Co-workers...URG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am on the verge of tears right now I shared with one of my co-workers, work friend, that I was now in a size 6 pants. She said, I cant see you as a size 6. And I said well these are. Then she gets all mad me and accuse me of rubbing it in that I have lost off this weight. I looked at her and said why cant you be supportive and be happy for me. You know when she tells me about her weight loss, she did not have WLS, I am supportive and happy for her. She says I am always in there rubbing it in. She also asked why I keep telling her, I said becuase I wanted to share the good news with a friend. I guess I know now she is not my friend. I have spent the better part of 3 years listening to her complain about her husband and son. She is such a negative person and can not find the good things in life. If something does happen that is good, it is only the result of something bad. I was so happy last week and now I know why, I was away from here! I guess that speaks volumes of this place. Thanks for reading the vent. Julie

Well, you know what I always say to that kind of stuff: "Don't hate me 'cause you AIN'T me..." It's hard for people who are struggling to see us as successful. Alot don't realize we are struggling too. As a matter of fact I am jealous too. A size 6?!?! Woo hoo! You must be teeny tiny! I'm getting into some 8s now. So I hate you too. Don't be sad about it. Let it roll of your back. Her reaction has nothing to do with you. It all has to do with her own insecurity. You are doing great. Be happy for yourself. Kathy

Now I am going to cry. THANK YOU KATHY!!! That was so sweet and well appreciated. I know it had nothing to do with me but I guess I am one of those sensitive people that takes everything personally. I have been working on that but when it is a direct attack that in not true. It really makes me beyond mad Thanks again Kathy Julie

Awwe, Julie, I'm so sorry she is acting that way! Please know it is her problem...jealousy is an ugly thing. You have done SO wonderfully...a size 6??? WOW!! I will never be in that size. lol Don't let her bring you down...you deserve your own cheering section! ;) Hugs! Elizabeth

Thank you... It was a nice suprise when she said she was sorry. I will tell you I never thought I would be a size 6 either but here I am. And I know it was jealousy but it still bothered me the same. Thanks for being in my cheering section, Julie

Julie, I am so so sorry that your co-worker is so jealous is you. Just remember that you were the one that was strong enough to take control of your life and have WLS. Others are negative and jealous because they don't have the courage to take charge of their life and make the changes that they need to. A size 6... WOW... I am so proud of you. I remember when I saw you just after your surgery, did you ever think you'd be in a 6. You go girl!!!!! Mary

Thanks Mary... I appreciate it all. You will never know. And No I thought size 12 or 10 would be great and now a 6. I am beside myself. If you have told me a year ago I would be here, at this place, I would have laughed and said 'Yea right, HA' By the way, I now have pitcures on my profile. Thanks Julie

Let me tell you the first rule of WLS besides losing weight... You will lose family and friends. Do you know I called a friend of mine the day after surgery and told her I was okay and out of surgery and her response was..."I don't support you in this, so I can't be your friend anymore" ???? What the heck??? I was SO hurt. I have gotten to where we tal****asionally over Emails, but that is it. She just thought I was taking the "easy way out". I also had a "Christian" friend who I had known for years and years who went to Curves, lost lots of weight and said it was the way to do it, and because I had this surgery, she was not supportive at all. I have YET to understand why family and friends can't understand. My mom and dad were NOT supportive of this either, I knew all of this going into surgery, but I had to do it. Now my dad said its okay and is proud of me. Both of my friends I had known for over 10 years each and they knew how I suffered, have seen me lose and gain weight, so why they were so unhappy I lost weight via WLS, is just unreal...surreal to me. SO, after all of that it boils down to jealousy I believe. They just can't understand why we had to lose people who supposedly cared for us through thick and thin. You know lots of marriages end as well, but thank God my husband is 150%, no 1000% supportive of me having this surgery. Its hard, and my life has changed both good and bad. I lost friends, but like you, are they really our friends??? I don't think so!! Just give it to God, and realize you can't lose something that was never really there. You invested your time in this person, and your feelings, so just let it go. She is jealous that you lost it fast, and what she thinks is easier than she did, and she is jealous. She sees that you will never gain the weight back, and you have control over your life now....but do we really?? We will always struggle the way she has to, so no worries. Let it go. You will be fine.....we can all do with new friends! Deb

I am sorry about your friends reaction about your surgery. Until yesturday, I have been very lucky with my friends and family supporting me through all this. She is the only negative person I have run into and I count my self lucky. This co-worker has never been one of my favorite people in this world but it can get so boring that it does help to have somene to talk to. But I have never counted her as a friend, nor, after yesturday, ever will. Thanks Julie

You go girl! A size "6" Geeezzzz I won't ever see that nor do I ever remember being that little. I'm sorry about your friend and agree with everyone else.. just let it go.. if she is your friend she will come around. I've not had my surgery yet let alone if I will beable to. I won't know until January when my husbands insurance goes in effect. In the mean time I'm doing other things. I have my first appt. with my surgeon on Jan. 19th if all goes well with insurance. Like everyone else. I see that some people think its the easy way out. Just the other day my step mother told me all I needed to do is change my eating habits. I told her I did that already. She said why not do Nurtri-system or something like that. Well again I told her I did that to and looked fabulous but gained it all back plus more. I explained to her that my health is bad and I can't do this myself anymore and if this is what it takes to be healthy then this is what I want. My husband was a little negative about it until I finally got him to go to a meeting with me and me the hospital staff. After wards he said he would support me 100% as long as I promise to do what they tell me to do. Anyway... you go girl! Keep up the good work! Cathy