Mad too...

I went home last night and had a long discussion with my husband about the whole incident at last nights meeting, and he put it to me this way, "you have made yourself vulnerable by putting all your successes and failures out there in the "public" eye on that board. People are going to pick out what they want and do what they want with it." So what I have to say is THANK YOU to all those lurkers out there that feel it is OK to go to my doctor and speak about me and my friends to them. THANK YOU SO MUCH for taking away the only support I have had for this entire journey. THANK YOU for making me afraid to make new friends and to reach out to others in the same situation as me. THANK YOU for proving once again what a petty bunch of people there are out in this world. And when you are over a year out and struggling with the same issues as I am, I want you to remember how high and mighty and INVINCIBLE you were feeling at only a couple of months out. I want you to realize how hard it is for us to put our mistakes out there in public to own up to them and move on. When you get back into living inthe "REAL WORLD" and realize it didn't stop because you had surgery, then you can feel free to judge me. Until then, I would very much appreciate it if you would keep my name (and my friends names) out of your mouths. Until you actually come and sit in with our after support group meetings and listen to what we actually discuss and see what we actually eat and drink, do not assume you know. Don't worry, you aren't chasing me away from this board. I've done nothing wrong. I will be a little more selective with what I say. All social plans will be made privately. My pictures will be only of my before and after progress. I will take my doctors name off of my profile so no one can speak to him about me. He won't be able to count me as a success on here or a failure. I will continue my "What did you eat today" posts and I will continue my challenges because those help hold ME accountable. The only person I am responsible for is ME. I am not a doctor and I am not Jesus. I also hope I NEVER find out who the people responsible for this whole mess are anyway. I would love to give you busy bodies a piece of my mind in person. Worry about yourselves, worry about your own habits. I don't need anyone else worrying about mine. I worry about them enough.

I could not have said it any better myself! Thank you Kathy! Patti

Are you serious? I am blown away by this... I wasn't there.. I don't know what happened.. Not being one of Dr B's patients I'm out of the loop as far as what goes on at the meetings before the "social meeting" .. but I can say this Kathy.. YOU have been a true inspiration to me.. I admire you.. I look up to you for advice and before I had my surgery.. and while I was still a lurker and scared to post on the boards.. I read everything you wrote... Your encouragement and support for me is a cherished gift... I can not thank you enough for being YOU.. posting about YOUR ups and downs with food issues and allowing lurkers to come out of the shadows and interact. I consider you a friend..and hope you feel the same about me.. Do NOT let this person or what happened at Dr B's meeting steal your thunder... RUMBLE ON SISTA!!! This board has been a life saver. I would have never gone through with the surgery had I not met people like You and Dawn and Elizabeth and Jen ... ALL OF YOU are my heros... I was warned about Dr B's office reading posts.. that one ANOTHER reason why I went with the Dr I did... It's far to unprofessional for me.. TO HELL WITH THOSE PEOPLE who have nothing better to do with their time than to be childish and unsupportive...I hate to say this.. but I'm going to... when things like this happen.. it's one more reason why I have a hard time being "friends" with women. I can not stand the back stabbing gossiping CRAP that comes along with a group of women where there is one who has to be two-faced. GROW THE HELL UP! OK.. I'm done.. someone help me down from the soap box You're a good person Kathy... do NOT let anyone ruin this for you...

Kathy, Call me at work please 458-3903.

I just want to put my two cents in on this subject: If I am reading correctly it looks like someone from your docs office or another pt. felt the need to "tattle" on you guys. Then the doc decided to make a public display of what you have posted about...does that just about sum it up? Well, that is 100% wrong and borders on breaking HIPAA laws. I would call him out on it. You were being 100% honest with what you have done, what works or didn't work for you. You were getting support in your failings and applause in your successes...isn't that the basic definitation of a support group???? You keep posting what you want to, we are here to support you...even when it is the wrong choice. So what if you have a few too many drinks, I won't judge you for that. So what if you eat french fries while PMSing...I won't judge you for that either. You are human and you will have times that you fail the plan. So long as you don't give up and keep getting support to get you through the tough times. Now, about the HIPAA laws...I don't think he had any right to air your dirty laundry out in publice. At the very least it was unprofessional. I would report him to the Risk Management or Patient Advocate Department of the hospial that he works for. Probably the one you had your surgery at. Don't let him get by with it.... --Kelly

"THANK YOU to all those lurkers out there that feel it is OK to go to my doctor and speak about me and my friends to them. THANK YOU SO MUCH for taking away the only support I have had for this entire journey. THANK YOU for making me afraid to make new friends and to reach out to others in the same situation as me. THANK YOU for proving once again what a petty bunch of people there are out in this world." That breaks my heart ... and I feel exactly the same way.

OHHH this ****** me off. I am so sorry someone made you feel this way Kathy. You were the main reason I stopped lurking and came out of my shell on this board. I'm actually a very quiet person but your posts made me feel very comfortable in posting what I feel. I've never posted on What did you eat... but I LOVE reading about this to get idea's and to motivate myself back into eating right. I am so sorry this happened to you and to whoever else was effected by what happened last night. It looks like I missed a duzy of a meeting. Please don't let this get you down. PLEEEEEEEEASE don't stop posting in that "Kathy-style" fashion I LOVE to read. Really-it breaks my heart that someone would do this to you or one of us. You want me to beat someone up for you--I can....unless that person is bigger than me....then I'll.............pinch him HARD for you Chris

Soooooooo...it's Kathy's we have to blame for you coming outta the shadows !!!!...

I prefer the phrase "coming out of the closet" thankyouverymuch

WELL.... I dont know about any meetings. But as a NEWBIE... I have something say... (I'm a woman afterall) WHOEVER caused this big ol mess... I am really sad for that! Because as a newbie, who has NOT had surgery yet.... the successes and failures that I read about help me know that I am not ALONE and have helped give me courage. ITS REALLY HARD TO DECIDE TO RISK YOUR LIFE FOR THE SLIGHT CHANCE OF BEING HEALTHIER!!!! AND ITS EVEN HARDER TO DO IT ALONE. IN FACT, DAMN NEAR IMPOSSIBLE!!!! So it really breaks my heart that gossiping about someones damn french fry to Dorito was the best thing to talk about at a public meeting, or dragging names into a public meeting... BUT IT IS A MISFORTUNE TO US ALL!!!! AND JUST FOR THE SNOOPERS INFORMATION.... THOSE OF US THINKING ABOUT SURGERY NEED TO KNOW THAT FALLING OFF THE WAGON WILL HAPPEN, BUT THAT THERE IS A PLACE OF FRIENDS TO GO AND TALK ABOUT IT WITH!!!! THIS BOARD IS SUPPOSED TO BE PLACE TO GET HELP!!! A PLACE TO TELL THE TRUTH AND KNOW THAT SOMEONE RELATES AND CAN TELL YOU THAT ITS OK!!! IT REALLY SUCKS THAT SOME FOLKS FELT THEY WERE CRAP DIDNT STINK AND LOUDED SOME FOLKS OUT!!! NOT COOL!!! ABSOLUTELY NOT COOL!!!!