Bad experience...

Hey Laura

  1st of all let me start by saying you are wonderful inside and out.   You have done so much for yourself to make your life better and also helped other to make there lifes better.  I am proud that I have met you and can call you a friend.   There are people in the world that just to have a clue.  Like someone else said what goes around come around and that slimmy snake will get his someday.  You keep your head up high for your doing something that will make the world a better place.   You need to vent   that is ok bring it on for we are all here for each other.  That guy I bet does not  anyone because if he did he would have never said that.  Remember your loved.

Lisa

I had something similar happen to me a couple of summers ago.  I love the beach and the water and no matter what size I am I have always put on a bathing suit and enjoyed the water.  I was on the beach and someone yelled out the window "behold the whale."  It was very, very upsetting.  Here I was in my own little world just trying to feel "normal" when some idiot reminds me that I am not.  At that point in life my weight didn't really bother me.  I was full of life and took pride in my appearance.

About seven years ago I lost a lot of weight (of course slowly gained it all back) and I realized that no matter what size I was I still felt like me.  I had a hard time wtih the thinner me and even at a size 8/10 felt big.  After gaining all the weight back I tried to be invisable.  I stopped socializing, going places, and really just withdrew from life for a while.  Even at my old job I would hide in my office.  I was fooling myself trying to pretend that I had not gained weight.  I guess I felt that if peope weren't looking at me than how I looked was not a reality.

I took out some of those old 8/10 clothes just this week.  I can't believe I felt fat becuase they were so small.  I can't believe I ever wore them.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that it doesn't matter what size you are but how you feel inside that matters.  People are cruel and will pick on anything that is different.  You could be a size 2 and that type of idiot will find something to yell out the window about. 

Just think of how blessed you are to be you right now and able to take a walk with someone you love.  That idiot will always be an idiot and you will always be you.  Be proud of you and all the accomplishments you have made.

Jen

Jenny - thanks for sharing your story with me too. It makes me sad that this happens to people who are obese but yet the world seems so accepting of so many other things - why not us?

~Laura

Thanks Lisa. The funny thing is, I dont even care if he *gets his* because it probably wouldnt phase him anyways. He is a jerk - bottom line. I'm over it.

~Laura

What a creep! You know what I would have done? I would have slapped my ass and said......(fill in the blank)!

I'd be willing to bet he was just jealous because Joe was walkin' with a major babe!

Laura, what is 'normal'? Those women on the cover of Glamor magazine? The guys in GQ? NO...WE, my dear, are NORMAL!

I agree with absolutely EVERYONE here! The was a slug! Imagine how unhappy he must be with his life! That's so pathetic!

Don't feel sorry for yourself! Feel sorry for that poor pathetic piece of (fill in the blank again). Imagine feeling so aweful about your own life that you have to make someone else miserable just to feel one single ounce of happiness.

Honey, you're normal, beautiful, amazing, loving, caring, vibrant, young, motivated, insightful, happy, thoughtful, (I want you to fill in these blanks now)........AND

YOU ARE LOVABLE, CAPABLE AND WORTH IT!

My Angel, my inspiration, my friend, my family.....Always!

I love you!

Jules

Thanks Jules. I really appreciate your support and motivation. You are an awesome person and I'm glad that you are part of my life

I'm over it - it's been a few days and the sting has worn off.

~Laura

Laura,

I can't say anything more than what's been said already......... but I am truly sorry for your experience.  My heart is saddend for the way his comments made you feel.  I'm sure we all felt that pain along with you.

You are such a remarkable young woman, and I am very happy to have made your acquaintance.  Never underestimate yourself, my dear.  You are phenomenal!!

Hugs,
Vicky

"You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be."
~David Viscott

Vicky - I'm glad that I've met you too! Thanks for your support. That's why I love OH - you are all amazing!

~Laura

Keep on walikin' !  After my surgery 2 1/2 years ago I lost a lot of weight very fast but was still fat.   It was very disheartening but it was the truth.  I never gave up, had confidence that I would someday look "normal", walked, exercised, and ate wisely.
Well, I lost 165 pounds.  Today I'm 168 lbs. and wear medium shirts where I was once a 5X.
Don't worry what the world thinks about you or what crass people say.  Pay attention to what you think about yourself, set a vision in your head about what you want to look like, and work hard to achieve that vision.

I never was a wallflower... in college I maybe weighed 175 lbs but I was only 5 feet (I weigh more now lol!!!)

I was a freshman and was taking a class about equality - go figure.  There were these two really rude girls in the class and they were picking on some other girl for whatever reason I cannot remember.  I said something to them and one girl looked at me and said "shut up you fat *****" Those words stung... I never felt embarrassed about my weight until she said that.

Another girl in my class was from New York- and I mean thug life NY- She looked at the girls and said "she can lose fat, but you can't lose ugly and I mean your face and your personality"

I was surprised by her quick reaction to stick up for me, since I really didn't know her (and lets face it the first semester of college still feels like High School!)

Anytime I feel bad about myself I think of what she said... and yeah, while I may be fat right now the person I am inside is truly what matters.