Please pray for me...

I think I am about to loose my mind... Can someone please tell me again why I had children? I won't get all into it right now, but my 17 year old son, whom most of you have met, is about to drive me nuts. What are kids these days thinking when they make the choices they make...Oh I know, they aren't thinking!!! Drinking and getting drunk with your school teacher, doing drugs, cutting school, running away from home, oh, I could go on and on. I don't know where he is or what he is doing, or if he's safe or making the usual stupid choices, but what I do know is I am about to loose my mind with worry. THE POLICE ARE NO HELP!!! All they want to tell me is that he is 17, still enough of a minor that I am responsible and yet an adult and I am not. What is a parent to do? Oh I am suppose to let him come and go as he pleases, even if getting drunk and doing drugs is involved. I don't think so. I have another child that is 100% different, loves school, sports and church, and wants to go to college and is already prepairing for college while in the 8th grade. I can't let him suffer from the other son's actions. There is no way I am going to allow him to be influenced by all that bad crap. So then the police just say let him go...he's 17. Oh, I forgot, it is just that easy to open the door and let your not so bright child go out into this crazy world. Just forget about him and let him go. Be for real. I am a mom. Most of us mom's aren't that cold hearted. I know you have to let them fall...but off of a cliff? Just please pray for me to day, I need strength. I know my God wouldn't put more on me than I can handle, but I think I am almost there. I feel so helpless. Susan left work yesterday and stuck with me like glue while we went to see a judge, talked to the police and searched for him all over town. That's why we missed group last night. I am so blessed to have her in my life. She and Trent help me keep my sanity. And please pray for Seth, that God will wrap his loving arms around him and keep him safe. Thank yall for letting me vent. The next time you see me I might be sporting a pretty little white jacket that ties in the back.

Deborah I have an 11 year old son and I can only imagine what you must be going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you and please let me know if I can do anything for you even if it's just to talk. Melanie

Thank you.

first of all the TEACHER should be brought up on charges. i am in shock over that one. i will say a prayer for you and your family. my oldest is only 11 so for now, i am spared but i know my day is looming. and no, you can't let him fall off a cliff. i don't have words of wisdom just thoughts and prayers for you.

I go to court on Wed for this. They have felony charges up on this guy. At first he kept saying he didn't do anything. Then once my son spilled his guts, the man admitted everything...on the police camera. Now he can't even deny anything.

Deborah, I don't even know where to start. But let me just say that I am sorry that you are going through this. It is sad that this is the world we live in. If everyone just "let their kids go" because they are 17 the world would be a much worse place than it already is(crime and drug wise). If our kids went out and commited crimes and the police were looking for them it would be a different story......"why are you letting your child run and do as he pleases?". Definitely do not let go. Hopefully he will learn a lesson. I'm sure your younger son is learning from all this....what NOT to do anyway. If it were me I would be going crazy also. I think we all feel like we need a little white jacket sometimes. My son is only 14 but I feel a lot of struggle coming on in the next few years. If you need anything call me 871-7882, I am home all day usually. God Bless you and your boys(Trent too). Theresa (Tina) Z

Thank you so much. Can I interest you in a 17 year old son. Really, he's yours!!!!

Oh, Deb, I am so sorry for your pain and suffering. It is so hard to worry about other people esp loved ones when they are out of control. I have not yet been blessed with children but have a few nephews/neice and see them making these mistakes with drugs/alcohol and sometimes I want to ring their little necks and tell them to STOP and think. I know how I used to be (being a product of the 70s/80s) partying... etc. But we really only had pot and a few other things then. These days the kids seem to have so many other things at their finger tips. You must want to follow your children EVERYWHERE. You must know that you have such a big heart and a beautiful soul/spirit and your children have this instilled in them too. Because of YOU and what you have taught them, they have been brought up right. They will do the right thing... they just have to trip up a little bit and learn from their mistakes. And YES... this teacher is TERRIBLY wrong and should be charged. Some children just take a little longer. Sometimes it takes into their 20s/30s... but they get there eventually. hugs Jess

You are so sweet Jess. I know God is teaching me something. Maybe it's me that needs to see the light just as well as Seth. He is a well mannered kid, sweet and loving, and then all of a sudden, all of the teenage boy stupid stuff is there, times 2. My 14 year old will be graduated from college, married with a killer job, and Seth will still be living at home. Oh, crap, what a thought.

Hey Deb, Im so sorry for what you are going through. Its so hard today raising kids in this wacked out world, all you want to do it keep them safe and protect them but as soon as they get to an age where they just want to do what they want, it just gets that much harder. Believe me I have a 25 yr old and a 14 yr old both sons and sometimes my 14yr old acts more mature then the older one. He has made many bad choices in his life and my husband and I are always trying to help him out and trying to get him to understand that he has to think and try to make better choices. no matter how old your kids get you still want to help and protect them. I just hope one day he wakes up and realizes what we tried to get through to him. I wish you lots of luck and hope your son is doing better. Just wanted to let you know your not alone. God Bless Denise