Need Mental Help Today

Jennifer Williams
on 4/15/07 6:53 am - Goose Creek, SC
Hey guys, I'm feeling a little blue today. I have been having dreams here lately about this guy I had a huge crush on in middle and high school. I think that is why I feel depressed. Most days I'm fine about not having a man in my life yet and I know that once I loose this weight hopefully they will be knocking down my door. But I can't get this guy out of my head even though I have not seen him in over 10 years. Help me Lord to get through the day and stop this boohooing for nothing.
Jenn M.
on 4/15/07 9:29 am - Summerville, SC
Hey there, I feel a lot like you in many ways. My surgery is in June, and I hope that it will help my self confidence. It's hard for me to meet new people...and to meet those that I haven't seen in a while. I missed my best friend's son's baptism because i didn't want people to see me at the heaviest I've ever been. But remember (and I'll try to as well...), you are already beautiful. I will be praying for you....this too shall pass!
pattij013
on 4/15/07 10:06 am - Mauldin, SC
I know exactly how you feel, I am one of the only single people in our upstate group of friends and I know I did not have the surgery for the sole purpose of meeting Mr. Right but I thought it might help. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but I don't, I can just say I understand how you feel and I am here if you need to talk! Patti
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on 4/15/07 10:41 am - TBD, Guam
I can relate to all of you ladies. I am going to be 43 next month. i have loved the wrong men my whole life. I have always wanted a child desperately. I have no child, no love. I dont know if I ate to avoid those things from happening, or if they avoided me? Now I feel like I am on a race against time. But then I step back, and catch my breath and think.... wait.... STOP... what is your hurry... you have much to learn still.... and perhaps there is a plan after all? ohhhh I don't know. The whole patience thing just always comes into play. I get so emotional... In some regards I wonder, am I blessed or am I cursed? Or am I just "me?" I am free to do what I want, but then again, I have no security.. and that is scary as hell too... and I am lonely... so I am a slew of contradictions. haha. Time will tell.... (and perhaps a little faith?) So I will keep watching those love stories and who knows.. maybe I will meet a nice Southern guy.. hugs Jess
SusieQ
on 4/15/07 10:47 am - Goose Creek, SC
Hang in there Jennifer. The right guy is out there for you! Funny, I have days when I think it is so great to be on my own and my own "boss" and then there are days when I worry about who I will have to grow old with....but things happen for a reason. Keep on drinking your water and you will get there! Susann
Rachel K.
on 4/15/07 10:59 am - moore, SC
Ok Sweetie! Let me just tell you that I am married and am 6 months post op. I thought I was happily married until about 2 months ago when my husband slammed me with some terrible news and damaged me forever. I have always had very low self esteem and that caused me to be very clingy to the men in my life. My ex boyfriend finally got tired of it and i got on some good drugs to make me no so obsessive while dating my now husband. However, through this drama that we are going through I have discovered that my self esteem about my appearance is just as low at 160 as it was at 242. I am going to a shrink about these issues because it is causing a huge hinderance in the rebuilding of our marriage. (we are attending counseling) No matter what happens in our marriage, I have to get these issues under control of feeling like I have to have a man in my life to be complete and happy. It is not true. Having God in my life is the only man that I need to be happy. The others are just added bonuses!!! I also understand about getting a guy out of your head. I have my 10 class reunion this year and I'm looking forward to seeing all my old crushes. I just hope I don't start thinking about them too. I also know how deeply dreams can affect the way that you feel. Dreams are generally what was on your mind during the day. Lately, I have awaken in tears of a terrible nightmare, pissed at my husband, missing and ex boyfriend, and happy as a lark. It's weird. Sometimes I don't even want to wake up from those dream where I am happy. Just relax a little. Try not to be so hung up on this guy or do what I would do....Look him up and contact him...unless he is married. You never know until you try. Good luck Hon!! Rachel
Debbie62
on 4/15/07 1:24 pm - Summerville, SC
I still to this day have the "BEST" dreams of my first love. We were 15 when we met, and now at 44, we still have a deep conection. He is 2 years older than me. Sometimes I see him around town everyday, sometimes a year will go by without me seeing him, but when I do, you see that same spark between us. Trent knows him and our history well. He told his now girlfriend of 2 years, that I will always be the love of his life and the person he trust more than anyone in the world. He has ask me to leave Trent for him. I just can't back up. I have a great man and I know it. (Trent has a great woman too! ) We couldn't make it work for a reason, Terry loves women. Sometimes our dreams help us live in a fantacy that we couldn't live in real life. Sometimes I wake up wanting to chop Trent's head off, sometimes I have the best, and I mean best sex in my dreams with people I don't even know. Dreams are dreams. Never stop dreaming. I believe there is someone out there for everyone. With what we have all been through to get us in the position we got to with low self-esteem, it is not always easy for someone to Love us until we first learn to Love ourselves. We have to stop putting others first and start putting ourselves first. We rock ladies!!!!! We rock!!!!!!!!!! God will give us what we need and most likely what we want if we just do it his way. Deb
Jennifer Williams
on 4/16/07 12:32 am - Goose Creek, SC
Hey guys, I'm feelin much better today. I can feel it already. Thank you guys for your support...I guess it's great that I am not the only one that lets my dreams affect my real life. Thanks again. Jennifer
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