mentally exhausted :( LONG

im sucha wuss.. im cryin my eyes out .. bleh.. between all the stress from what happened with the dr.. and this other stuff going on.. first let me rewind, (we own a heavy duty towing service that covers the upstate) yesterday we received a call for a turned over logging truck on 85 in spartanburg.. Well my husband and brother run these wrecks together along with about 10 other guys who work for us.. they go out there and its got one side of the interstate shut down completely.. well on the other side was a fox news man filming the wreck, i was on the radio(nextel group) talking to my guys asking what side it was on and such when my guy yelled "oh crap someone just got run over!!!" Well, my first thoughts were it was my husband or one of our employees.. so im freaking out at the office ! I was like "Who got run over!" and no one answered for what seemed like an eternity then they said "A cameraman , and its not good!" .. Find out that rob is standing right on the other side of the guardrail and the guy is filming him working and rob heard screaching tires, turned around and saw this man get hit by a van flying down the road.. threw the man into the guardrail. .Rob jumps over it to check on him and screams for the firemen to come over. the guy was VERY badly messed up, i wont go into the awful details i was told bc its still bothering me and i wasnt there.. Rob couldnt sleep last night bc of it .. and its been really weird seeing this guy on tv and such after seeing him how he was for rob..the guy didnt make it So i was totally stressed over the fact that "it could of been one of ours" and im still kinda freaked.. so that added to my stress.. then tonight.. I went to our dance place and went to pay off our balance and there is like 50 bucks in late fees on our account.. i was like "how in the world is there late fees when ive paid a minimum of 200 bucks a month EVERY month when our tuition a month is only 90, so ive paid over double every month to catch up with all the costume fees and recital fees etc" well they said since it wasnt paid the first week of the month they tack on late fees.. im like WTF .. i paid you 200 bucks and youre complaining over it being there the 2nd week of the month? he said "you should of just paid the 90 and i wouldnt of charged the late fees.. umm HELLO Genius.. I run a business and I know that if i had a customer who wanted to pay me say 500 bucks next week rather than 150 this week, id wait for next week to get the full 500 !! What a moron!!! So this jackass continues to get louder and argue with me in front of ALL these parents. I was like "NOT TO MENTION That we were due a "Free" class for having paid for 3 classes, and you couldnt accomodate us bc you said all the classes were full for my daughters age!" he said "thats a lie!" i was like OMG!!!!!!!! FUMINGGG i called the secretary out on the table right there and said "Casey! Tell him! I called for 2 mths trying to get her in a class! and you told me there werent any open for her age! did you not!!!" then she finally agreed.. i was livid.. this jerk doesnt even know me , has never even talked to me, and is calling me a liar?!?! I started crying right there in front of the whole place.. I was pissed and hurt and embarrassed .. im not one to not pay something if i owe it. but i do NOT think i owe this, especially when she wasnt even given her free class all year. . im still upset. i dont really know why . .rob said just pay it and dont worry about it but for some reason i really wanna stick to my guns here. he told me not to let the jerk bother me but it really has. i know they were all in there laughing at me when i left i could see them through the window.. i feel like i was being treated like i was when i was 320 lbs without even saying anything. When people would laugh when i left a room just bc the way i looked.. but this time it was making fun of me for crying. im the kinda person when i get really upset over something and cant go off on someone, i cry. so here i sit still crying and its been an hour! i hope tomorrow is a better day, i really do! sorry for the long message but i needed to get this off my chest.. jen

Jennifer, I am so sorry that you had all this happen. I wish I could give you a hug but know that I am thinking about you and giving you a big ((((HUG)))) right now. I love you and hang in there. THey are right now talking on the news about the camera guy... Joe. I can't imagine seeing what Rob did. I will be praying for you all. I love ya, Pam

Jenifer, I am sorry you're having such an awful day/week. As you have mentioned, there are a number of issues going on that are taxing your energy, emotions, and mental health. Having an emotional reaction to such poor customer service at the dance studio makes me wonder why such businesses expect to stay in business. It's hard enough to keep track of all their fees and promotional promises, it's any wonder that their customers are confused and frustrated. The worst sin is to make you feel even worse by reacting with such poor sympathy to you on your way out. If phrase "the customer is always right" means anything, then treating the customer with disrespect should be grounds for termination, or at least a full refund to the customer. Why does fifty dollars disagreement buy the studio, a whole lot more than $50 in bad advertisement and bad publicity? A service business can not afford either, especially when the product they sell is a luxury item like dance lessons. Your $200 can buy a whole lot more entertainment for your daughter at many other establishments in the area. Let your daughters take up karate and then send them back to kick that jerk's butt. And as you know, while your family business is also a service business it also has plenty of danger associated with it and the situations that they operate under. I can sympathize with you and your husband regarding your reaction tot hat accident. My brother was an EMT, and he always felt that the rubber necking and poor driving by those caught up in the traffic congestion, showed the worse side of people, while the just a few feet away the truly needy were clinging to life. Even when such safety works wear orange and there are warning lights flashing some people are so willing to put other's lives at risk so that they will not be 10 minutes late to dinner or a movie. As far as losing your support community, there has been plenty said on these board regarding the sister/brother hood that has been gain by all that are willing to admit that living is a struggle and that the only way you lose is by choosing to stop trying. I am sorry your experience tonight brought back all those old painful memories. Being treated as a spectacle what ever the reason is never excusable. Perhaps as your kiss your family good night tonight you can gather the love and strength you have from those around you that truly love you. I think you're terrific. Herb

