Seth up date

I was just on the verge of loosing my mind today, praying for God to protect Seth, when the phone rang. On the other end of the phone was a man's voice..."Hello Ms Grooms, this is Mr. (didn't catch the name), the principal at Summerville High School, Seth is at Tastee Freeze (across from the high school), he has been knocked unconcious". Just as I let out a blood curling screem, another man came on the phone," Hello Ms Grooms, this is Officer Bar, the resource police at the high school, Seth has fallen face first onto the pavement and is unconcious, but EMS is with him now". He could hear me freeking out and kept saying calm down, you can't drive like this, EMS has him, just calm down. Within seconds I was out of the door, in my truck and on the way to the high school. I called Susan, she ran out of work to meet me. I called another friend that was closer to him than I was, she got there first. The EMS had already taken him to MUSC Childrens ward. When I called Susan back, she had passed them on the interstate. This was about 12:30. She turned around and got to MUSC before I did. She signed all of the papers and told them to do what they needed to do. They thought she was his mom at first. I had them test him for all kinds of drugs or what ever might have been in his system. Do you know that Doctor had the nerve to tell me she could not test him just because I told her to. I said Bull****! I am his mom! There is a problem! Your job is to find out what it is! I said, oh he is 17 so he is an adult, but who do you send the bill to? ME! She him hawed around and said, well, since he fell, for no reason, I guess I can test him. I was already crazy from what has been happining, but don't tell me you are not going to do something like a simple test to help find answers. Needless to say, not only did they test him, but I got a copy of the report. Those of you who know me, know I am not shy and don't always take NO for an answer. I am so sick and tired of people always saying his is my responsibility, yet they try to tie your hands behind your back when you are trying to do the responsible thing. Thank God the test only showed he had been smoking pot. I say only because there are alot worse things I was afraid of, that he was doing. From the witness and the doctors report, this is what looks like happened. He had not slept much. He had not eaten. Emotionally his nerves were all shook up. He was waiting for someone to come out of the restroom because he felt like he was going to throw up, the next thing he remembered was a lady trying to wake him up. He passed out cold. When he passed out and fell, his face and head hit the side of a car, then hit the tire and rim and then hit the pavement. His face is pretty messed up. All kinds of boo boo's that I will post pictures of in a day or so. He has to wear a neck brace for at least 2 weeks, then go back to MUSC. Susan just dropped me off a little after 9pm. Can you say emotionally wore out and drained....We both are. I just know God answered my prayers. He stopped him in his tracks (maybe a little abruptly), but he stopped him and protected him. He is sore and has a real bad head ache, but he is alive. My God is so good!!! (Actually I hope his head and body hurts for several days, not because I don't love him, but I want him to be thankful he is alive to be able to hurt and feel). As far as this teacher of his, when I found out he was with the man, I didn't know exactly where he was, but I called the police. They made me promise I would wait on them because they didn't want me going into something blind. So I met them at a store and off we went. We passed them broke down on the side of the road, out of gas. Girl, you know I was out of my truck and up in this man's face before Trent could even get out of the truck. I was ready to take him down. The cops get in between us, and question him. He denied being with Seth, he said he picked him up walking down the road. Bull**** I said, you're going down. They questioned Seth and he spilled his guts. When the teacher found out, he admitted to picking Seth up, feeding him Vodka and Bud Light from noon till after 12 at night when I found them. They have charged the teacher with felony charges, and we go to court on Wed. Trent said I just have to leave my Wal-mart attitude at home so I don't go to jail too. (Will yall take up a collection for bail for me please?) Thank you all so much for you Love and prayers. I wish I could say it is over, but I know it is not. Please keep us in your prayers still. Since Seth didn't kill himself, please pray I don't ring his neck for him. Deb

Girl I am soo relieved to hear that he is ok. Hopefully this is going to be what you need to get him back on track, and yes I knowwhat you mean by only pot, cause there ARE MUCH worse things that he could hve been up to. We are actually having personal experience with some of those worse things in my family as we speak.. no one in my household or anything thank goodness.. but it's still family. And I will be more than happy to start up the collection for your bail money lol I wouldn't blame you if you did wind up in jail. that man had NO right to do what he did. Frightening when we can't even trust our kids with teachers. what in the hell is this world coming to??? If you ever need to vent feel free to give me a call! I'm always here. Laters Kylee

