What's on your menu today (Wednesday) RNYers?
Cheese steak scrambled eggs sounds REALLY good!

Height 5'5" HW 260 SW 251 CW 141.6 (2/27/18)
RNY 5-16-16 Pre-Op 9lbs, M1-18.5lbs, M2-18.1lbs, M3-14.8lbs, M4-10.4lbs, M5-9.2lbs, M6-7lbs, M7-6.2lbs, M8-8.8lbs,M9-7.8lbs, M10-1 lb, M11-.6lbs, M12-4.4lbs
Good morning, DAISY, and my Fellow Menu Peeps! Is it Friday yet????
**Quick Question, so it doesn't get lost, in my post:
When you post something, in your "accountability", then is "off track", etc, are you looking for feedback, or do you want peeps to just shut up, and move along? I see things, most every day, that break my heart. I see peeps going down terrible paths, that I, myself, went down, that resulted in it taking me NINE YEARS to get my crap together, and reach goal. Many, many wasted, precious years. Yes, you are new, and can lose weight while eating Snickers, and washing it down with Jose Cuevo...but that will change...quickly...very quickly...and you will be totally f'ed...I, personally, don't normally say anything, unless someone asks, but you MIGHT notice I don't click "like" on a post like that (yea, ok..you never noticed!)
All normal, at The Short Peep Palace..whatever NORMAL is...Will have all 7 Short Peeps today, at one time or other. The first 4 are grabbing their power naps, now, and the other 3 are due in about 30 minutes, so diving in here. quickly!!
B: Coffee/2 over medium eggs
L: Tilapia/Mango Salsa/Spinach
D: Grilled Chicken/Brussel Sprouts
S: Greek Yogurt
W: Gallon
E: Water Aerobics--especially lower body
***ETA: Forgot the QOTD: I LOVE socks, and refuse to wear shoes without them!!
RNY 4-22-02...
LW: 6lb,10 oz SW:340lb GW:170lb CW:155
We Can Do Hard Things
I'd love people to jump on me when I'm being bad. I haven't had surgery yet, but I'm really trying to focus on breaking or at least becoming aware of my bad habits. I feel like the accountability here is mostly to confess that you messed up, know it, and you don't want to have to report anything again the next day? Although really, it's still up to each person to post their accountabilities. I could be eating snickers bars in the closet and telling everyone here that I'm 100% on track (which is not the case, I promise ;)
Hi Gina, I'm in the same position...sort of!? I had my rny in 2004... maintained a weight of 194. for about a second... then slowly snacked, grazed?, went off track "a little", until 2014 when I weighed over 300 again..(how did that happen (said sarcastically to self)). I managed to hit and miss losing 30 pounds down to 270.2...then April 24th 2017 went back to my knee surgeon..(who told me in 2014 that I needed to lose 80 lbs before he would replace both my extremely painful and worn out knees).... On the 24th I told he I was going to do whatever I needed to do to get my knees fixed....he asked me how much time I needed to lose 30 pounds... I told him 3 months...I'm not sure how I managed to stop grazing....but I did!!! I'm protein forward, I write all foods and beverages down and absolutely stick to my plan... I'm usually under 700 calories a day...tAke my vitamins... and I'm down 25.4lbs (yaaaaay)... I'm going to stay with my CAMAW program until I'm 160lbs... I'm hungry...but I don't care!! I really want a better life...so what's saying is deviating from my plan at the stage that I'm at would scare the crap out of me... maintenance? I haven't been there yet so I don't know.
on 7/12/17 8:33 am - GTA, Ontario, Canada
All day every day I want feedback from my fellow WLS peeps. Anyone is welcome to comment on my eating, my food, my posts, my QOTDs, my accountability and especially someone like you Gina how has the experience and is willing to share your struggles and how to navigate this for 15 years, I personally welcome your feedback!
I to am deeply saddened by what I see some people posting that they are eating, some are already on the alcohol so fresh post op, some are eating more carbs than protein daily, some are just off track daily and never seem to get back on track. I mean if you can't stay on track for one week how do you expect to be successful when you are 5, 10 , 15 years post op? We all know this **** is hard and maintenance is a DAILY struggle but I think some newbies truly don't grasp the concept of how hard this is as the years go by and if you think you can't stick to a menu now just wait, that's all I am going to say... just wait.
Thank you Gina for WANTING to help, I know its hard to change people's thinking but hopefully they will see its coming from a loving, supportive Vet who just wants to help

