What was your worst moment???

Before you had wls what was the worst thing that happoned to you? 2 Days ago I went out with my husband and the tiny girls (had to be about 16) asked my husband why he was with me and if he wanted he could ditch me and leave with them!!!!!!!!! The worst part is my husband thought it was funny ( an ego boost) needless to say we went home and any way just had to vent. What kind of stuff did you guys go through???

I've been divorced for 14+ years. But there was this guy who I "dated" like about 10 years ago. He never would go out in public with me...he always came over to my house. Anyways he used to say a lot of hurtful things....that I had a good job, a nice house, was very pretty, etc, that I was perfect in every way except one, if only I would lose 50 pounds, then I would be perfect. After we broke up, I heard that he said that he could never love me....that no one could....that I was too fat to love. (there is a small part of me that trys to believes that.....I have to fight her every day!!). This guy hurt me a whole lot more than my ex husband (who left me for a girl 15 years younger than me) ever thought about doing. Hugs, Dianne

Sounds to me like there were some young girls in SC that are lucky they didn't get snatched bald headed! Try not to get too upset about it. If he wanted to be with trashy girls with no respect for themselves, he wouldn't be with you. Right? And if he DOES, good riddance. Who needs that grief? Kathy

Well, I have always been told the famous words, you have such a pretty face, as I am sure most of you have. But..the other night my friend Susan and I were out eating dinner and in walks my cousand and her husband. We are pretty close cousands and I could not believe her dissrespect. After she sits right beside us, and we have a small conversation, she has the guall to turn around, rub my tummy, and ask me "what about all that weight you were suppose to be loosing"? Now she isn't a small person herself, but she didn't even know my friend, and to open up her mouth and vomit those words. As usual, being embarrassed, I just smoothed it over. Now that I have thought about it, I should say sometihing to her the next time I see her. I should have told her I could loose my fat tummy, but she is stuck with that ugly face...oh, I just ment to think that, not say it out loud. One day when this butterfly finnishes its transformation, to see the look on her face, will be good enough for me. Deb G

Uh, not that!!! I think you just got insight to how shallow your family seems to be on looks. WHY are they hung up on looks so much? What values do they have? My hubby would have never said that to me, or my kids. I am sorry for that and I can tell you I have seen more divorces in WLS people than anywhere else. My hubby was wonderful and supported me 100% no matter what. He brought me all my meals every 3 hrs with my vitamins, charted my fluids and protein and really kept me on track. I swear I would not have done as well if it were not for him. I think there are problems there that go beyond your weight, I find weight is the issue they use to get what they want. If your hubby is unhappy now, then he will be when you lose weight, but it will be called something else. Many hubby's are jealous. They want the hot wife, but when you finally become the hot wife, they say you are not attracted to him anymore. They are very insecure and its ashame, because its THEIR problem, not yours, but they are blaming you. So don't be a pawn, and next time your daughters say that, you can slap them across the face for me. I would never stand for that insolent behaviour and its not tolerated. My kids, boys who are 20 and 19 are so great and are good Christian boys and really waited on me hand and foot during my recovery and I just had plastics last month and were also soooo supportive then. Go kick your hubby and call his bluff and then go re-train your daughters and maybe they need to see that looks aren't everything. What if you had an accident or they did, and they were disfigured for life? How would they feel if someone said something ugly to them? Not right at all, and sorry to say, it goes back to the parents and their upbringing and how they were taught what was important and what is not. In our house we live by this: God First, then family, then work and school, everything else is non important, and I have always told my boys this: Find a girl who loves Jesus more than you, and you will never be unhappy ;) Good Luck to you, and yes, that was a heartless comment and not one that I uphold. Sorry for the long email, it really insensed me. Deb

huh the girls were not my kids they were hittin on my husband

eeewwwwh!! So, I would slap my hubby and tell him to take a hike!! I just assumed that if they were 16, then they were your kids, that was hard to decipher. Deb

Nope kinda hard to have 16 yearolds when your 20 lol. And It's not my husbands fault they were hitting on him. It's his fault that he enjoyed it. I'm still mad about it but I tend to get over things quickly. thanks for the support. Cari

Oh, I have a hard time reading some of these posts.....you're 20... and the lady above, maybe English is not her 1st language, but it took me like 5 minutes to decipher cousands was cousins. My bad. Deb

Cari, make sure you let your husband know that it upset you that he did not care enough about you to stand up for your honor. Don't hold it in when things upset you, let him have it. Let him know that you did not find it funny and that if he does it again you will have the last laugh while he is picking himself up off the ground. As far as the little chicks who made the comment, well they are kids so let it go, You can't snatch them a new a@#hole without going to jail so don't bother to dignify their statements with a comment. I would advise to avoid going to places where kids hang out, try going out to clubs/restaurants with a more mature crowd. Even the tiny women in there will behave like adults and even if they think it, they won't say it out loud to you or your husband. I told people off every chance I got when they told me "you have such a pretty face" I would ask them if they thought I was a smiley face? they would often ask "what do you mean?" of course I then said I do have a body attached to my face. They would turn beet red and apologize. I liked to make people feel just as bad as what they tried to make me feel because I'm overweight. I also had people ask when was I due? I would tell them the day they are getting their new glasses cause I'm not pregnant! Again beet red faces and apologies. I'm a little under 3 weeks out from surgery and down about 21-22 lbs so I'm on my way to "IN YOUR FACE!!!" stage. Stay strong hun, you will get sweet revenge when you are hotter than you are now and your confidence goes through the roof. Robin