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Sing it Dawn!!!

Rachel: MUMS the word. I would never betray a confidence. Just know that when you tell me something it goes no further than my ears. You are such a great lady, and you deserve the best! Don't forget that. Many prayers are with you. Terri

girl that sucks call me when u can. my cell is finally back working now.. i dont know of any cheap places.. everythings so damn expensive.. love ya.. and i agree with kathy.. boys are dumb! jen

Men will be boys unfortunately for all us WOMEN!!!! I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I had to learn about men cheating from my very own father at a really young age. Of course it turned me into a non-trusting person very early on. I've never given 100% of my love to anyone in fear of getting hurt (not even my husband). I hope for the best for you no matter what the outcome. I agree that the only thing you can do is pray about this because it is hard letting go of anger and rage. We strive to be like JESUS but forgiving is one of the hardest things in the world to do. Robin

Sweetie, I had to deal with this same issue about 6 years ago. After I followed him and kicked in the door, I thought I was going to loose my mind. Praying and crying is all that helped. We had been together for over 6 years, when things started not feeling right. I was having bad dreams about other women, and when I told him about it, he would tell me I was looking for trouble. I was looking for blood, that's what I was looking for!!! Then when we decided to get married, he felt the need to tell me about two other women. How lovely of him to be so honest. I wish he would have done that all along. It has taken over 6 years to start gaining back trust. I have just begun to be able to go places over night without him, since my surgery. Anytime things don't feel right, all of those old ghost come right back to me. I forgave him, but I decided not to marry him. I forgave him, but I have my eyes wide open all the time now. I will never fight for him again, not like that. Even though I love him, I have come to understand that the possibility of it happining again, is out there. He loves attention. And I know even though I felt all of the pain, it wasn't because of me and my Love, it was him. ALL HIM!!!!!!!!! I had to forgive him because I was going nuts. I tried to run one of the females over with my truck, I chaised one from Bi-Lo one day, across the parking lot until she jumped in her car, I himmed one up in Wal-mart, she was coming out as I was going in. I even had on my Postal uniform. I could have been locked up and lost my job. I had to get to a place where I could forgive them all (in my heart only, my head still wants their tails). The forgiveness wasn't for them, it was for me. My oldest son was with me in K-mart one day when I went after the one I chaised from Bi-Lo. He kept saying "no mom, you're gonna go to jail, please stop". That was some kind of example I set for him. I can't say that seperating is best or staying is best. Seperating, you'll drive yourself nuts wondering what he is doing and who he is with. Staying, it is so hard to resume a back to nornal life. My only suggestion is to pray. Non-stop pray. Ask God for his will. God wants us to stay married, but being unfaithful is one of the things he will forgive you for divorcing for. When you pray, you have to listen closely. I tend to hear what I want to hear. We have to listen to what God is saying, not what we want him to say. Are you saved? Is he? I am hurting for you. I am sorry "some men" can be such DOGS. If you need me, I am here for you. Just call. 843-708-1816. Deb

John and I are both saved. However, John will admit that sin got control of his life and he literally lived 2 different lives when the affair was going on. I don't think John is wanting to separate (such as a legal separation) more like just spending some time apart. He goes places without me, I go places without him. That kind of thing. I don't know what road we will go down but i appreciate your support. I have tried going to the Lord but it has been really hard and Satan really is working on my heart. I need to get back on track so I ask you for prayer for that. Thanks again. I may call you sometime. It's nice to be able to talk to others that have been through this. Rachel