I'm so discouraged....

I am 4 weeks post-op today...and as of today.. I've lost 21 pounds.. I'm so discouraged...and that "1" pound on the 21.. keeps going back and forth... I know it's not going to all just melt off over night, but damn... I was hoping it would come off a little faster then this..... did anyone else have this problem.. ?? I went all last week without dropping ONE POUND... am I doing something wrong ??? It's driving me

yes this is all normal,,,no we dont like it,,,but it didnt get on us in a short time and its going to take a while to come off,,,but it will,,,,you might want to check out your november board,,,they are right where you are,,,, sandy

Stephanie, You're not doing anything wrong! I had the same situation. What I ended up doing was to force myself to stop weighing, I had to ask my husband to hide the scales. I felt like I was banging my head against a wall, and that I'd never lose the weight..... Hang in there! It's normal, and you'll make it through fine. Lisa

I AM A VERY SLOW LOSER & THAT HAS NEVER CHANGED NO MATTER WHAT "TRICKS" I HAVE TRIED. WE EACH LOSE DIFFERENTLY. TAKE A LOOK ON MY PROFILE ... I THINK IT'S AT THE BOTTOM, I'VE NOTED MY MONTHLY LOSSES & SOMEWHERE IN THE MIDDLE OF MY PROFILE, WHEN I WAS REALLY FRUSTRATED, I WROTE AN E-MAIL TO DR BYRNE & NOTED MY WEEKLY LOSSES. MY 1st 6 WEEKS WERE FAIRLY GOOD, BUT AFTER THAT, IT WAS SOOOOOOOOOOO SLOW WITH SO MANY STALLS THAT I QUIT COUNTING. THE REAL POINT IS THAT I HAVE STILL LOST 106 #s EVEN THOUGH IT TOOK ME TWICE AS LONG AS MOST OTHERS TO DO IT. SO, 106 #s IS STILL 106 #s. THERE'S NO WAY TO CHANGE YOUR BODY'S ABILITY TO LOSE WEIGHT FASTER. YOU MUST MAKE PEACE WITH THE PROCESS & JUST GO WITH THE FLOW, AS THEY SAY. STICK TO THE "RULES"; DON'T CHEAT & YOU WILL LOSE THE WEIGHT ... FAST OR SLOW DOESN'T MATTER. LOSING IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS. AS FOR YOUR 21 #s ... I HAPPEN TO THINK THAT IS AWESOME ... YOU'RE AT ALMOST A QUARTER OF A CENTURY, GIRL, & IN ONLY 4 WEEKS. BE SURE TO MEASURE OR TRY ON SMALLER CLOTHES WHEN YOU ARE STALLING. YOU WILL SHRINK BIG TIME! KEEP UP THE GREAT EFFORT, MS STEPHANIE ... REMEMBER, THIS IS A LIFE-LONG JOURNEY! GOD BLESS YOU ... DAWN & NICk

Thank you Dawn.. I needed that... your words of encouragement are like a huge HUG..

Stephanie, I strongly agree with the poster who said to hide the scale...the quickest way for me to become discouraged is to weigh more than once every ten days to two weeks. Take care and 21 lbs is nothing to sneeze at either! Michael

Any time Sweetie ... We're all in this together!

Hey Stephanie, Try reading back on some of my posts from November to today, and look at my profile. I have had several stalls since my surgery on Halloween. I believe the first big one was at 4 weeks. They seem like they last an eternity, believe me, I had been having a stall since November 30. The scale finally moved down 2 pounds today. I get all my encouragement from the wonderful people on here, and just to know we aren't alone when it comes to slow weight loss really does help. I think being heavy and failing at diets, makes me want everything to happen yesterday, lol. I'm working on this OCD problem with the scale. I did put it up for a while but it was like a big piece of cake calling my name and I got it back out and started right back to obsessively weighing again. Your weight loss so far is probably right on target, so don't get discouraged, ( ha ha! now I'm telling you what everyone tells me). Take care and best wishes for a Glorious Christmas and Very Happy New Year!!! Mary

Bless your heart sweetie! Oh how I remember those days! Wait, I'm just got over one of those days!! I stalled a lot between 2-4 weeks. It sucked. Everyone told me to hang in there. But, I didn't believe them. I think we are so set on seeing numbers...and that is sooo sad!! I haven't been able to part with my scale yet...but hiding it might be the best thing for you. Keep doing what you are doing and hang in there. Rachel

Stephanie- I'm SURE you're doing all the right things, because you've lost 21 pounds in a month! It's gone and it's not going to come back! Some of us lose faster than others. (sigh) These stalls are SO frustrating, but your body needs to take a little rest before the weight loss starts again. Remember, you're still healing from major surgery and your body has had quite a shock. Rachel is right. It's best to stay away from the scales, because all they do is frustrate you. Put them away for at least a week. Just keep doing the right things. This is a lifestyle change, not just a temporary diet. Concentrate on how well you've done and give yourself a pat on the back. You deserve it!! Be gentle with yourself and pamper yourself instead of beating yourself up. Love, B