I am sooo Lonely again...Hubby gone

Well, He's gone again...and the worst part is, that now he is out of the Air Force, I never know when he will be back. At least in the Air Force, you knew it was 4 weeks later, or whatever, so now its living on the edge, leaving, and it can be as long as next week before I know anything. Gotta get in the swing of this new job! I am so happy he has a job with Boeing, flying, which he loves...but its going to be tough making it work out here. The deal is I will deal with it and we will live here and just make it work out, but I gotta getta life! I am soooo bored!!! I enjoy my time alone, but not continually. I am a big baby!! I think too, I am going to be 40 next week, and its freaking me out and making me sad I feel sooooo outta touch, like I don't feel 40, I feel kinda like a 25 yr old sometimes, but time has flown from 30 to 40 that it made my head spin! I am trying to cross stitch Rainbow Row, like 4 feet long, and that is a lot to do, but I like to be around people. Just pray for me to have the grace to live this lifestyle now of being alone a lot!! My kids are older and in college, so next fall will be hard for me. Love you all!! Thanks for the support! With God's Grace, I can do anything!!

Didnt you hear.... 40 is the new 30! I can completely understand about being lonely. Most of my friends are married or involoved with some. Granted they are great about not excluding me from things, but it does get frustrating. I got some comp tickets to a Spoleto event and could not think of who to invite. I finally asked my Mom and she went with me. Let me know how the cross stitching of Rainbow Row goes. I have one of Rafeal's Cherbs that I did years ago, it took 6 mths. Would have been shorter but I took a long break. I use to love to cross stitch. I just do not have the time anymore. Hang in there. You still have us! Julie

Deborah Sorry to hear your husband is gone. I hope you find out very soon when he will be home. This way you will have plenty of time to plan your reunion!!! When you feel lonely just call on us and we will help you get through it!!!!! Melissa

Hey Deb, I know the feelings. My hubby has been so busy and my life is so stretched with a 15 year old and 4 year old and I've gone back to college. I have started knitting, My friend Kelly (bariatric buddy) and I try to get together over a weekend or some night at at starbucks, we call it stitch and ***** We knit, chat, and drink lattes. I'll let you know our next time, its great. Hope to see you are LCBBs soon. I haven't been in a while, I have class on Monday and Wed nights so its hard to be gone on a Thursday also. I'm thinking about you. So glad the pain is better hugs, Mary

Hi Mary - I miss seeing you and Kelly, but it sounds like you have your hands full! I have seen so many gorgeous knitted things, I wish I had time to take it up again. It's so peaceful and rhythmic. There are two companion books on knitting(by the same author) at the front of AC Moore or Michael's ( I get them confused) that catch my eye every time I go in there (which is another addiction in itself!) and I keep saying, "No!!, No!!, you can't!!", but you should check them out if you have a chance. They have beautiful edgings and rosettes and special design things that I've never seen before. They look almost like sculpture. I always wait for tthe 40% off coupons to buy books. It's been SO long since I've knitted, but I all ready have too many projects calling my name. The yarns are so beautiful now. Don't get me started....I have no willpower. I hope you and your family are doing well. Give Kelly a big hug from me. I saw her not too long ago and she looked terrific! When is her wedding? Hope you can make it one Thursday soon. We try to make it every week, but I've been having some health issues. Love, B

Oh Barbara, give in to the urge. Knitting is the best excuse ever to watch trashy tv and it keeps your hands busy so that you are not eating. I am headed to Micheal's during my lunch break!!!! Lots of hugs, I hope to see you soon Mary

Hey sorry to hear about hubby being gone. I know how that is all to well. I am more than happy to join up for some lunch or some cofee anytime if you just need to get out. Only 6 more days till our bday. Hav eyou made any plans yet? I'm thinking as of now I'm ujust going to go out for a day of pampering.. Anyway let me know. ~~Kylee

Deb...I live far from you but if you are the Columbia area...email me and I will send you my phone number and you can come visit. I need a newer car so I am afraid to drive too far with the one we have or I would drive down and see you. I love charleston. You are right..you can do all things in His strength. I will pray for you...... Joan M

Hope you're feeling better! Does Boeing offer any family discounts for flying? Maybe you can visit him? We'll have to get together to celebrate your birthday! I'm going to be 51 next month. I know what you mean about time flying by. A friend of mine who is a little older than me told me that my 40's would be my favorite years, and she was right. I didn't have Walker until I was 35, so I still have him at home and was not footloose, but your 40's are when you really blossom, and look how you're starting out - with your weight loss and a new body to come! I'd do them over in a heartbeat! Everything is going to work out great for your family. I just know it. I have a feeling you're going to get more involved with the expansion of your church or weight loss surgery. Hope to see you tomorrow night. Love, B

Hey Deb, I feel your pain as far as being lonely. I'm 48, have been divorced for 13 years (with no prospects in sight...my dad says I'm too picky, but I won't settle...I just want a man who loves Jesus more than me) and my son, who I basically lived my life for, graduated from high school this year (just like your son!!). He doesn't need "Mommy" anymore. And I'm majorly feeling the "empty nest" syndrome. I'll admit that I pour myself into my work, because I get some sort of satisfaction and self-worth from it (both before surgery and after). I know turning 40 is big....but think back to turning 39. You are a completely different person this year...more life, more energy!!. Maybe you can use your experiences to help others getting ready to have surgery. I'm only 4 months out, but I have been an "angel" to a couple of girls on the board when they had their surgery. I don't really have as much time to give them as I would like, but it has been such an awesome experience to be able to share with them what I have been and am going through.....and to give them support with their journey. I just love it!! Just remember that we are here for you!! And I pray that God will open doors for you to get through these times while hubby is away. Hugs, Dianne