Who supports you? Questions...
Hi,
I'm just curious, who is the most supportive in your life?
What do you find helpful? What do you find NOT helpful?
Has jealousy following your surgery every been an issue?
I'm just curious..
I personally don't like people telling me what to do.. or what to eat, however my husband has been extrememly helpful since my surgery was cancelled and keeps telling me I can do it! and encouraging my little milestones. However, people telling me not to worry, and when it's meant to be, it will be frustrates the HELL out of me.
Some FAT people wait there WHOLE life to be healthy... waiting another few months sometimes feels like it WILL kill us!
Sorry.. just a few thoughts off the top of my head ;)
I'm just curious, who is the most supportive in your life?
What do you find helpful? What do you find NOT helpful?
Has jealousy following your surgery every been an issue?
I'm just curious..
I personally don't like people telling me what to do.. or what to eat, however my husband has been extrememly helpful since my surgery was cancelled and keeps telling me I can do it! and encouraging my little milestones. However, people telling me not to worry, and when it's meant to be, it will be frustrates the HELL out of me.
Some FAT people wait there WHOLE life to be healthy... waiting another few months sometimes feels like it WILL kill us!
Sorry.. just a few thoughts off the top of my head ;)
Hi,
Well I waited for 7 years in total so I know how it feels to wait. I was told October...postponed to December and finally had the surgery january 10th 2012. It's heartbreaking but the truth is that most "normal"sized people have no idea what we go through.
That being said my daughter is by far the most supportive for me. My boss is a close second. If I didn't have the support of my boss I think that it would have been a bit more "awkward" going back to work. Not everyone at work knows I had surgery.My immediate family knows but I live by the philosophy that my surgery is on a "need to know basis" and I'm the one that decides if someone needs to know.
I can't say I've encountered blatant jealousy but some people seem to totally ignore the fact that I've lost over 85 pounds. But that's ok too...I don't need their acknowledgement to do what I need to do.
My fingers are crossed for you and I know waiting sucks but it will happen...trust me...I know...
Bye for now,
Ada
Hi Ada!
Thanks for your reply!
I am on the "need to know" basis too.. however, people talk.. and I'm sure more people know that I think....
I have some great supporters and then some not so great!
My boss is also awesome - which has really helped the whole situation!
85 lbs! Way to go girl! You are so inspiring!
I got a call this week, July 17th.. but like I said. I believe it when I start couting backwards from 100.... 99....98.... ;)
Are you going to the meeting this month? Can't wait to see your progress!
Take care!
B
Thanks for your reply!
I am on the "need to know" basis too.. however, people talk.. and I'm sure more people know that I think....
I have some great supporters and then some not so great!
My boss is also awesome - which has really helped the whole situation!
85 lbs! Way to go girl! You are so inspiring!
I got a call this week, July 17th.. but like I said. I believe it when I start couting backwards from 100.... 99....98.... ;)
Are you going to the meeting this month? Can't wait to see your progress!
Take care!
B
Thanks...and yup I'll be at the meeting...it's great to be with people who "understand" you and what you are going through...
One thing I forgot to say before and that is I'm willing to share with people who are genuinely interested in knowing how I'm losing the weight and if it could help someone else but for idle gossip...forget about it!!
What's also fantastic for me now is that I love going to the gym!!! Crazy...I go 3-4 times a week and during that time I work 2 of those times with a personal (very hot may I add) trainer. I'm lucky that at work my insurance covers naturopathy and kinesiology so 80% of the fees are covered. Since my trainer is recognised in both domains. So anyone with insurance should take advantage of it.
Bye for now,
Ada
WOO HOO 85 lbs, that is FANTASTIC Congrats to you Ada.
I cannot believe that some people are actually be jealous of your success - I am positive that I will encounter some of these people, and I think it will just fuel me even more to continue and fuel their jealousy even more. :-)
Am also waiting for my call, patiently. :-) my time will come. Sooner rather than later I hope. :-)
I love your comment --- I so agree.
It's heartbreaking but the truth is that most "normal"sized people have no idea what we go through.
I cannot believe that some people are actually be jealous of your success - I am positive that I will encounter some of these people, and I think it will just fuel me even more to continue and fuel their jealousy even more. :-)
Am also waiting for my call, patiently. :-) my time will come. Sooner rather than later I hope. :-)
I love your comment --- I so agree.
It's heartbreaking but the truth is that most "normal"sized people have no idea what we go through.
Thanks Kelley...and you 're right it does fuel me more too...but those people I just ignore. I really try and eliminate any type of negativity from my life...sometimes it's hard but it's those times I say to my self that I've come such a freakin' long way...I deserve to be happy...we all deserve to be happy!
Good morning ladies
Yeaaah. July 17th, :-) that's great.
