Did You Tell Your Family/Friends How You Feel In Case Something Goes Wrong With The...

Greetings,

Not be be morbid, but I was just curios for those that had the surgery - did you feel compelled to tell your family/friends how you feel about them in case something went wrong with the surgery?

I have my sleeve surgery in a couple of weeks and I am sure I am needlessly worrying about it, but I have been thinking about the things I want to say to the people that I love as a just in case. I realize this could apply to any surgery, but I have never really felt this way before with past surgeries I have had.

I was just curious if anyone else here had the same mindset and expressed how they felt about their loved ones prior to bariatric surgery - just in case.

Thanks,

FW

Regardless of having surgery or not having surgery/type of surgery, why wouldn't you make sure your family and friends know how you feel, any day/any time?

Tell them!

You could get hit by a rogue asteroid at any time! I truly try to live and love people so that is not one of the things they ever need to wonder about.

good luck with your upcoming surgery!

Sorry I may not have been clear.

I didn't mean a situation where you never told someone you loved them or you haven't expressed how you feel about your family or friends - although that may be the case for someone.

I meant more like a final goodbye - if something happens, I just want you to know....

Even if they know this already.

Thanks!

Nope. Never a concern. And really when you've lost people have you thoughts been "did they really love me" or "did they know I loved them@? Mine have always been the latter.

I was really not at all worried about not surviving the surgery. Really not worried. I was a lot more worried about dying of complications from obesity.

If you're that concerned, by all means talk to them. But you'll be fine.

Same! A motivating factor was to still be around to meet my nieces and nephews kids, if they have them. Without it, I knew I wouldn't.

weight loss surgeries years ago used to be pretty risky, but they're just not anymore. Techniques have vastly improved - and the surgeries done back in the 50s and 60s (when they WERE pretty risky) aren't even done anymore. Morbidity rate on gastric bypass is 0.3%. Sleeve is even lower (I can't remember the percentage on sleeve since I had the bypass, but I do remember it was lower). So this means you have at least a 99.7% chance of not dying, and you won't. Those are excellent odds - better than the odds for hip and knee replacement surgeries, which as you know, they do all the time.

you have a much greater chance of dying from complications from obesity than you do from having weight loss surgery.

to answer your question, yes, at first I did have that fear - but I'm in my 60s and remember those old surgeries. Once I did my research on the ones they're doing now, I was fine with them.