Scared......

ok,, Ive been thinking about  bypsss for years now, and now I have a date for this to actually happen. Feb 23rd !  Dr. V.

I have 2 young boys, a great wife, and if I can say, im scared ****less about dying on that table....

I know it could happen, and not that I would know, but the pain and saddness my boys and wife would feel are to great for me to handle sometimes.
Does anyone else feel this way ?  im just so scared of dying.. always have been.

I lost my sister at a young age, and I saw the pain it caused my family, and I dont want that for them again with me.

Of course the alternative is staying fat, unhealthy, have a stroke, heart attack, ect, and die that way.

I guess me going thru with this shows that I am trying to improve my life for myself,  and family.

Sorry for venting, I just needed to.  I dont have anyone i can talk to about this.  My wife also gets so upset with me if i talk about this. and I dont want her to be more upset about this if something does happen.

Hey Jawman,

You don't have to be sorry for expressing the real feelings you are having right now. I think it is safe to say many people here have expressed similar feelings prior to surgery.  I am one of them. I was scared too.. I have a husband and a son who just turned 13.  It is a scary thing!  I made myself remember that I chose my doctor, and had the utmost confidence in his ability to surround himself with a great team and to do what he was trained for.  

I'm sure you have that same confidence in your doctor, and know that he will do everything in his power to make sure you come thru the surgery with flying colors. In no time, you will be reminiscing on the losers bench.

Best of luck to you!! 

I think I know how you feel.

Please check out the following link for just a tiny taste of how scared I was.

http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/06-2008/3628462/JUNE-4TH/# 28677343

I was so scared that I actually said my final goodbyes to my loved ones right before I was wheeled into the OR.

Obviously, I still went through with it even though I just 'knew' I was going to die!

Why did I still go through with it?

Because I was even more convinced I was going to drag my family down with my co-morbidities.

There are risks to any surgery. There are risks to being morbidly obese. We are, unfortunately, being morbidly obese, we are put in the position to make some life-changing choices.

I spoke with my surgeon about my fears and even went to his seminar twice just to listen again.

I went to every single bariatric support group in the area and talked about my fears. I got so much great feedback from others who were both pre-op and post-op.

This choice it totally up to you. Writing a list of pros and cons really helped me put things into perspective. Although I was still scared when I went into the OR, I, at least, was more certain about my decision.

Good luck to you!

Jules