Very discouraged

Got on the scales today (usually I do Saturdays). Guess what I see? The same number that's registered on my scales for 3 months I am going nowhere fast. I get so discouraged that I can't describe it. It depresses me even more to see people on the band board losing like crazy and here I stand waiting for an ounce to drop off. I am thinking back to August when I had my 18 month old niece living with us. I was overwhelmed with the extra work and found that I didn't eat dinner many nights. I was too busy taking care of her and my family to take care of myself. I lost 3lbs in a week by eating like 2 meals a day. I think my body will only let go of this weight by me not eating 3 meals a day. I seriously do. I'm thinking that I will need to get another fill to bring me to a point where I just don't care about eating and possibly try not to eat dinner at night and see if it works. I know that sounds absolutely crazy, but going for this long with no results and really putting forth a valiant effort since the 1st of the year I'm desperate to try anything. I read Naomi's post this morning about losing 8lbs and it brought me to tears. I'm thinking why is this working for everyone and not me? I am seeing the nutritionist on the 30th. I will call to make a fill appointment and then tell the nutrionist what I'm feeling and see if she has any ideas. It may just be a fill is all I need to drop my consumption down to the level that makes me lose weight. I'm so sorry to unload my feelings on you all. I just need to tell someone or I think I might explode. DH doesn't understand and my major form of support lives 12 hours away.....my sister. She's the skinny one on the family and is a huge help. Again, sorry to be a downer this morning. Have a good day everyone.

Karen, I am so sorry you are feeling down today. I fully understand how this "support" group can become depressing. It really hurts to see everyone dropping weight and there you sit gaining. For me, it was my own fault. I had totally gone back to old eating habits and was overloading on carbs/sweets. But for you it's even worse because you are doing everything you are supposed to do. I really think your appointment with the nutritionist should help. I just went for the first time since my pre-surgery appts. and it made a world of difference for me. Just make sure you are TOTALLY honest with her on what you are eating and the amount you are eating. If you don't already, I would keep a journal of every morsel whether it's sollid or liquid that goes into your mouth. I wish you all the best sweetie. This weight loss business is really the pits most of the time.

Thanks Kimberly. It helps for me to post what I eat here and I am going to go back and copy them off so I can show her. I'll keep you posted.

I am so sorry to hear you feel this way. It will pass soon I am sure. Just think in the past years, how we would have gained 10 pounds from Halloween to New Year's. Staying the same is really an accomplishment! Hang in there - you are doing just fine.

Thanks Chelle. I agree, I could have easily put on weight over the holidays but didn't. That's a first. I have come so far and I don't want to stop now...I'd like to know what's it's like to where a size 14 for once in my life!

Are you exercising Karen? I got to a point in my weight loss where the pounds just wouldnt come off unless I moved my rear end. Before that I really didnt exercise at all and the weight came off. I just ate less and I thought I could get to goal that way, but no such luck. I am eating less too and have good restriction. Here is a sample of my day. 5:00 a.m- coffee 7:00 a.m protein shake 10:45 a.m-1/2 tuna sandwich w/sprouts 12:45-1/2 an orange 4:00 p.m.-salmon burger, and sweet potato 7:00 p.m. couple pieces of cheese. I have to eat less and in many intervals now because I dont have the time in the day to really sit down and eat. And being rushed can make my band tight. But its working. So just something to think about...maybe smaller meals? Mini meals are supposed to be good for our metabolism. I know that keeping my blood sugar steady helps me avoid "crashing" during the day. We are all here for you sweet girl! Never feel like you cant ask for support. Let us know what your NUT says if you go in.

Lenora, that is a really good diet plan and I am thinking about trying the smaller meals too. It really makes sense for bandsters, doesn't it?

Thanks Lenora. Last summer I was doing great with the exercise, walking 2-3 miles a day. Then I had to take care of my niece and the walking stopped. Since then I've had a hard time getting into it because it has been too cold. I don't like treadmills, they bore me. I'd rather put the ipod on and go outside. So yes, the exercise has slacked off, lately I've been doing the Walk Away the Pounds with Leslie Sansone. I found though that even when exercising I wasn't losing any weight steadily. I did a challenge at work once. 1 month of exercise and eating right. I exercised every day and followed a food plan to the "t"....I lost nothing for the whole month. It's so depressing. I do agree that exercise is so necessary and even more so when we get closer to goal. I find it hard to find my groove with exercise though. Once this weather breaks I will be out as often as I can. In fact as soon as my son gets home from school I'm going to have him stay with my daughter who is home sick today so I can walk. It's cold, but sunny. I like the idea of more frequent meals because I have trouble with dips in my blood sugar. The other day I was shaking by lunchtime...took about 5 minutes into eating my lunch before I quit shaking. I don't like it when that happens! Thanks for your tips, I appreciate it. Karen

Hi Karen, I totally understand where you are coming from. I did the same thing when I was at the 200 lb. mark. Nothing was coming off. I was frustrated. Have you had a fill lately? It helped me get off my plateau. Also change your eating. Eat more protein and change your exercise routine. That will also jump start your loss. Hang in there. It will happen. Mona

Thanks Mona. I had a fill in November. I feel restriction quite well. After a normal bandster meal my nose will start to run and that's it for me. I can eat 1/2 of a small chicken breast, last night it was 1/2 of a small fish filet. I don't weigh the meat, but I'm sure it's at least 3oz. Something has got to give at some point...I keep hoping anyway. I appreciate your ideas. Karen