1.5 Years Post Op Gaining and Depressed

thank you NHPOD..All of this is good advice and its just a matter of being strong enough to fight the cravings...

You have a young son to take care of so you need to be healthy and happy. I know I am miserable when I do not take care of myself. You cannot change your husband's behavior or choices. All you can do is make better choices for yourself. Forgive yourself for regaining and get back on track. Eating is not solving anything or making anything better. Is your therapist helping you deal with this or is he just prescribing medication? Perhaps you need a new therapist.

As far as losing weight I suggest you track your food. Eat less. Make healthy choices. Do it for yourself and your son.

I do hope you figure out what works for you.

thank you Laura...i am finally realizing i cannot control him...it is what it is..we have a talk therapy session each week and ive been seeing her for 2 years...I'm not quite sure she is helping..Ive thought about changing but its hard to do and to tell my long drawn out story all over again is exhausting and not just with my husband, my childhood/family life as well..i am thinking about it though....

I can understand now wanting to change therapists, but if you are not sure this one is helping you, try someone else. You do not have to cut ties with the first one until you find one you like.

My kids were 3 and 5 when I had surgery. I am a single mom and fight hard every day for my mental and physical health. I know I need to do all I can for my health so that I am here to raise them to adulthood.

Please take care of yourself. We both have a lot of good living left to do!!

There ARE weight-neutral anti-depressants out there - ask you doc and switch. Cuz yes, they can make you gain weight.

Sorry that your ex is such a dick - but you don't need his sorry ass anyway - cuz you're gonna get it together and get BACK on track and kick some ass and then you won't care.

Are you in a support group? Does your surgeon have one? Can you start attending Weigh****chers? Group therapy?

You CAN do this - you really truly CAN. If you've got crap food in your house got throw it away RIGHT NOW. Put down the computer, walk into the kitchen, pull out a trash bag, throw all that bad **** in there, walk out to the dumpster/trashcan, and throw it away. When you shop, stick to the OUTSIDE aisles only (meats, fruits, veggies)... and then work it. You CAN do this.

Thanks Q! You give great pep talks :) when i get done with work i am cleaning out my cupboards...I have to find a support group. I've always had social anxiety so the thought of going to something like that scares the **** out of me...but i guess i have to get over it and do it...

Lindsay,

I am almost 5 years out. My highest weight ever was 288. After my RNY I got down to 165, but then had a 10 lb. rebound and stayed there with little effort until 2 years ago. I started back to work sitting at a desk all day. I had retired 6 years earlier from teaching where I hardly ever got to sit down. Besides returning to work, I found myself involved in many activities after work. Thus not preparing most of my own meals. I am now "flirting" with a number that I swore I would never return to....My last check-up showed my blood work is getting out of normal ranges and my dr. wasn't too happy...that was in August. Just this past week after beginning to get really depressed, I ordered the 20/20 diet on my Kindle app. I started the diet Wednesday and this is only Friday so I don't have any real results to report...except this morning I was down 2 pounds. I am emotional and boredom eater and I was afraid I would not be able to stay with this. But it is easier than I thought, so we will see. I am not recommending anyone try this, only sharing what I am doing. I do see a counselor, not for weight issues, but just as a "life coach." Started after I had to place my dad in a facility for Alzheimer's and realizing that I had never grieved my mother's death from 6 month's earlier because of the 24/7 care Dad required. My counselor reminded me how goal-driven I was in the first 2 years after my surgery and we talked about resetting goals for the future. This was when I actually decided to start the 20/20 diet this week. I know that regain can be dealt with, we just have to find the right goals and motivation. My motivation is not to have to return to taking a handful of RX meds every day. You need to reflect on your own situation and find both a new goal and a new motivation. Those first two years are so easy, the weight just comes off. It's the rest of our lives that it becomes more of an effort. But we can do this.

Lindsay,

I am almost 5 years out. My highest weight ever was 288. After my RNY I got down to 165, but then had a 10 lb. rebound and stayed there with little effort until 2 years ago. I started back to work sitting at a desk all day. I had retired 6 years earlier from teaching where I hardly ever got to sit down. Besides returning to work, I found myself involved in many activities after work. Thus not preparing most of my own meals. I am now "flirting" with a number that I swore I would never return to....My last check-up showed my blood work is getting out of normal ranges and my dr. wasn't too happy...that was in August. Just this past week after beginning to get really depressed, I ordered the 20/20 diet on my Kindle app. I started the diet Wednesday and this is only Friday so I don't have any real results to report...except this morning I was down 2 pounds. I am emotional and boredom eater and I was afraid I would not be able to stay with this. But it is easier than I thought, so we will see. I am not recommending anyone try this, only sharing what I am doing. I do see a counselor, not for weight issues, but just as a "life coach." Started after I had to place my dad in a facility for Alzheimer's and realizing that I had never grieved my mother's death from 6 month's earlier because of the 24/7 care Dad required. My counselor reminded me how goal-driven I was in the first 2 years after my surgery and we talked about resetting goals for the future. This was when I actually decided to start the 20/20 diet this week. I know that regain can be dealt with, we just have to find the right goals and motivation. My motivation is not to have to return to taking a handful of RX meds every day. You need to reflect on your own situation and find both a new goal and a new motivation. Those first two years are so easy, the weight just comes off. It's the rest of our lives that it becomes more of an effort. But we can do this.