VENT: Hit a "stall" and I'm told I'm doing something wrong ?
Hi Everyone,
I am almost 4 weeks out from RNY. I think I hit a stall... I've been at the same weight (234) for the past week.
My parents are telling me that I must be doing something wrong (p.s. my dad is also post-op 3 years).... and that I must be eating incorrectly....that I shouldn't be hitting a stall this early.
I feel like such a failure ALREADY... The way they talked down to me...saying that I'm going to gain weight again if it's ALREADY stalling..
I am eating what I can eat. I am concentrating on the protein intake and my fluid intake. I am eating choices off of the chart that they gave me from the hospital.... what else do they want!?!?!
INSIGHT PLEASE... before I lose it
I am almost 4 weeks out from RNY. I think I hit a stall... I've been at the same weight (234) for the past week.
My parents are telling me that I must be doing something wrong (p.s. my dad is also post-op 3 years).... and that I must be eating incorrectly....that I shouldn't be hitting a stall this early.
I feel like such a failure ALREADY... The way they talked down to me...saying that I'm going to gain weight again if it's ALREADY stalling..
I am eating what I can eat. I am concentrating on the protein intake and my fluid intake. I am eating choices off of the chart that they gave me from the hospital.... what else do they want!?!?!
INSIGHT PLEASE... before I lose it
I wish I had the answer for you. I have hit my first stall as well, please don't worry yourself about it. From previous post I have read that our body will stall because of the adjustment to our new body. We are losing weight fast and our bodies are also adjusting to the new changes. Please don't beat yourself up, this too will past and we will start our losing again. Just stay on track and everything will be okay. I didn't lose a pound last week. Not going to worry about it I know that it will continue to come off. Maybe we lost inches last week. Who knows ? DONT WORRY!
KAILA!!! What up girrrl??? 
Ok, so here's the post I post for all the newbies early out that are stalling. I was one of those early stalled newbies and I received this reply and was immediately feeling better once I read it. No, you are not doing anything wrong. You can't let anyone talk down to you (even if it is your parents). Here it is:
"At last month's support group meeting, I only spoke for a half an hour to intro the group and do the "round robin" around the room. But I let something slip that got a lot of reaction in the room. I can't even remember WHY I said it but it was like an "a-ha" moment across the room. It slipped out for the tiniest reason but hit home with a lot of the newbies in the room.
I keep forgetting that so many people go into surgery not knowing as much as I did when I went into surgery. I need to remember this and remind the members of things that they might not know in the future.
When I was going through surgery, I was ready for and expecting the inevitable 3rd to 7th week stall. I often forget that some newbies don't know to expect it. They should. You should be expecting it when it happens so you know that it is coming and you are mentally prepared for that period when the scale doesn't budge early out.
(and don't forget to take your measurements every week early out too so that you have something else to measure yourself by other than the scale).
When your body first goes into surgery, it knows shortly afterward that it is starving. It needs food but you are taking in such little nutrition after surgery that it tries to sneak your glycogen stores. Glycogen stores are the "quick energy" stores that allow you for instance to run out quickly if a mouse is on the floor. It's your "instant energy" in your body.
So your body thinks "hmmm...it's just a little hurdle, I'll get my energy from the glygogen stores".
Well after a few weeks of this, your body realizes that this is not a short term thing anymore. It realizes that using energy from your glycogen stores isn't very efficient and very long term. So it has to THINK a bit.
(This is where the stall comes in).
Then it says "A-hah!!!!". It realizes that it has a lot of fuel on your body - your fat stores, so it's going to start burning some energy from there and shrink those fat cells.
Then the body will resume into full burning mode and guess what? The scale will start moving again.
This is a GREAT things when it happens. Although it sucks that the scale doesn't move, it means that is going to start burning the stored fat you have (especially the stuff in your butt! LOL!).
So be happy about that inevitable stall - it's fat burnin' season!
