Aggravated

Hi Everyone,

I know it has been a really long time since I have posted, but today I just really need to vent.  Today at work were comparing how bad the pictures on our badges were.  A new employee comment that I had lost alot of weight.  I agreed to told her that I lost 70 lbs in a year.  One of my coworkers decided to say that I lost most of it after my "surgical procedure."  This then prompted the new employee to ask what he was talking about so I was honest and told her that I had had WLS.  Talk about putting me on the spot!! I am usually very open about discussing this with people but it needs to be on my terms when I am ready and comfortable.  The same employee also felt it was necessary to say that I wasn't perfect and mention some of the not so healthy choices I had made in the past.  To that I just said that I wasn't perfect, I am human and I am still allowed and able to make poor choices.  I confronted this person and told him that is my choice to tell someone about my WLS not his and he totally snubbed me like he did nothing wrong.  I just can't believe that some people think it is okay to talk about someone's personal life and choices right in front of them and think nothing of it.  Thanks for letting me vent.

So sorry you had to go through that Helen.  I still do not tell people about my lapband because I really don't feel like dealing with all the questions and all of the negative opinions there are out there.  Congrats on your 70 lb loss and I'm sorry you had to deal with the jealousy

Hi Helen!

I'm so happy to hear from you! I've missed you!

Yes it has been a long time. But WOW, what a great job you're doing! 71 pounds is awesome! Good for you!

I feel the same as you do! I think we have every right to be upset when others talk about us to someone else. No matter what the reason or subject. Most especially when it's personal. And I take my WLS personally!

In fact, it took a while for me to come to terms with this because I had a 'friend' tell my neighbors about me having the surgery. It, obviously, is NOT her business to do so.

People! Aaaargh!

So, now what? Acceptance. It's a long word that is probably the most difficult word in our language.

I have to accept the fact that this is going to happen whether I like it or not. Whether it's a friend or co-worker (thank God it's not my mailman), they're going to tell people about our WLS for one reason or another.

Some examples can be...jealousy; they just want to be the ONE who knows everything first so they're the ones who tell first; they're insensitive or they're just plain ignorant. I think I'll go with the latter.

Good thing we're not like them, huh?

Did I mention that I miss seeing you around here?!

Hope you stick around!

Jules

Thanks Jules!  You brought up some good points.  I have been checking in just haven't post much lately.  I will try to stay in touch more!

Sorry you have to have that happen to you.  I hear what you are saying it should be your choice to talk about your life not others.  I had something like that happen to me this week at work I had a girl come up to me in a group of people and ask me how much I wt now.  I looked at her and said  That is not even a question you ask people surgery or not.  I thought it was rude.  Everyone else standing there thought so too.  Then I said I lost 176lbs and that is all she needed to know. It is to bad you can help the rude people in this world.  We just have to try to deal with them. 

Lisa

Congrats on the 176!  You are absolutely right...we just have to deal with them.

Thanks so much.  It is such a great feeling.  Congrats on your wt loss. 
lisa

Hi,
Sorry you have to work with such an idiot. Put a tack on his chair!
Then sit back an chuckle.