Seeking reasons for RNY and why it has worked for you

Quick background- I have checked off all of my prerequisites, I got cleared by nutrition last week (gasp!), and am now waiting to schedule with the surgeon. As this gets real, I have taken your advice to heart and made some serious changes in my nutritional habits. The not drinking around mealtimes has actually been the hardest so I'm grateful that you all emphasized it so I can make it a habit now.

Now- my "dilemma"

My psych evaluation was 2months ago, I was cleared. But, something he said keeps haunting me. After he gave me the ok he would clear me, he asked why I was doing it. I answered honestly that after an almost lifetime of battling with obesity and yo-yo weight loss, I needed a more aggressive and permanent tool to help me reach AND maintain my goal. And, based on my research, if I was dedicated to the program and found a strong support network, it had the best long term success rate.

He told me that was the wrong reason to have the surgery and that I should look at non-surgical options such as some cardiologist's famous diet book or weigh****chers. My reasons for the surgery, he said, were going to set me up for failure.

He did then offer his card to help me work through any food addiction issues I might have... kind of sketchy since he was aware I had a therapist I have worked with for years.

so.... am I delusional? It would be helpful to hear why you chose this route AND for those of you living the dream years out from the surgery, is there anything you would have said to your pre-surgery self about why it worked for you?

Many thanks if you read all the way through this....

What nonsense! My reasons were very similar to yours, and I reject his notion that they in any way set you up for failure.

I have always felt that therapy of any sort is a crapshoot: you will click with some therapists/psychs and can receive real benefit, but others will not help at all, and depending upon one's vulnerability, can do real harm. Personally, I would forget his analysis.

Others here may have a different perspective, and I am not yet at the 2-month mark, post-op, but I say you should kick that nonsense to the curb.

Keep your determination strong, incorporate all of the factors in your plan, and move forward. With determination and perseverance you will do just fine!

That therapist is a dog and should be put out of all our miseries. What a crap thing to say.

Medical malpractice.

I wonder what this "therapist" would think is a good reason?

Ceci

scratching my head here because that actually sounds like the *perfect* reason to me....

RIGHT?!?!?!

Amen.

He sounds like any other 'normie' that thinks that if we just exercised and ate better we could stay thin. He's putting the onus back on the same excuses we've all used over and over and over...

The statistics prove that those that have been SMO for some period of time have a very small chance (around 5%?) of keeping the weight off for a period of time. So telling you that you just need to do it... again, isn't the right answer.

For me, I could never get all the way down to a healthy BMI/weight for my body. I could lose weight, and keep it off for a short period of time, but I could never push past being 'just' obese... or maybe 'just' overweight.

Let's not forget that RNY in particular can be almost an instant remission for those that suffer from type 2 diabetes, and with the surgery so many are able to lose enough weight to keep themselves light enough for their bones and muscles to quit aching and stave off a multitude of other surgeries they may have needed down the road.

I think he's just trying to accumulate more patients. NOT that therapy to deal with the brain farts that happen isn't a good idea. The truth of the matter is most all of us have an eating disorder and could benefit from therapy... but I believe it's only a side plate to help keep/make the surgery a success for years to come.

Hello

Not sure what his rationale for a better reason for weigh loss surgery!

Put it out of your head and more forward!

Believe in yourself. Think positively!

This surgery is life changing & I promise you you will have no regrets!

Good luck and keep in touch!

Sandra.

Mahalo.

Right?!? Total hack! I did inform both the bariatric center and my therapist of his inappropriate conduct.

But, as has been documented time and time again on the forum- almost everyone gets a little nervous right before this leap. And, rightly so- huge surgery and huge lifetime commitment. so, it is good to get this feedback from you who have actually done this- why it worked for you, why you did it, etc.

i am really grateful to have found this group.