I have the same questions you do. My problem is, I haven't told ANYBODY that I am awaiting surgery. I dont' know why I keep putting it off. Maybe it is because I am afraid of judgement, or negativity. I am getting closer to telling my boyfriend, but I just cannot seem to say the words.. WHY WHY WHY? I also haven't told my 10 year old & my mother... :-(
Does this make sense? Why do I keep putting it off? I know they will be supportive, but...???
I wonder, if maybe once I do Open my mouth and tell people, maybe I'll get the call, It may mean I am 100% ready for this. (which I believe I am)
I also wonder about "after", I am very shy and tend to keep to myself at work and know that once the lbs come off and I get smaller and smaller, people will talk and wonder WTF....... LOL Do you find yourself explaining to people "why" or "how" you are losing weight or do they just let it be after you say "thank you, have been watching what I eat".... I don't want to tell anybody here at work about the procedure. why?? I have no idea. NOthing to be embarrassed about, I just don't want people to talk talk talk behind my back. People have this misconception that this surgery is "the easy way out" but they are just uneducated.... This is in no way EASY....
Am I just being silly? I think that I have very low self esteem now but once I have the procedure, lose the weight & definately become more confident, I won't really care what is being said. :-)
Thanks guys for listening.
Kellie
Yeaaah. July 17th, :-) that's great.
I have the same questions you do. My problem is, I haven't told ANYBODY that I am awaiting surgery. I dont' know why I keep putting it off. Maybe it is because I am afraid of judgement, or negativity. I am getting closer to telling my boyfriend, but I just cannot seem to say the words.. WHY WHY WHY? I also haven't told my 10 year old & my mother... :-(
Does this make sense? Why do I keep putting it off? I know they will be supportive, but...???
I wonder, if maybe once I do Open my mouth and tell people, maybe I'll get the call, It may mean I am 100% ready for this. (which I believe I am)
I also wonder about "after", I am very shy and tend to keep to myself at work and know that once the lbs come off and I get smaller and smaller, people will talk and wonder WTF....... LOL Do you find yourself explaining to people "why" or "how" you are losing weight or do they just let it be after you say "thank you, have been watching what I eat".... I don't want to tell anybody here at work about the procedure. why?? I have no idea. NOthing to be embarrassed about, I just don't want people to talk talk talk behind my back. People have this misconception that this surgery is "the easy way out" but they are just uneducated.... This is in no way EASY....
Am I just being silly? I think that I have very low self esteem now but once I have the procedure, lose the weight & definately become more confident, I won't really care what is being said. :-)
Thanks guys for listening.
Kellie
Hey Kellie!
I TOTALLY hear you and understand you!
I've told my family and a select group, but already it's spread like a wild fire to people I had choosen not to educate...
I could not agree more with you about not taking the easy way out.. This will be a full time commitment for the REST of OUR LIVES! Nothing easy about that!
I don't think you are being silly, but those close to you that you love and they love you back, I think you should tell them.
I could not agree with you more about when you are ready the call will come... I finally started taking my surgery seriously and actually doing my homework and bam, I got the call!!!! :)
hang in there!
Hugs
B
I TOTALLY hear you and understand you!
I've told my family and a select group, but already it's spread like a wild fire to people I had choosen not to educate...
I could not agree more with you about not taking the easy way out.. This will be a full time commitment for the REST of OUR LIVES! Nothing easy about that!
I don't think you are being silly, but those close to you that you love and they love you back, I think you should tell them.
I could not agree with you more about when you are ready the call will come... I finally started taking my surgery seriously and actually doing my homework and bam, I got the call!!!! :)
hang in there!
Hugs
B
Okay, it's official. I will tell my family this weekend. (or will start with my boyfriend lol) I will ask them not to spread the word and to keep it within the close family. If I am ready to tell them in the future, that's my choice. :-)
I think my family will be surprised at how much I have researched and educated myself on the procedure & how it will change my relationship with food for the rest of my life. They will definately be supportive and am sure will help me through everything. There is a lot of planning involved for after the procedure which I'll definatley need their assistance with.
My workplace, am not sure yet if I will tell them anything besides I am no a diet. LOL Let them talk all they want. LOL Maybe a select few whom I know will be supportive.
Am ready for this commitment. I have a feeling that I'll get a call near September. Not sure why, I just do. :-)
I almost forgot to ask, how does the optifast taste???
Xoxoxo
Kellie
I think my family will be surprised at how much I have researched and educated myself on the procedure & how it will change my relationship with food for the rest of my life. They will definately be supportive and am sure will help me through everything. There is a lot of planning involved for after the procedure which I'll definatley need their assistance with.
My workplace, am not sure yet if I will tell them anything besides I am no a diet. LOL Let them talk all they want. LOL Maybe a select few whom I know will be supportive.
Am ready for this commitment. I have a feeling that I'll get a call near September. Not sure why, I just do. :-)
I almost forgot to ask, how does the optifast taste???
Xoxoxo
Kellie
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