Dawn"
Ok, so here's the post I post for all the newbies early out that are stalling. I was one of those early stalled newbies and I received this reply and was immediately feeling better once I read it. No, you are not doing anything wrong. You can't let anyone talk down to you (even if it is your parents). Here it is:
"At last month's support group meeting, I only spoke for a half an hour to intro the group and do the "round robin" around the room. But I let something slip that got a lot of reaction in the room. I can't even remember WHY I said it but it was like an "a-ha" moment across the room. It slipped out for the tiniest reason but hit home with a lot of the newbies in the room.
I keep forgetting that so many people go into surgery not knowing as much as I did when I went into surgery. I need to remember this and remind the members of things that they might not know in the future.
When I was going through surgery, I was ready for and expecting the inevitable 3rd to 7th week stall. I often forget that some newbies don't know to expect it. They should. You should be expecting it when it happens so you know that it is coming and you are mentally prepared for that period when the scale doesn't budge early out.
(and don't forget to take your measurements every week early out too so that you have something else to measure yourself by other than the scale).
When your body first goes into surgery, it knows shortly afterward that it is starving. It needs food but you are taking in such little nutrition after surgery that it tries to sneak your glycogen stores. Glycogen stores are the "quick energy" stores that allow you for instance to run out quickly if a mouse is on the floor. It's your "instant energy" in your body.
So your body thinks "hmmm...it's just a little hurdle, I'll get my energy from the glygogen stores".
Well after a few weeks of this, your body realizes that this is not a short term thing anymore. It realizes that using energy from your glycogen stores isn't very efficient and very long term. So it has to THINK a bit.
(This is where the stall comes in).
Then it says "A-hah!!!!". It realizes that it has a lot of fuel on your body - your fat stores, so it's going to start burning some energy from there and shrink those fat cells.
Then the body will resume into full burning mode and guess what? The scale will start moving again.
This is a GREAT things when it happens. Although it sucks that the scale doesn't move, it means that is going to start burning the stored fat you have (especially the stuff in your butt! LOL!).
So be happy about that inevitable stall - it's fat burnin' season!
Dawn"
Hey Kaila!
Tell Dad I said Chill Out! We are all different! We lose weight at our OWN pace! There is no right or wrong way of losing along this journey as long as you are following YOUR program!
I do believe in and recommend the following to ACE this journey...
Attend support groups
be Contious of everything we put into our mouths
Exercise! PLAY 30 minutes a day!
You're doing great! Breathe IN, Breathe OUT and remember that you are...
Lovable
Capable
& Worth It!
No worries!
Hugz!
Jules
For Info about Rhode Island Support Groups, please email me! [email protected]
I just broke through the longest stall in history....6 weeks the scale didn't move. The good news is it didn't go up either. I'm not sure what broke the stall, but I think it is becasue I added some calories to my day. I was eating 600 - 800 and now I'm up to 800 - 1000/day. This week I lost 5 lbs.
I felt the same way. A FAILURE! I was beating myself up over this. Have faith that if you do everything right it will come off. It is easy to get discouraged when you are not seeing the scale move, but keep the faith.
I felt the same way. A FAILURE! I was beating myself up over this. Have faith that if you do everything right it will come off. It is easy to get discouraged when you are not seeing the scale move, but keep the faith.
The only way you can fail is if you believe what they are telling you. We all loose differently. I went for 3 weeks without a pound off the scale and had to drill 5 new holes in my belt. I have a single belt that I use that I bought when I could only use the first belt hole. Now i have drilled 13 holes and the tip of the belt is over half way to the back of my jeans. Drives people crazy that I don't just buy a new belt, but it is a tactile reminder that it is working and I am making progress regardless of what the scale is saying. Don't worry about the numbers they will come. If you feel better and your clothes are getting looser and you know that you are doing what you are supposed to do, let them eat cake... Let them say what they want and in a few short months shove it right back in their face. This is for you, not them. Don't forget that. If you are doing this for anyone but yourself, you need to look deep into what you really want. This is yours. No one elses!
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