFE AT MY EXPENSE. THAT IS WHEN I REALLY DECIDED THAT IF I CAN WORK 2 JOBS AND SUPPORT HIM THEN I CAN WORK 2 JOBS AND SUPPORT MYSELF.

you must be my skinny twin. I work 2 jobs, pay almost all of our household bills and still manage to be a decent wife. Not a great wife, but I try.  My hubby works, but was a dead beat dad for so many years to his two older children and our son together that child support sucks up most of his income...  SO... I carry the weight of most of it on my shoulders.

I totally understand! and know more that most how bad it sucks!!!

at least your husband is working everyday. mine just called me and asked to borrow 50.00 and we are seperated (go figure)

Out of all of the risk I read into about this surgery, that was the one things that scared me the most.  That is the one thing that I also didn't to talk about with my boyfriend of 13.  I didn't want any doubts in his head about the Love I have for him. But in the last month (I am only 4 months and 75 pounds) out of surgery, he has been on my last nerve.  He acts so immature and insecure aobut the silliest things.  He thinks when I talk to the girls, it is about him in a bad way, or it is just to lust over all these other guys (that don't exist).  Then he pouts and makes stupid comments, where he will try to ruin my time where ever we are.  FT!! I tell him all the time, he is making things up and making something out of nothing.  He tells me I am lying and full of **** I too am tired of the silly stuff. After 13 years, we have to decide to get married and commit, or I am ready to jump ship too.  I feel like I have given him the best years of my life, and for what? I pay 85% of all of the bills, buy all of the groceries, pay for all of the upkeep on my home and yard, fill my truck up at least twice a week (because we drive my truck, not his, everywhere), totally support my two teenage boys and always have since birth, try to do everything for everyone...but it's never enough.  He told me I need to get a life...WTF, can you believe that, if I get anymore life, I will need my clone to handle it for me. I think we do change.  We descover we don't have to put up with, the things,  we have thought for so long, that we have had to. Good luck on your journey.  I have a feeling I will be visiting you on that road of life.

Hi Crystal.  Sorry to hear you are having issues with hubby and I can't quite figure out why it happens.  At 3 months out my husband of 31 years told me one day he didn't want to be married anymore.  We never fought and I thought we had the "perfect" marriage.  Two kids, beautiful grandkids, just starting to be financially stable....  Well I can only tell you that while I was totally devastated when it happened, I picked myself up and went on....and am so glad I did.  I realized I was the one who made all of the sacrifices in our marriage and never told him NO - which is why we never fought. With losing weight I was starting to feel better about myself and saying No to some of the crazy things he wanted and did.  On top of that I found out there was another woman (my best friend to boot) who works for him and they have been messing around for quite some time. Well..long story...sorry...but, I can tell you that 16 months later I am having more fun that I have had in ALOT of years.  I do for ME (and the kids and grandkids of course), but I am having a BLAST.... Hang in and call me if you need to talk.  My number is 442-4188.   

THANKS YALL, LIFE JUST ISNT FAIR, YOU SAY I DO FOR IT TO BE A LIFETIME AND LOOK WHAT HAPPENS. I DID TRY IN MY MARRIAGE AND NOONE CANT SAY I DIDNT, BUT IM NOT GOING BACK, IM ONLY GOING FORWARD.