Hi!

I just want to mentally prepare you for another upcoming problem(s).  You need to be mentally prepared for when those initially supportive friends/family members: a) get jealous/mad when you get skinnier then them, b) get sick of hearing about the surgery and c) think you exercise too much/may have an eating disorder (because you control the amount of food you eat "so much" by measuring it, not breaking your surgeons rules)...

Just remember, a hospital can't tell other people what you are in there for and what your diagnosis is. Nor can they acknowledge to strangers that you are even there.

Alternatively, you don't owe anybody anything with what you are about to do. ...even your mom (if you are an adult) or spouse!  It is your body, your decision, and they really don't get a "say" in it when it comes time for the rubber to hit the road.

I didnt tell a lot of people. I only told a few people at church (the rest of the congregation wonders how I did it...what is my secret. 1.5 years out..I finally have gotten around to "filling them in" when they ask).  I told my direct supervisor (who is a vault and kept it a secret) and my mentor (who appeared to have blabbed it all over the building. Never telling him anything again. Fortunately, MOST appeared to miss the memo).

Other than my husband, mom, MIL, sister, direct supervisor, mentor, 2 friends, the endocrinologist, and my NP...no one else knew that I had surgery.

And I liked it that way.

Sometimes, I need some peace, quiet and ROOM to do my thing, ya know?  If the yacking/opinion/"help" of the person, really isnt going to help you. Dont tell them.