how much weight have you lost and how many months our from gastric bypass surgery?

Again, tough love here.

As a male and a heavy-weight, this is definitely not to be expected and is indicative of not using your tool as intended. Just to maintain a weight of 313 pounds requires a minimum of 3000+ calories. This means your caloric deficit isn't much lower than this.

I can guarantee that you are eating too much and likely, too many of the wrong foods. Post your menus and I will be glad to help you figure out where your problems are.

I hate to see someone waste their honeymoon period and their opportunity to rid themselves of the disease of obesity. You are worth the effort, Greg.

I think I misread the topic. I am 8 months out but I'm 8 months out from having surgery. I have lost 65 pounds from the 3rd Week of February from dieting. It has slowed down a lot though. I should get the gastric bypass sometime in either November or December.

Well, that IS a WORLD of difference!! Yes, the original poster is POST-surgery -- thus when you responded that you were also 8 months in, I thought you were, too.

My apologies, Greg.

You are doing a wonderful job -- and you should be proud to have lost such a substantial amount before surgery. I can tell you, the work you put in before will only benefit you--- not only will you have less risks on the operating table, but hopefully you will have some new coping devices to help you deal with the loss of food after surgery.

Keep up the great work -- I look forward to watching you continue to succeed in this fight.

You are still worth it, Greg.

I am four years out from my RNY. I have lost 220 pounds since 18-months post-op, and have maintained within 5 pounds since.

At 8 months out, I had lost 132 pounds.

I also weighed/measured and logged everything that went in my mouth. I highly recommend that you begin logging as you mentioned in one of your responses. This is a habit of most people who are successful long-term.

This may sound harsh, but I believe it is not helpful to coddle someone who may well be missing an opportunity to use their precious "honeymoon" period after WLS. Therefore, I will be blunt:

While I agree that we shouldn't waste our time comparing ourselves to others -- and especially male vs female weight loss -- there are some general expectations that would concern me with only 66 pounds lost in eight months post-surgery.

You don't mention if you started as a heavy or light-weight. If you started out needing to lose 100 pounds or less, you may be on target. If you are a heavy-weight like I was, your loss is far less than one would expect in eight months -- and you are either eating the wrong foods/or too much of the "right" ones. You can't know this unless you are diligently measuring/weighing and logging your intake.

OP's ticker shows she started at 292.

A food journal is a great idea. But it will only work if you are weighing all your food on a food scale. Otherwise, it's only guessing -- and we always guess on the wrong side. We always eat more than we think we do.

^^^ what they said ^^^

I was a "lightweight" - 40 BMI - but I lost 120lbs in less than six months. I'm not special, nor do I have some sort of super power. I treated weightloss like a job, not a part time hobby. Eating on plan (no licks, tastes, bites), exercising etc.

You are pointedly avoiding answering those asking you what you are eating. Right there is your answer. There is no magic to success with WLS. It's 100% effort and commitment. You have a limited time to do this with ease. Choose success!

WLS is not the easy way forward. The veterans here want you to be successful.

It is always uncomfortable to face the truth about our eating, and a food journal is a big key. I started using MyFitnessPal to log all of my foods before WLS and have continued to do so after. I am absolutely certain that when I log everything that goes into my mouth, I tend to be more careful. It is all about the truth... and when you write down what you are eating you are showing yourself the truth. Following the advice of these veterans who were successful, I limited my calories to under 800 for the first year, with protein at least 60 but usually over 80 and carbs under 50. I have lost 116 pounds so far.

Do not waste the precious little window you have been given. It is so wonderful to be a normal size, believe me.