Hi Jen, I am so sorry for what you are going through right now. I dont really know what happened the past 48 hours on here. I was gone all day yesterday at a meeting off site so was not on the board and then came back and was stunned. And with me living out of state I didnt get in touch with anyone either. i hope everyone is ok and things are straightened out? I know what you mean about the crying thing though and can relate totally to how you said you reacted to your stress! I want to send you a big hug. I used to feel the same way, that people would be judging me on my size and treating me a certain way because of my weight and I would feel 'less than, or not good enough' or a certain sense of shame..' and now i feel that way if I react to stress in front of someone with tears and i break down and cry in a stressful situation and its very frustrating if it happens. But you know what? i am sure it has happened to them too. I think we are our own worst critics at times? And, Jen... dont ever apologize for writing a long message! this is what this board is for, it is for support, and caring and friendship. You are a vital part of this and I truly am looking forward to meeting you one day. I think you are a bit far from Charleston? so when I come next month I may not get to meet you, but I am hoping to come back in the fall or sooner if i can. hugs J.

Oh Jen! I am so sorry you had such a horrible experience. You just go ahead and cry your eyes out. I know sometimes it is the ONLY thing that makes me feel better. I am sorry that Rob had to see what he did. When I was in college, I worked for a law firm that represented some auto makers. Sometimes I would have to look at pictures of accident scenes with bodies. These photos may have been taken years earlier, but I still lost tons of sleep over them and would sometimes cry abut these people I didn't even know. I can't even IMAGINE how it is for Rob right now. Hug him (and your brother) a little tighter from now on. And as far as the dance studio, that is super poor customer service. Was the guy the owner? If he was. Make sure everyone knows what an asshole he is. If he's not, call his supervisor and let them know how he tried to humiliate you. If neither works, call me. I'll cut his ass! Love you Jen, I hope things get better. Kathy

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! To have this on top of everything else that happened yesterday. I am surprised you did not just crawl under the covers and stay there! I am glad it was not one your guys that wa**** but I am sorry Rob saw it all. That is a tramatic thing to witness. And the lady at the dance class I am with you, as a business owner is someone said I can pay you this much now or the full amount in a week. I would wait for the full amount. It can be too time consuming to keep sending out invoices. My thoughts and prayers are with Rob and hope that he can get some sleep. You may want him to call his Dr to get something to help. That is not an easy thing to go through. So here are some ((((HUGS))) for you and yours! Julie

Gosh Jen! I am so sorry to hear about all of that. I hope your day today is much much better. I know first hand what it is like to see things that NOONE should ever have to see. The images stick with you for a long time. I am sorry that Rob witnessed that the other day. It was terribly tragic and just thank God that Rob was on the other side of the guardrail. As for that guy last night. I hope you know that you are so much better than the that! He was rude and should lose his job. It really saddens me that people are so mean. Everyday, we see how people have no regard for others feelings. It is a sad sad thought that people would rather be mean and hurtful than nice. BTW, I am sure you looked HOT, so he was probably feeling intimidated and that was his way of flexing his muscles! Too bad he didn't realize that would only make him look like a weenie!!!! Melissa

The "dance guy" sucks! Im sorry to hear about your drama out at the scene. My hubby is a tech + drive the wrecker on weekends and I ALWAYS freak out when its a tow on the side of the highway. He always has the scariest stories.... I HATE IT!!! its times like these when you gotta get grounded with your faith or spiritualness! TODAY IS A NEW DAY! KISS YOU HUBBY AND KIDS AND BE BLESSED!!!

My Poor Jen ... C'mere and lemme give you some hugs... ((((((hug))))) ... Want me and Kathy to go kick the dance guys butt?? Once you've calmed down.. I would go back in there.. and find out who the owner is.. and confront him about the poor customer service you received... they should either make it right for you.. or you need to take your business else where... stand firm.. don't let ANYONE ever make you feel like that again... You always have a soft place to land .. here.. on the boards.. with people who adore you.. .

Jenn, I am soo sorry you were having a rough day...I'll be sending prayers and hugs your way My mom works for Fox 21 as the HR manager and it was so bad for everyone at work yesterday....she was scrambling trying to get everything in order to make it easy on his wife....just so sad. And you were soooo right to get upset about the fees...how crazy is that?? Anyway, chin up, girl! Today is a new day, a new begining....hope its fabulous and peaceful for you! ~Melissa