how do you handle this?

ok- I am going nuts here!  How do you handle when someone is constantly sticking things in your face that you know are not good choices?   I keep having someone bringing me things that I liked pre-surgery- like a muffin for a breakfast treat, or a pasta.  When I say something- they get really hurt, thinking it was a good thing they did.  This person knows very well about my struggle both then and now.  This is someone I need to be supportive and help me in my journey.  It kills me to see them getting upset when they thought they were rewarding me.  This person has never struggled with a weight issue so it isn't something they could understand.  Does anyone else have someone like this?  What did you do?  

Alexia,

I think that just like you, your friends have to change their ways of thinking.  I know I had friends that would always offer me things and then realize that I couldn't have it.  They are not living your journey so it is not a part of there everyday routine, so i think they just forget.  I'm  sure she meant well.  She doesn't want to exclude you.  You said she doesn't have weight issues, then she doesn't know the difficulties. When she offers tell her thanks but you just ate or that you have your breakfast.  

Nancy

Thanks- I alwas feel so bad about telling this person something like that when they think they did something so great.  I have REALLY tried to explain to them how it isn't ok for me to eat it- not even as a "cheat" right now.  It is too easy for me at this point to go to old habit and grab anything quick to eat. 

you know thats a good question.   I am going to have the same problem after i get banded.  There is a woman who works the shift before me and she lays out these bags of candy (twizzlers, bite size chocolate bars, jellied candy, etc.).  But they are still out when i start my shift.  I have told her that i am going to have this surgery.  And i have mentioned that candy is a big problem for me (there at least).  But i have a feeling that she won't get it.  She is prbably a size 3.  She eats this stuff all the time.  Anyway, i have been trying to come up with different ways of addressing this issue.   I am a supervisor for my shift and i am pretty sure that everyone on my shift is supportive of me.  I don't want to come down hard and be a witch about it.  But i may just ask her (after the operation) to put them away while i am there.  If that doesn't work, then i might have to get honery.  Let me know what works for you.  It may help me too.  Are we just "too nice"?  I don't know.  

Eldy

Hi Beth,

Maybe offer the person an alternate "treat" for you? Like saying you'd prefer to recieve a type of tea or coffee that you like or occasionally getting a card or an inexpensive pen or something like that? I think sometimes that people who don't struggle like us don't really realize how damaging a food "treat" can be for someone with food issues. They want to do something nice, but for way too many people that means food. I try to tell people that it's like offering to buy a drink for someone who is a recovering alcoholic. Good intentions maybe but potentially bad results!