Self worth post op...

 Seems that the more weight I lose the less my self esteem goes.  I know that sounds a bit odd.  I constantly get reassurance from all angles, except from within.  I am thinking that maybe seeing a therapist to deal with these new issues may be worth it.

 Before when I was bigger-  maybe it was denial- but I felt sexy, desirable, sometimes even hot-  even though i KNOW I didn't look like it.  

Don't get me wrong... I am very proud of where I have gotten and where I am going, I think I just need to invest a bit more into me.

Does anyone else post-op feel, or have felt, this way?  

How long does this weirdness with yourself last?  Is it because I am STILL not at goal?  Feeling like woot I lost over 300 pounds... but ugh I still need to lose another person is starting to weigh on my mind.

-Sarah

Hi Sarah,
I don't really know how I will feel post op but what I do know is that you've alreay lost 2/3 of what you want to lose and that's amazing. Obviously you must give time for your body and mind to adjust to your current weight! Give it time and you will start to feel better about yourself.

Derek

Always maintain a positive outlook. You have made a big accomplishment. Be proud and remember keep your head up and know that you have worked hard to get where you are today.I hope one day that I canpost what you have done. Be proud and know we are all behind you.
Hugs    Doris

Althought I don`t feel this week I can fully understand. I am looking at the weight I have to lose and I see the numbers being very big. I see success story but I also see that I have a long way to go.

However, I look on the bright side and tell myself that if other were able to do it, I will also be a winner.

Set small goals at the time and you will not see the light so far away in front of you.

Keep up the good work.

Nathalie

Hi Sarah!

From what I've read and heard from post-ops, major weight loss affects self perception for most (if not all) people. It seems that our brain takes much more longer to adapt to this new situation than the amount of time required to lose the weight.

Pre-op, I never had an exact mental representation of what I looked like to others (maybe because of denial of my clearly obvious problem). Now that I get daily comments on my new look, I have trouble dealing with the fact that (apart from the weight I lost), I'm still the same human being even though people perceive me as a totally new person...

If you think that geting professionnal help could help you, then I strongly encourage you to seek some. I have trouble dealing with a 145some pounds loss; I can hardly imagine the kind of adaptation you must go through...But be assured that people on this board really care about you and will do as much as we can to help you!

Please, do keep us posted!

I know what you mean, I felt the same way... Like Joel said, it takes time for the mind to catch up, I also have problems with body image, but it is starting to sink in. Adapting to a new body image takes time, goal or not. 
You did an amazing job already, and you have to be kind on yourself, let time help you adapt... I don't think therapy will help to reconstruct your self-image, but it could help with self esteem and relation to food.
Don't look too far away, fix yourself mini-goals, and be proud of what you'll have already accomplished!!

((hugs))
Diane