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Greeting to OH homies,    


I went to a engagement party for my godchild and niece Saturday night, saw lots of family, which is pretty cool,sense i don't really see them that much, my sisters of which i have 6, are all very helpful and positive, and then i talk to close friends and family, they hear that i am having WLS and think they know everything, (" hey , you know people die from that  surgery" )   (hey , I have friends that have had it and some put all the weight back on ") , or the one that ****** me off !! (hey , you should try doing it by your self without surgery ") i know the risk's and the positives, but everyone who never had a weight issue thinks that they know all the answers!! the great thing my niece and nephew's which i have 19, they are all good kids, and they said, hey uncle, what ever you need to be healthier, is a good thing !!  just venting !!!!!

 

I think people say what they say because they lack the information that we have been getting re: the surgery since we chose to pursue this. I try to educate those that matter to me and those that  don't I let them think what they want. It's not their life that's in jeopardy it's ours!!!! Just keep doing what you're doing and the proof will be in the package at the next family get together. Have a great Sunday~~~~~~Kim

HI
The one I get (and I dont for the life of me know why) is....."Youre not THAT big you can do it on your own"..welp, Ive done it millions of times (seems like) on "MY OWN" and I still am 266 lbs.  Now if that isnt big then  they should have their eyes examined.  I need a tool to help me and the wls seems to be the tool I can use.  "Dont do it, just go to the gym with me", "You should take walks every day" "Youre not that big" "Do you know you can die from THAT surgery"  do they know you can die from ANY surgery.......
I guess it just struck a nerve hmmm......lol sorry I had to vent....Cathy

I completely understand where you are coming from.  First I think there are some people that just afraid of it and  are not informed about how far this surgery has come. I had people tell me the same things,  but I had the support of my family.   I found that I was very selective on who I told after hearing this.  You need to know and feel that this is the right decision for you, it is a great tool and I have no regrets.  I know some say they wish they did it earlier but I was not ready then.  You have to just think of the positive and stay away from the negative people.  Having all that excess weight is more dangerous in the long run. You will get thru this and all the negative people will then say how great you look.  Best of Luck

Chris ~ Isn't it crazy how all of sudden those around you become experts?  I think some of what they say comes from true concern about you, others have done no research and speak from a limited understanding and some people just like to hear themselves speak.

Only you live in your own skin and can make the best decisions for yourself.  You're doing your research, you're the one going to all the pre-op appointments, you're the one coming to the support groups so you're getting all kinds of information first-hand.  Your nieces and nephews are right -- go forward with what will put you on a healthier pathway. 

~ Sandy

WOW!  Thanks for bringing that up!  I hate that too!  My even bigger pet peeve is that I usually didn't want to tell them in the first place.  I can't believe that almost everyone says, "Wow, you've lost a lot of weight, how did you do it?"  I had no problem telling people that I am close to, but these are people who have no business asking!  I always stammer and then tell them the truth.  I wish I had been more prepared with a response, but I don't want to get caught in a lie either because so many people do know.

Brother i feel your pain....you are right....it seems that everyone you talk to knows a weight loss surgery tragedy....but i noticed that for every bad story there where 5 good stories. it seemed like the bad ones came from people who could use the surgery themselves. almost like they were trying to justify in their own minds why the wont have the surgery. while i learned to tune out the negativity i also came here and to other sites to research my options...i looked at all the statistics, talked to people who had the surgery and learned all i could before commiting  myself. Dr Pohl's process is a long one from the first lecture to all the doc appointments till you finally get a surgery date. it allows a lot of time for learning and soul searching.,.in the end i decided that the RNY was best for me..im 5 weeks out and wouldnt change a thing (although i wish the weight loss were faster)..I told very few people...and im glad i kept it that way...by the way..venting is good....good luck with your surgery

Unfortunatly, I think we have all been there.  People just dont have the knowledge like we do, and they think they know it all.  It made me crazy too.  Hang in there, you know your making the best decision for "YOU".  Watch, when the weight starts falling off, they will be FULL of compliments!

Jen

These are the EXACT reasons that I am very selective about who I tell. I have basically been going to the supports groups and appointments alone. I know what is best for me and I'm not gonna let anyone ruin this for me. We have all obviously researched again and again before making this choice. Good Luck to you in your upcoming surgery and we will all be here when you are well enough to come back.

Hugs,
Tiffany

Oh Man!

I hear ya! It got so old after a while! I didn't tell a lot of people before my surgery because I just didn't want to hear it. From anyone! I used to just say "hey, that's what works for you, this is what works for me". If they said things to me because they cared, I took the time to show them all the research I did and referred them to www.obesityhelp.com. There's actually a Family and Friends Support forum on here just for them!

Now, when they ask I did I lose so much weight, if I know them, I tell them the whole truth..."I had gastric bypass. It was the best thing I ever did for myself and my family". I say it with enthusiasm and with no reservations!

If they're aquantances, I tell them the truth too but I say "I eat less and exercise more and don't drink with my meals", again, with enthusiasim and no lies.

And you know what? It really shuts them up! Hee hee hee!

God, I love my life!!!!

Jules