Deb, I will keep you in my prayers and ask others to pray for your family also. i tell you there is noone you can trust with your kids these days. I hope Seth learns a valuable lesson. But you know how kids are. I have some money put away if you need help with bail. Just make it a misdemnor. I don't have felony bail money ya know. I love you and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Think about what you have been going through and think about how God must feel seeing all his children out of control. The pain he must feel with all the sin in the world. What a wonderful God we have. Love Jennifer

Susan, I am so glad that you have your baby at home. For no matter how old they are and what they do, they are our babies. I don't remember if I had told you, the man that was arrested about three weeks ago for soliciting a minor and giving minors drugs and alcohol was my 16 year olds first tennis coach. He no longer coached John, but John worked for him on the weekends teaching adult classes and clinics. I had no fears about John going with him to tournaments and clinicsthroughout the state. He was the tennis pro at the Hamlets and worked for the GC rec center. It is so hard when you hold your children in this protected shell, but the people who we place our trust in fail us. Now that said, don't kill him yet. I know that God directed his fall and rescue yesterday and will hold you all today. Let me know what you need. Mary

I am so sorry about all ((((HUGS)))) I am glad they got the teacher. That is terrible. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Maybe this is the wake up call Seth needed. Julie

I am so glad you have him home and I am so PROUD of you for making that doctor test him. If he was so much of an adult, they would go after HIM for the bill!! That teacher has got to be one of the dumbest people on earth. What kind of teacher is he? Usually, teachers will only give minors drugs and alcohol for one reason. So you may have caught this jerk on time. Its just a shame that we can't even trust the people that teach our children nowadays. Its disgusting the way things have gotten. And tell Trent, some people don't understand anything but the "Wal-mart attitude." It may not be nice, but it gets things done. And honey, I will have a fundraiser to get you out of jail if I have to. That teacher is lucky you didn't CUT him. I really hope Seth sees whats happening. Teens are so blind to the obvious. I remember thinking I knew everything. Now I know better. I don't think people really appreciate their parents until they have their own kids. Then its PAYBACK time! Kathy

Okay Deb, I am going to respond to this post and your response to my earlier post..... First and foremost, YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE AS A MOM! The only thing we can do is try to teach them what is right and wrong and at a certain point (when they hit puberty, I think), they start making their own decisions and all we can do is hope the values we have tried to instill stick. You are a wonderful person and Mom and don't let this make you feel otherwise. We have all been through trials as parents - some worse than others, but we do our best....and you have always been there for Seth, remember that! That said, I am so glad Seth is okay and I do hope this teaches him a lesson. This is a tough time but in years to come Seth will be glad you were tough and stuck to your guns... Please let me know if I can do anything for you.....I will keep you, Seth and your entire family in my thoughts and prayers! Susann

Wow, you have been through so much. I read your other post that you were heading away for the weekend too. I hope that you are getting some much needed R&R and some peaceful time with your children. Your strength is amazing. You make me proud to know you through this site and I look forward to the day when I can stand before you and shake your hand. They say that parenting is the hardest job you will have in your life and this is just another example of one of the many tests that there are. Peace and friendship to you sweet Deb, hugs, Jess

Hi Deb, Kids can drive you crazy one minute and then charm your pants off the next. I was lurking on the main board just a minute ago and saw where someone had a child in Teen Challenge and went to their website to see what it was about because I have a very unmotivated 17 year old. It is a Christian based residential program for addictions and they say they have a high success rate. There happens to be one in Georgetown if you want to look into it. I know its tough being a mom and I tell my boys all the time if you get caught doing something stupid, don't call me cause I'm not bailing you out. So far its working, not that they haven't done stupid stuff, just nothing illegal. And I pray every day that they keep it up. Good Luck to you and I'll keep your whole family in my prayers. Carol 08/01/03 278/145

Deb - you & Seth are truly blessed by God above! I want you to know that you are being hugged as I type. Good Lord, girl - you are one heckuva mom to go thru this without committing murder. You WILL get thru this & Seth WILL know some day how great of a mom he is lucky to have... Take a moment for yourself, breathe deep, say a short prayer, and get some rest. You are a wonderful person, awesome mom, and faithful to boot! Hellen