The basic flaw with OH's R&R board

Actually, I think the r and r board is really funny! It actually makes me laugh! Someone from here (was it Chelle?) posted to say the lapband is best FOR ME!. The first few answers were great, all basically saying my WLS is best FOR ME! And then the idiots took over!! Any of you guys study Psychology? There is a well known theory which is that when we make a choice, the harder it was to convince ourselves it was the right choice in the first place and the greater the possible consequences of that choice, the more blind we are afterwards to any other choice having any merit at all!! Sound familiar? Kate

Oh yes, I have studied Psychology and Human Behavior all my life. So the responses I got to that little post were totally expected. I do love the ones from those folks who understood that I was talking about the individual choice and nothing else.

Classic, isn't it, Chelle? The most aggressive in defending their choice are those whose choice was the hardest. They may say it wasn't, but no intelligent person is going to have such major surgery without a great deal of thought. I have no quarrel whatsoever with their decision. If it works for them - fantastic! If my band doesn't continue to be so fantastic for me, I will look at other WLS - and consider all types. But if it was an easy decision, they were not being sensible. We had a less difficult decision. The surgery was less and the procedure can be reversed. It may be harder to lose weight but if we don't succeed we can, if we wish, have another form of WLS. So still a major decision but not as great as for others. So, classically, we don't have to defend our choice so aggressively. Kate

Kate, that makes so much sense! I would never dream of trying to talk anyone into MY choice. I couldn't care less what surgery anyone has. They do protest too much!

Work, I thought it was hilarious when you were told to "go back to your island". It was like they were saying (ominously), "We know where you live...bwah ha ha." Tami

That was funny. I am so proud of my fellow bandsters who are diplomatic and even keel. I have already broken my own rule and bullied back at the bullies and said what I was thinking. Your pic on that forum is just amazing. You are a real inspiration.

I am bound and determined to simply kill 'em with kindness. It actually gives me great pleasure to turn the other cheek, and demonstrate a different way to interact with people on a message board. But, I sure do appreciate those of you who make the reading more interesting, LOL. I switched out my avatar when my daughter say the torso one, and said, "Gee, Mom, showing off much? LOL Hey, I *was* showing off...to the DS'ers who were claiming that "lapbanders don't get to goal". The point was made, and now I'm off to my "happy place". There's no place like "oohhm". And darlin' you are one gorgeous chick, and a real inspiration, too! Tami

I think the way we Bandsters have conducted ourselves is something to be proud of. I did have a bit of fun with Dee over there, but for the most part, I try to be respectful. I don't understand the constant anger that some people have.

Its so amazing that she thinks she is fooling us. The minute she starts typing/talking she might as well have a neon sign over her head saying (Hide dee). You did good so did Chelle and all the bandsters.

I'm not really sure why she doesn't just come back as herself.