What the hell?
Firstly,...........I'm sick. Yesterdays chest x-ray is showing "something" and my PCP didn't want to leave the message on the answering machine, so she's asked me to call her back today to discuss this. So I will. But I came here yesterday afternoon and this morning for some laughs and some support and just some overall good natured sharing.............but what do I find??...Bull**** And if you don't like my language, please excuse me, but I'm angry as hell and I'm going to tell you why.
This RI board has ALWAYS been a place to scream, shout, cry, discuss, banter, and most of all, make new friends who sincerely CARE about each other. I've been on the mainboard MANY times and I like it there, but it's nothing compared to "home" (the RI board). We can talk here...we can get to know each other. We can share the good, the bad and the ugly and EVERY SINGLE TIME, someone steps up to lend a hand, and ear, a shoulder to cry on, or just make you laugh........SOMETHING! But what we have now is bickering and side taking, and I for one, will NOT participate or play into this crap.
I don't give a rats ass if you have lapband, RNY or a garden hose with bubble gum and scotch tape on it........surgery is surgery and EVERYONE is equal here. Do people have issues with surgeons......YES, of course! Do people have preferences on what surgery they like.......YES, of course! Fine. Great! Sometimes we arn't going to like what someone says. I have no doubt that feelings were hurt here during the past few days. And for that, I'm truly sorry. But nothing was "intended" to hurt anyone in particular here, and one member was just venting some feelings that she's had for some time. So what? Personally, I like Dr. Pohl......and I like lapband surgery. But do I support the person who had a bad experience with Dr. Pohl???.........YES! It happened. We don't know why those things happened to her and her family. But it happened. I'm sure Dr. Roye (my own preferred "hero"), has pissed some people off in his day. It happens. And as Kristen sort of referred to,.......a surgeon is still a human being and sometimes people just don't click! Sorry! It happens. But we, as a group, need to understand that not everyone has the same experiences with the same outcomes.
And then we come to the point of my raving.......a few comments were made about a surgeon,...we can all agree to that. BUT, nothing was ever directed towards a member of this RI board about choice or anything else. And what I then read was someone dumping the ENTIRE board, as if we all just slapped this individual in the face. Well, what the hell??? Someone (who rarely posts) comes in here and says BYE BYE to ALL OF YOU! for the comments of one...................Ok! BYE! 
I know what I read. I know I read that the lapband forum is the "place to be" because they don't bash!!! BULL****!! I was on the main board not too long ago, and dropped into a topic about RNY vs. LAPBAND. I gave my opinion why I considered lap band last year and then changed my mind. Jesus H Christ, the lap band police came out of the woodwork and chewed me up and spit me out again.....and THEN....one of the ring leaders went back to the LB forum and proceeded to just, in my opinion, slander the **** out of me. People that I've never spoken with called me *****es and *****s and made whatever judegements they could conclude from one womans rant. I suppose she thought I was stupid and wouldn't go check out that board.......HA...I read it all. And I copied it and pasted it into a document that I could keep so that I could remember those who truly just jumped on some frickin band wagon that happened to be passing by that day.
Well, here's my opinion........for whatever it's worth to anyone. I say good riddence to anyone who comes here and then publicly DUMPS an entire group of people for the comments of one. I read the GOODBYE post yesterday and thought about it......wrote something....then closed the window .....cause you know what mama's always say. If you don't have something nice to say, don't open your big fat yap! Well, I went back and looked at that document that I copied out of the LB forum and I got pissed again this morning. So now my big fat yap is open and I've got something to say about this kind of nonsense. I see it all the time on the main board. The pissy comments and the cliques that don't acknowledge anyone else......for whatever reason. Well the comments made about a particular surgeon, while offensive to a couple of people, were justified because it was a situation which made life very hard for the poster. Do we all agree?......NO. Do we stand by her?......YES. Would we have stood by the person who was insulted......YES, absolutely!!!!!!!!!!! But to stand up and say....goodbye to ALL of you!!!!...well, see ya later!!!!. Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out!!!!!
And like any group of people, not everyone clicks with everyone. Sad but true. But that kind of 6th grade bull**** ****** me off to no end. ANY group of people will have instigators.....BTW....there are some in the LB forum. YES I said it. So for the person who believes it's better over there, I wish em luck. Don't say the wrong thing or duck when you do.
It takes all kinds to make this world turn. And to all of my RI board members, I hold you ALL dear in my heart, and I don't care what surgery you had or what you think about my surgeon or if you don't like my dogs name. You're all special and I will support each and every one of you. And if I get some hate mail for this, so be it. I wanted to speak my piece on this issue. I'm sick and tired of seeing this crap on the mainboard, and I don't want to see this nonsense spread to our "home" base. If we don't stick by each other, then what else is there?
Now I'm going to go relax and wait to call my PCP to see if I'm going in the hospital today. I love you all and I'm hoping you all have a very nice day.
