I am having a terrible day

Sorry, I always seem to be whining. I just got called into my supervisor's office and got talked to for 30 minutes over everything that I do wrong. Some of it was mistakes, yes I made them, can't promise I won't make them again. I had asked for some feedback before evaluation time, but was not expecting a "coaching" session. The killer is that she said that I have way to many personal calls and talk about inappropriate things. I really do not. I don't go on breaks and will make calls then. If I get a cell call I never talk long, and don't get too many besides family. Maybe this is crazy and I just don't want to take responsibility, but my supervisor is obese. She is someone who doesn't "believe" in WLS. I am no beauty queen, but I think she has hated watching me go through plastics. My coworkers (except the guy) are ALWAYS on the phone. Heck, I know all about my supervisor's personal life because her office is across from me. I can't decide if some of her personal feelings affected this meeting or if I deserved it all. At least I didn't cry Mary

Mary I am sorry you are having a bad day Here comes a giant {{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}} for you!!!!! I hope the rest of your day is better!!!! Melissa

Thanks Melissa, I really needed that hugs. Mary

(((((HUGS)))) I am so sorry Mary. I know how you feel, see my post about the medical field. I also had my eval a couple of weeks ago and it really did not go well in my mind. There may be some jealous feelings on your supervisors part, especially if she has been so vocal about your decision to have WLS and plastics. I hate it for you because I had a similar situation with a co-worker. It took me blowing up at her to get her to calm down. But of course you can not blow up at your supervisor. Hang in there. 5pm is just 30 minutes away and you are out of there for the day. Go home relax, take a and all those negative feelings away. Julie

Thanks Julie, Things are better today, but she is off for the rest of the week. Now that I have calmed down, I realized that I did not ask her for statistics. I need to see how many cases I routed correctly and do the percentage. I'm sure that its under 1% errors. That made me feel better. I can't wait to ask her because I feel sure that she doesn't have those figures and will need to get them. Mary

OMG, Mary..... here is a triple hug for you!! and I am so upset for you. I totally understand. I cried all day on and off..... so I cried enough for both of us... lol. A girl in my office had wls a year before me. She didnt follow the program. I did. She told everyone she was having it... I chose to keep it quiet, but I had gone to her for support. Well... she told everyone that I had the surgery out of 'spite' and in the long run.. it just made her look bad (like she was a gossip) and that was ok. I just never trusted her again with anything personal. I feel a little bit bad for her. I continue to try..(with the exception of the easter candy disaster pig out!! lol) and I am following the best I can. She has not. She obviously resents me. It is so hard when you have co-workers that are resentful. It is equally hard to try and be friends. I have often said that I should always try to get along with people I work with, but be very careful and keep boundaries. I try not to let them know too much about my personal life. I now need plastics and am at odds trying to figure out how to get around this. I need to get it done so I can relocate to South Carolina as soon as possible.... (and get a job at your office... lol j/k) Oh, I cant wait to meet you. I just know we are going to get along so well!

You are so right about keeping yor personal stuff out of the office. I am going to follow that more diligently. Good luck with your move and stuff. Keep in mind, we have great PS's down here. Mine rocks.!!!!!! Mary

Thanks, Mary! How is your day going today? Any better? I hope so! Is your PS out of Charleston? I woke up with a headache today, but I am trying to stay calm. So far I have not cried today... so that is a good thing.... lol. We are expecting SNOW tomorrow..... so far Boston is looking less and less appealing by the second.... haha.. how is the single guy ratio for women in their 40s... (women with wrinkles? !) see... my sense of humor is coming back too.... big hugs!! Jess

mary thats awful!! especially if its from descrimination!!! i hate when i feel ppl are treating me differently because of having WLS .. Sorry she was a witch!! and *HUGS* jen

HUGS back at you. I am better now, but you always make me smile Jen. Have a great day!!!! Mary