Co-Workers part 2

I just got a call from that coworker who irrated me this morning and are you ready for this .... SHE SAID SHE WAS SORRY!!!!!! I can not believe it. She never does that. She always thinks she is in the right. I am amazed and thankful! I guess it is true people can change. So needless to say we are back on speaking terms...until the next time. But trust me in no way am I going to discuss my weight loss or clothing size with her unless SHE asks. Julie

Julie, I had this same problem with someone quite unexpected as well- my mother!!! As a result of her "acting out" I too decided not to discuss my weight loss, clothes size or anything regarding my weight loss journey. Although it is sad that people are unable to reciporcate your feelings of good wishes for thier own weight loss, it is a reality not only of life, but our lives as a result of this surgery! Just for the record, even when she asks watch your answers.... Sorry this happened to you, but its ok cause NOTHING IS AS BAD AS FAT WAS... AND... NOTHING IS AS GOOD AS SKINNY IS!!! Best wishes, Towana

Thanks Towana... I am sorry your Mom did that to you. My parents have been nothing but supportive from the very beginning and I am so thankful for that. I think one reason, she, my co-worker, got so upset is that she said that there was no way that I was going to get smaller than she was. That is why she started her diet. And now I am smaller than she is, I think it all stems from jealousy. She also said she had a bad Thanksgiving and is not looking forward to the upcoming holiday season with all the food. She does not want to get back to where she was before. We will see. And you are right NOTHING IS AS GOOD AS SKINNY IS... Thanks Julie

I'm glad to hear she was grown up enough to own up to her childish attitude! I agree...don't discuss it anymore unless she wants to know. No need to set yourself up for more disappointment! (((HUGS))) Elizabeth

saw the first post then this one ,you dnt need friends to bring you dwn all the time, life is way to short ,my own sis use to be happy for me & call me & ask how things are going now she wont even ask so I quit telling her, I know how you feel we are so exctied it is helping us & ppl just dnt want to hear it cause they are jelious. size 6 yea for you can not wait to say that yeaaaaaaaa for you you can come on the board & brag all you want I need to hear that it helps & inspires me

Thanks Rebecca... Hopefully I will be making a reappreance at the LCBB meetings. I am hoping to get there on Thursday for a bit. If not I have the Christmas party on the schedule so I know I have to go. I have some pictures on my profile if you want to check them out. It is amazing the support I have gotten! It has been wonderful. Thanks Julie

Yes, I agree. You should not mention your size or weight loss to your friend at work. However, feel free to mention HER dress size as often as you like.

I needed that this morning. Thanks Eddie. She started Metabolic Medical Center diet right before I had surgery and said to me one day that she was not letting me get smaller than she is. Well, I am smaller now so jealousy here it comes. Julie

She realized she had bad manners, but her inner-most thoughts and feelings came out and you need to remember that and also that she showed you her true feelings. Now that she did that, keep up your guard, and keep everything else private, no more this is my size, weight, etc...because she is in huge competition with you and there is no need for it. Even if she asks you, just don't answer. If she says how much do you weigh, you say "I don't know, I jus****ch my sizes" If she says "What size are you now, you say, "Oh its not changed much". NONE OF HER BUSINESS the problem is you made it her business, but she took it away, so you have to take it back. NONE OF HER BUSINESS.....she is NOT your friend no matter what she says. You have to let her go and just be cordial now. PS, my friends both talk to me now, but its not the smae and they still don't treat me well, so I have just cut them both off, easier now that we moved to CA, but still hurts. WE LOVE YOU!! Deb

I say just the opposite you guys. Julie I think you should mention your size and weight loss as often as you feel like it. You are not the one with the problem so why should you change? We are always trying to keep the peace but I think it's time to rock the boat a little. If she doesn't want to hear it, she should be adult enough to tell you that. Don't surpress your joy so that she can have hers. That's not the way we should live anymore. We have already wasted years not enjoying our lives, it's time for change. Make yourselves happy and those who love you and want the best for you will be right there sucking up a little of that joy for themselves. Everyone else can just leave you all alone. Stay strong, dont be boastful but do reward/acknowledge/ and celebrate your success as much as you see fit.