My advice for people dealing with idiots on this board.

Hi everyone, Now I know I am no expert, nor do I run this board or this website. But I for one like the rest of everyone else has had about enough of the antics of stupid people writing on this board trying to deliberatly cause harm to people using this board as a resource. My estimation is that, this is the person themself. Someone with psych issues obviously. Now I took the liberty of writing to the powers that be of this board to bring it to their attention, and this person is well known to them already. I however being the only person writing about it is probably not enough to create a change to wipe this person off the boards. When someone goes so far as to slander physicians and create inaccuracies and post them as fact, it becomes legally problematic. I have this advice, as much as I enjoy the rebuttals with dumb and dumber with return responses that make less sense than the first, do not give it any more thought. The person is obviously thriving on the thrill of getting people upset. In this case Ignorance is bliss. Secondly, there are board moderators, and someone who actually runs this website, if anyone could please join me in helping to put an end to this, I would greatly appreciate it. You can email these folks on a one to one basis to report the issue, so anything you say will be anonymous. And thirdly, the best rebuttals of all are being a support to one another during this very scary at times and wonderful roller coaster ride. I think we are fortunate to have three different great doctors in a very small state who are able to provide this life saving surgery. I read on other boards how people have to drive hours away or even to Mexico to get surgery done. I know medicine is not a perfect science, and yes sometimes bad things do happen, but they are not an everyday occurance. Please help me and our great surgeons preserve the integrity of this. To all of you who have helped be supportive to others, and to those yet to embark on this journey, may your lives always be blessed with health and happiness. Stephanie

Stephanie, Good advice. I too sent an e-mail to the moderators of this board. That woman has no business on this board. Pat

If you are referring to me I am not stupid nor dumb. I have done months of investigatin the lap band and my daughters unfortunate incident with it. I see on the main Lap message board a lot of insurance companies are not approving the surgery. My daughter had to have hers removed after four days and I can't even imagine what her bill must have been. Maybe the band was approved by the FDA much too early. I have also talked to the people who make this band and they also know what happened to my daughter. So if you read the lap band message board you will see that the insurance companies are thinking twice about this surgery. If I had a choice and I had to have WLS personaly I would choose gastric bypass. Oh and yes you are fortunate to have three different surgeons in your area but a lot of them haven't done over 100 lap band surgeries. That is a safer number to go by rather than 35. How do you know there aren't other problems with the band?? I am probably one of the very few to have the courage to let people know what happened to my daughter and I certainly wouldn't want it happen to anyone else. Mary

Did I use your name? Did I say it was you Mary? Did I? Huh? Where did I say Mary? Sound familiar? Your research is full of inaccuraces, again when you get a job at Inamed or the National Institutes of Health or an Insurance Company talk to me then. Again your lap band reference goes back to Dr Pohl and your facts are inaccurate there too. S-L-A-N-D-E-R what does it spell kids? I don't give a pile a horse crap about your reported band problem facts, I don't have them, and if I want to find out about them for the kajillionth time I'll get them from an expert, not you. Trying to scare people by now talking about a doctor who nicked someone doing a gallbladder surgery while some girl is saying she needs to have her gallbladder out is courageous? I have words to call it but they start with the letter F and would get me booted off the board. Mary Mary Mary...your obsession with this is a bit twisted. Yeah you know it's a free country, and the fact that the board moderators are willing to let you ramble on and get people upset astonishes me. My estimate is that one day, just one day, your "courage" will get you into ho****er the wrong way. Hey aren't there interesting things to follow in Vermont, like Ben and Jerry or a ski slope, hurry before the mean lap band people brain wash them and make them all skinny after watching a video tape. They need your expertise right now. Now I have to go, my son has a hang nail and I have to go harrass the makers of nail clippers to make sure no one cuts their toe nails. You have no idea what those things can do. Stephanie

RE: How long? Please don't tell me I have no business on this board. My daughter had Adjustable Gastric Banding and she nearly died from it. Read the response I sent to Stephanie Mary sent the above e-mail to me privately. I am not having a band, I just find that her correspondence on this board is distrubing. She hasn't walked in our shoes. Her daughter is certainly old enough to tell her own story. My own mother did interfere as much as Mary. I had a mother and really don't need another. Pat

Ok I give up with trying to let people know what can happen with the lap band. I wish you all well . No I do not go to Ben & Jerrys for ice cream. I don't eat too much of it nor do I ski. I am a mom who had to watch my daughter have this awful problem and I hope no one else will either. Bye all and good luck!!!!! Oh by the way slander was never an issue. I have tried to let people know what happened and that no other family has to go through what our family did. Oh by the way Stephanie I think you are aroggant. What happened to Cheryle is the truth and I have never seen once where you were sorry about what happened to her. You are selfish.

Go back and do your research from the first time I was stupid enough to respond to your emails and say I was sorry about your daughter when you preceded to tell me how I was going die from getting the surgery, then come back and tell me I'm selfish. See you shoot your mouth off before you research your own stuff. I lost my sympathy not for any person who suffered, I lost it for your cause. Has nothing to do with your daughter, it has to do with you and your agenda. Thanks for calling me arrogant, I've lived most of my life being a nice person, it's a refreshing change of pace. And when you write someone's name on the same line you reference them as selfish and arrogant, that's defamation of character and slander, research the dictionary. I'll ignore your emails going forward, but do yourself a favor, you stay off my responses. There's a difference between your cause and mine, yours is to scare people, mine is to protect and support people. Do not respond to this because I will take it to the levels I need to to get it stopped. To the rest of you, please continue to go forward with health and happiness in your pursuit of this, and be supportive of each other. Thanks, Stephanie