Daisy 5'5" HW: 290 SW: 254 CW: 120
Nov 15, 2013: RNY - Toronto Western Hospital, Nov 2, 2017: Gallbladder removal & hernia repair
Sept 7, 2023: three +1 hernia's repaired in bowel
10+ years post op, living & loving life!
Great question.
All of my life I've been a "Bring it on" kinda girl. This past year I've discovered the greatest flaw in asking for and encouraging feedback... if you don't accept their honest and heartfelt feedback and then ACT on it, the person who provided it to you feels as if you are a stubborn fool at best, or a totally worthless POS at worst. I've had both reactions from people that are really awesome and caring, here on OH. People who encourage others and really care, pretty much despise me because they've given great advice and I've continued to do the very thing that they're warning me NOT to do. I get it because it IS hard to not feel like a person is being disrespectful when they ignore or minimize your feedback.
For what it's worth: After a ton of research, and years of trying to do it through diet and exercise alone, I decided to go to the Bariatric Center of Excellence that was part of the healthcare system where I worked. I followed their process, met with an MD who is in charge of their nutritional segment, met with the psychologists, had blood-work done, met with the surgeons, like most of us did. The center takes a team approach and everyone has to be on the same page in order to move forward. The whole process I was treated as a "GREAT candidate" I'd been logging my food (good /bad/ ugly) for years, I was well informed, I was self-aware... blah blah blah. The team agreed that while I was borderline by BMI (35) I would do best with the RNY surgery. They scripted the diet plan using my food diary and laid out my weight loss goals, long term goals and what my menu should look like for each quadrant of my weight-loss journey. I stepped through training classes on nutrition, on emotional eating, on the physical changes to the gut system and what it meant to the body and the healing process if you didn't conform. I asked a TON of questions, and sometimes I asked for supporting evidence behind the answers - the same approach I had taken with Oncologists after learning I have the BRACA mutation.
Now fast-forward to OH boards, where I'm being told that almost all of what I learned and researched is dead wrong. My daily calorie goals won't be 1000- 1200 calories a day for the first 10 to 12 months, it will be closer to 600-700 calories. My long term maintenance diet won't be 1500 - 1700 calories a day, it will be back closer to the 700-900 range. The whole idea that as long as you're getting in 70g of protein a day, it doesn't matter what your carbs are because carbs are no longer our enemy post RNY is dead wrong. This is a lot of new information that is an total contrast with what the medical field is telling me. But here is the proof, 90% of those who have long term success are following extremely restricted caloric intakes with very low levels of carbs. I get it!
So I HAVE taken a lot of the advice I've been given to heart. I HAVE changed how I eat, and how I plan to eat for the rest of my life. But I haven't taken ALL of your advice. I still consume alcohol. Not a lot, nothing like I did before (3 to 4 servings a week), but yes, I'm playing with fire. Alcohol has four main issues associated with it post RNY: 1. Alcohol is harsh on the stomach and gut system 2. Alcohol is high in empty calories 3. Intoxication comes much faster post RNY and does more damage to the liver 4. Alcoholism is far more likely for RNY patients than the general population, possibly tens of times more likely.
Am I a special kind of stupid? Am I so arrogant that I think I'm somehow immune from the statistics? I'd like to think it's a little more of the first and not so much of the second... The bottom line is that I do believe that like many things in my life, I can handle alcohol in moderation. I do not drink to get a buzz, I drink because I love red wine like it's the blood of my savior. I had THOUGHT once my stomach healed I could drink moderately, my Bariatric Team knew I planned to drink moderately. I was open with them about all of my food choices, medications etc... We had a basic working plan in place. I come on here and learn that no alcohol is ever OK, and that even sipping a red wine during the first three months is tantamount to drinking straight acid while main-lining glucous. It's clear that there is professional disagreement on just how bad alcohol is post RNY, the when, the how much, the fact that most patients will say they drink about 1/3 as much as they actually do drink... It's a complicated issue that is far easier to deal with using the black and white "No alcohol for the first year, then only small portions very rarely" I get it. I just disagree. I just do not accept that an ounce or two is going to hurt me. I can still be a worthy human being, I can still agree on a great deal with the rest of you. I do not accept that my resistance in this area means that I'm trying to fail, or I'm throwing it all away.
I feel like there has to be some room for respectful disagreement when there are so many different people involved.
Long answer for the bottom line "please provide feedback, but only if you can do so without despising me if I don't choose to take your experience to heart in how I walk my own path".

5'4" 49yrs at surgery date
SW - 206 CW - 128
M1 - 20lb M2 - 9 lb M3 - 7 lb M4 - 7 lb M5 - 7 lb M6 - 6 lb M7 - 4 lb M8 - 1 lb M9 - 2 lb M10 - 4 lb M11 - 0lb M12 - 3lb M13 - 0 lb M14 - 2 lb M15 - 0 lb M16 - 3 lb
You have to figure this out yourself. Although I don't agree with your approach, it's absolutely your decision on how you are going to approach weight loss and maintenance .
Obesity is a tricky mental game. Unfortunately, most clinicians that give advise to us, do so without personal experience. They don't know the demons and mental gymnastics that got us to this state.
Weight loss doesn't get easier over time. That's why most of the vets will tell you to race to the finish. Boredom sets in and your motivation wanes. Maintenance is a daily balancing act for life. Some are able to eat in moderation, others must forever ban their trigger foods if they hope to keep the pounds off.
I love a nice glass of red wine with my filet. I knew my liver was being taxed during the fast weight loss phase so I avoided it until goal. Now I drink very moderately. It's just "delaying" your pleasures, not removing them.
You have this one chance, just one, to optimize your quick weight loss phase. Why screw around with it?
You've obviously thought about your approach. Fortunately for you, you're a lightweight, so things might work for you just fine. For most, we can't mess around like you are.