Revision --Lap band to RNY-- It kinda makes me sad
My husband and I had a few conversations on the posibility of a revision prior to this so hear the words 'revision surgery" weren't that bad. The next day my surgeon calls and schedules an appointment to discuss the revision and schedule the surgery. Ass my consultaion appointment looms i cannot helo but feel as though i had failed. I have also began to question if there is a slight bit of depression involved stemmign from the feelings of failure. i just dont know what to do. i am not sure i should go ahead witht he revision or if i should discussing trying out the lapband for a little longer. Any ideas?
I'm not sure how you can use the word failure here. You were having problems with the band itself. Another thing, when I went to my consult for ds the surgeon pulled out the book that you get with the lapband and showed us what the company itself said about it as far as losing excess weight and keeping it off. DO NOT feel like you failed at this. Do however make sure you research the possible revisions and make an informed choice about the one you choose. I can't stress this enough.
Monique
Hi there,
I am kind of in the same boat. I had my lap band on 10-19-09, no weight loss and vomiting and left upper abdominal pain. The vomiting started after my third fill, anything less than 6.5 cc's and I felt no restriction, anything more and I vomited after eating anything....I feel like a failure too, but i am finding comfort in the fact that there is more people like us out there. I went to see my surgeon today. We set a date for revision to rny for the 31st f this month. I am waiting for insurance approval now. I admit I am scared this time around. Before my lay surgery I was more excited and a little nervous. I am questioning if I am doing the right thing because of the added risk I am subjecting myself too. There is a 1-2% chance for leakage, this can lead to sever complications and in some cases death. The percentage of rick for dvt is the same for the rny as it is for the lap and morbidity increases form .1 to .5 %....I got these facts from my doctor. I have been thinking , does this make me selfish? Putting my family through this adding potential risk to my life...Is this the right thing????? Then I asked myself how much does my weight effect my life right now. The answer to that is way more than it should. I do not enjoy things the way I should. I love playing tennis but I do not play at this point because it is hard on my body and I am super selfconscious of my weight and how I look. I love the beach but hate to go because I spend more time trying to strategically cover my body than enjoying myself. I feel my weight is holding me back from a better career. I do not like family gatherings because the rest of my family is very slender and in shape, just the thought of Christmas give me a panic attack. I have not seen my grandmother or my aunt since before Christmas because I am too embarrassed and selfconscious about the fact that I have not lost any weight. I have a wonderful loving caring and supportive boyfriend. I do not even let him see me naked. He sometimes asks me to be naked when we are intimate, I explain to him that I would be too selfconscious and I would then not be able to enjoy myself. Just the thought of being naked in front of him makes me want to cry. He accepts this, but wishes that i was more comfortable. My ex-fiance would get mad and think it was because I did not want to be close to him...I love to jog, hike and be outdoors. I can not jog right now because I am too heavy, I can never find cute athletic clothes that fit so I end up wearing a ratty old men's t-shirt and stretch pants. I caring at the thought of weddings or my boyfriends business black tie events. I made him go alone to his company cook out last summer because I was too self conscious. As you can see, my weight every aspect of my life in a negative way. I guess I am trying to say the benefits out way the risks but I am still a little scared. You have to weigh this out, only you will know if it is right thing.
I wish you luck and keep me posted on your decision.
Erika
I had the same emotions but after having it removed and on with the losing (50lbs since 2/1/10), it has been the best decision for me.
Keep your chins up you deserve the best.
Blessings,
Cindy
I revised to the sleeve, and it was the absolute best decision I could have ever made. Getting rid of that pouch changed everything, I love my normal little stomach now. I wish you the best, and just do what is best for you and your future. I couldn't be happier with my results, and my life post-op.
SW 270lbs GW 150lbs CW Losing Pregancy Weight Maintenance goal W 125-130lbs
I appreciate your post, and the posts of others. No matter how often I tell myself I am not a failure, I still feel like one. It's a little comforting to know that I'm not the only one in this boat.
It sucks. It does. But you have to do what is right for you. If your "tool" isn't the right one for the job, go back to the toolbox and get another.