Donna I am sorry that the lack of activity on this board is causing you pain and anxiety. I agree that Facebook has taken over in alot of ways I am friends with many people from here on Facebook and I am able to choose who I keep up with more specifically on that site. I also do still believe that there are many of us that will probably not use this board for the same type of support that we once did due to the break down of trust etc that has happened in various ways outside of the board. But that is ok. Many of us have moved on and do get our support from different people and in different arenas.  There are some other issues as well that many of the programs do not seem to promote OH. The two programs here in Lancaster rarely promote OH much less the PA board itself as a place to go and get support. I find that to be unfortunate.

I do think that this board could be active again and thrive again but what I think will need to happen is that a new generation of pre and post ops will need to take up the torch and make it a active supportive interactive board again. It is harder for us " old heads" to keep it going as we have moved on in many ways. I myself am 6 years out so I admit this is not the first place I think to come to and I often go weeks without checking in. I have found it to be remarkable that posts routinely have over 100 views but there are so few actual posts. So that shows me that this board is very active, but that it seems active with viewers and not posters. Maybe we could encourage some of the lurkers to come out and join in? In the mean time I hope you can still find some peace and support and I am sorry it is not what it once was. I am sad about that as well.

I always appreciate your posts when I do check in and I am sorry if I have let you down.

Hi Ida,

Given what you've experienced, I'm sure it was emotional. . . I wish you resolution in a manner that gives you satisfaction and closes that chapter for you and Gene.

I'm at work, been researching private dental plans, as my company in order to save money on insurance and so on, is changing our carriers for the 3rd time in the past 4 years and the new dental plan does not have my dentist/hygenist who I LOVE in the plan, so by the time I pay for it out of pocket, I'd do better to just pay for it myself and have coverage that I need.  Luckily, my doctors take the insurance we are switching too, but of course, the high deductible is now $2,000. . .  it's just impossible to look forward to any kind of retirement with all the expenses that will come with it and yet I so want to not have to work a fulltime job past the point of retirement age, let me keep it in the present, because who the heck knows what the next 9+ years will bring me.

Went to a noontime AA meeting and this evening I am meeting up with my friend Owen after work today to have sushi.  Something to look forward to.

Wishing you the best possible of days.

Laureen

Hi Deanna;

Welcome to the PA board!

Ida

Ida,

Hope all went well today. . .

I love kitties, but am very allergic to them, grew up with them and developed allergies around puberty.  I hope that it gets easier for Hider and Ez, but cats have such diverse personalities you just never know.  I have a good friend who had a cat that loved people and hated other cats (Briscoe) and one day after a few years, she found a kitten in the tree by where she lived, no tags, no owner and she named that  cat Sammie.  Briscoe wanted nothing to do with Sammie and would attack Sammie from time to time, she had both cats for a long time and Sammie got sick and had to be put down.  Well Briscoe would go all over the house after than and meow for long periods, the vet said even though Briscoe did not like sharing his home with Sammie, he was grieving, as was my friend, so she decided to give some time to the local shelter and she worked in the room with the older cats (over 3 years old), anyway, after a few months, she decided to adopt this one kittie that she named Daisy.  She thought it might help Briscoe with his grief, well he just went about trying to attack her, Briscoe eventually went to kitty heaven and my friend is happy with the one cat she now has, who while Briscoe was alive was very subdued and stayed out of his way, she tells me that Daisy's personality has taken a complete 180 and she is now a one cat person. 

I'm at work, going to watch my grandchildren at the gym this evening and possibly dinner afterwards. . .

Hope everyone has a good day!

Laureen

I didnt try the Ohio boards yet. That might be an idea. My hospital does have a support group and i do attend. Right now the only ones in attendance are people that are not near me. Hopefully that will change. I did attend an initial Info Group where the one woman that was there was someone I knew, but sadly I had to leave before the session was done and I really dont have her phone number. My Sis-in-law was interested in going that time with me but was sick and didnt want to get anyone else sick in the group. so I am waiting for her to get her butt back down there to start her 6 months, if she even needs that, so we can have each other. I have been pushing her to get down there for the session cause that is the only way to start your process. She was telling me that she definitely wants the RNY but she just seems stuck. I am not sure if it is because of her current situation with her surgeries or what. She just went through a surgery to fuse parts of her spinal column together. She is currently on disability as she was hurt on the job. 

Anywho, I will start to try to become more active here as everyone here has already had there WLS and is on the losers bench.

I am hoping that once my 6months is done that waiting for the ins co approval isnt too much longer.

I am in my 3rd month now. I just had 4 tests yesterday and I feel like a pincushion. LOL.