Shel
I know what I read. I know I read that the lapband forum is the "place to be" because they don't bash!!! BULL****!! I was on the main board not too long ago, and dropped into a topic about RNY vs. LAPBAND. I gave my opinion why I considered lap band last year and then changed my mind. Jesus H Christ, the lap band police came out of the woodwork and chewed me up and spit me out again.....and THEN....one of the ring leaders went back to the LB forum and proceeded to just, in my opinion, slander the **** out of me. People that I've never spoken with called me *****es and *****s and made whatever judegements they could conclude from one womans rant. I suppose she thought I was stupid and wouldn't go check out that board.......HA...I read it all. And I copied it and pasted it into a document that I could keep so that I could remember those who truly just jumped on some frickin band wagon that happened to be passing by that day.
Well, here's my opinion........for whatever it's worth to anyone. I say good riddence to anyone who comes here and then publicly DUMPS an entire group of people for the comments of one. I read the GOODBYE post yesterday and thought about it......wrote something....then closed the window .....cause you know what mama's always say. If you don't have something nice to say, don't open your big fat yap! Well, I went back and looked at that document that I copied out of the LB forum and I got pissed again this morning. So now my big fat yap is open and I've got something to say about this kind of nonsense. I see it all the time on the main board. The pissy comments and the cliques that don't acknowledge anyone else......for whatever reason. Well the comments made about a particular surgeon, while offensive to a couple of people, were justified because it was a situation which made life very hard for the poster. Do we all agree?......NO. Do we stand by her?......YES. Would we have stood by the person who was insulted......YES, absolutely!!!!!!!!!!! But to stand up and say....goodbye to ALL of you!!!!...well, see ya later!!!!. Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out!!!!!
And like any group of people, not everyone clicks with everyone. Sad but true. But that kind of 6th grade bull**** ****** me off to no end. ANY group of people will have instigators.....BTW....there are some in the LB forum. YES I said it. So for the person who believes it's better over there, I wish em luck. Don't say the wrong thing or duck when you do.
It takes all kinds to make this world turn. And to all of my RI board members, I hold you ALL dear in my heart, and I don't care what surgery you had or what you think about my surgeon or if you don't like my dogs name. You're all special and I will support each and every one of you. And if I get some hate mail for this, so be it. I wanted to speak my piece on this issue. I'm sick and tired of seeing this crap on the mainboard, and I don't want to see this nonsense spread to our "home" base. If we don't stick by each other, then what else is there?
Now I'm going to go relax and wait to call my PCP to see if I'm going in the hospital today. I love you all and I'm hoping you all have a very nice day.
Shel 
All I'm gonna say is your the best
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Hope you feel better hun! And be sure to do what ever Dr. Adams tells ya to do
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Keep us posted,
NaDene
I hope no one takes this the wrong way, as I to enjoy the support and friendship I have found here in the RI room, but Shel, thanks for having the balls for posting what most of us were probably thinking, but didn't want to "offend" anyone. I know that I was thinking "wtf" when I read that post, and felt the same way that you do, but I didn't want to post because I was unsure of how others would take it. Now I won't be nervous to post my true feelings in here because I know that I will be respected for whatever my opinion is, regardless of who agrees or who does not agree. I think that as long as someone expresses themselves in an appropriate manner, which was clearly done in Nadine's post, than that is ok. The other post from that person who I have never even seen in here, was not ok...it just seems that people like that want to stir the "****". Maybe I am wrong, but I am not going to waste my time writing about it.
Hope you do well at the doctor's today, and I hope all the news is good news.
WhooooHooooo Shel,
You said it all...You're my hero....I wanna be just like you....I have to learn to say what I want too when people sound off like that. I give you credit, You said everything that I was thinking....I'm sure glad you're my angel cuz You're the bestest!!!
Anyone who can just dismiss the entire board for one person's comments isn't all there...this board is for us to express our individual feelings, and be able to say anything about any surgeon, procedure etc. We don't need people making us feel bad, or giving us **** about anything...this is one of the most important things that we are going to go through in our whole life, and I'm not gonna let any one person get me upset....I'm off my blood pressure meds, and I won't let this get my blood pressure up...its just not worth it..
Teri
Teri 
Shel,
All I can say is WOW!! YOU PUT EVERYTHING INTO WORDS THAT I GUESS MOST OF US WERE THINKING. KUDOS TO YOU!!!!.
After I read that post, I thought to myself wtf too!!. LIke you said, doctors are very human...and we all have had problems with one at some time in our lives and are affected by it. Some click with some doctors and some dont. Thats life and if you dont like a certain doctor, then by all means, find another one. That is our choice!!
Actually, listening to people talk about their problems with their doctors is a very good thing. As they say "KNOWLEDGE IS EVERYTHING" You read and listen to others and at times you find out more and more about a certain physican, as they have many facets to their personalties too. If you happend to have that certain physician, then you will know more about them and make your desision then. JMO carol
Shel- All I got to say is WWWOOOWWW!!! U said it in less than a thousands words that i could not have said. On this side of the board I have not come in contact with anyone that was talking bad about doctors in RI. When I saw that post I thought I went into the wrong forum. Great job Shell!!
Shannon
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