Felling crappy !!

i should be more focused but with work and family issue's , i have not really have prepared myself, i am being lazy, and seem to think that when i have RNY i won't be able to eat like i used too, so i make excuse's to eat the wrong things, crappy way of thinking , i went to my first support meeting which is helpful, i need to start working out again, any words of wisdom,for the big guy ???

Hey BigRhody,

   Don't be to hard on yourself  I think we all did that when waiting for surgery.  I know I did.  I wanted to eat all I could because I thought I never get to eat any of this stuff again.  That will change.  You can eat just  after the surgery not as much.  I had my surgery last April  and I still love food just now I am more to reading the Nutrition facts and I go more for the healthy stuff then the junk.  Not to say I don't like having something that is bad once in a blue moon.  That the differant  it is once in a blue moon and not daily  now.

  Your doing the right thing by asking for the support and going to the support group.  I myself didn't do any of that  until after my surgery I wish I had of.  Congrats to you.  Everyone get  focused on the work and family issue's but, you need to take time for YOU!!!!    Because if you don't  you might not be around to focuse on  the work and family stuff.  I am sure your family need you here.  So remember to take the time out for your  Health.  Your good health is a gift that you give your family.  Good luck  my friend.

Lisa

thanks lisa !

Your welcome Just remember anytime you need us we are all here for we all are going though this journey together.

Lisa

I definately agree with Lisa, I think we all go through that before surgery and its ok! Take it slow and see if you can find someone nearby who can work out with you and help keep you motivated. I know I definately do better when I have other people to lean on!
I'll be a little selfish here too...if you can join us on Saturday we'd love to meet you and who knows, maybe we can help get you motivated a little!
Most of all though, just remember we're all here any time you need someone to talk to

We have probably all did it.  Just think of what may happen if you don't follow the plan, you WON'T get the surgery.  Jump back on the wagon, calm down and do what you have to do.

Nancy

Hello there.  You have many common threads through your post, threads I feel so many of us share.  We don't know how to make ourselves a priority, we're great at making excuses and pre-op we can suffer from last supper syndrome.
Start learning to make time for you.  It's ok, you're worth it.  Keep making the time to come to the support groups.  Book gym/exercise time into your calendar like you would any other appointment.  You might be amazed once you start taking time for you, how you're able to better focus on all aspects of your life.
As far as the last supper syndrome,  you will eat again post- op.  Of course the portions won't be as large  and you'll  be exploring ways to make modified versions of old favorites which can be good for the whole family.  I'm just shy of 12 weeks out and I'm finding there's things that just have no appeal to me anymore.  Like the pint of Ben & Jerry's I was addicted to pre-op, substituted making protein ice creams and have been just as satisfied with those now.
Remember this isn't just  surgery but a lifestyle change.  Keep at it.  Reach out for the support.  Ask the questions and look for suggestions.  You will find the successful WLS path to take.
~ Sandy

 

thanks sandy, i hit the gym this am !!! one step at a time

That's a great first step.  Headed out for a walk soon myself to get in some of my own steps.
~ Sandy