"Easy Way Out" - Family Drama

I don't think it's easy - I have worked just as hard as I did on any diet. Just in different ways... But it is do much easier to stick with it because you are having results and you do feel much better.

Despite all evidence to the contrary, the kid seems to think that all I need to do is eat less and I'll lose the weight. She doesn't get (or want to get) that that's not an option for me.

I truly believe that at this point, my body is working against me to get rid of it all. The changes to my stomach's gut bacteria over the years (no, I don't use artificial sweeteners, as I can taste them and they ALL taste vile to me) and all that have made a "naturally" skinny me impossible to achieve. I think the same is true of her, but she's got to learn that on her own, hopefully by seeing the positive changes I'll get in my life from this surgery.

Sometimes fear shows in opposition.. When she says she thinks you are taking th hard way... say " lets discuss this just a min".. Tell her you "love her very much,",,then.. Ask her "how the" hard way " is working for" her.

. Some think this is the easy way out, and it is viewed as that, but it was not for me...those who had complications from surgery don't consider it the easy way either. My metabolism study showed My body was much more efficient than it should have been. My calorie needs were about 500-600 per day.. For me it was the only way.. I had exhausted all other possibilities, and was gaining 20 lbs every 6 months,... unless i was on a starvation tuna and string beans..

Surgery is a precious TOOL, that you will have to obtain your goal of a healthy life. What ever your surgical procedure... follow your surgeons directions...as much as you can..make every effort and you will loose. You will be able to move, tie your own shoes...go for a walk and enjoy it ...and breathe ...all at the same time!

Having that kind of backflow is doing damage and you must stop it..

...after surgery, should you want sweets and can, you might try the natural ones...I use stevia in a natural leaf, and in a non alcoholic extract...2-3 drops sweeten a cup of coffee or hot cocoa. They do taste different, but after you have been off all sweetners for a while, they may be acceptable, because your taste buds will have lost their memory... and the receptors will need to be re-trained.

NYMom,

I agree with you in regards to how much work it is!!! I really don't like to tell every person that I had surgery because they tend to think that I took the easy way out. My surgery was an awesome tool and I could not have done it without it. Have a great week end and thanks for your post.

Robin

My Mom wasn't quite as against it as your daughter seems to be but she wasn't really on board with it and still doesn't really get it. She makes random comments that hurt my feelings all the time. But honestly I don't care. I did this for me. I was really upset before I had the surgery that she wasn't super supportive but after the surgery I decided that I'm the one putting in the hard work so I'm the only one who mattered.

Good luck!

Surgery was the best decision that I have ever made. I only wish I would have done it sooner. Good luck.

Robin

how old is your daughyter

She's 32, but we share a home together, so we're in each other's company a lot.

Remember that about 99% of the world thinks we just need to eat less.

I would say it is not the easy way out, but a more possible way out. Has not been an easy journey so far, but most successful in66 years.

I hope you find sufficient support. Best to you.

Anne