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i won't be able to make the meeting. i will be stopping in to get some protein. however, i have the child so i won't be able to stay....
on a side note, i reached goal today....
Lisa,
As has been said by others, your value and your commitment to others is one of the shining qualities you possess. . . and it has been said by people I know that if we could learn to harness that energy that we spend on others and spend a bit of it on ourselves, the results would be astounding. However, once ingrained to be the way you are, it is a hard thing to change. All I can tell you, is what I do myself and that is I wake up each day resolved that today will be the most successful day I can hope for, some days it is and others I have to restart my day many times over and then there are those days I give up trying in the hopes that tomorrow will be better.
As for the loneliness and feelings you speak of, I know all too well those feelings of not "feeling" included or thought of and I've learned to talk my way through them, realizing that just as I can get real busy, often thinking of people to contact, but either it being the wrong time of day or getting sidetracked by the things I have to do right in front of me, I realize another day, week, perhaps month has gone by and I haven't done my part. I've had to realize that others have the same sort of lives.
Girlfriend, you are MOM, work two jobs and doing it all on your own, so yeah, maybe sometimes you find yourself reaching out when you'd prefer it were the other way around, whatever way it takes to keep your friends close, don't let your feelings dictate how it should be, instead look inside and find if the relationships in your life are ones in which you find connection and joy when you are with those people. I, for one, am always happy to see you and love hearing, reading about your life, the ups and downs you handle with such dignity and love. This time of year is one where people tend to feel lonely more than other times of the year, the weather, the shorter days, the holidays, headlines such as are in the news right now, make me wonder what the hell the world has come to, but I want to say to you, you are a wonderful human being and anyone who is lucky enough to call you a friend, is blessed.
So do what you can to make yourself feel happy, but try to remember that when we use food for that source of pleasure, it is a double edged sword and has a way of making us feel bad in the end.
Hugs, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Come support each other during this sometimes difficult, stressful, but delightful holiday season.
As always, the main focus of this meeting are topics as they relate to post-ops, so please come by and share your WOW moments, as well as whatever else is on your mind.
The Place: 280 Middletown Boulevard, Langhorne, PA 19047
The time: 7 p.m. until approximately 8:30 p.m.
If you are celebrating a surgiversary, please bring any props (clothes worn prior to WLS, pictures), you will get 5 minutes to share what it was like, what it is like now and what you look forward to.
We have a nutritionist at every meeting and while all are welcome to attend our support groups, nutritional consults cannot be given to non-Barix patients, but no matter where you had surgery if you feel in need of support we welcome you!
On a last note, while we recognize that there are times when babysitting might be an issue, it would be appreciated if small children were not brought to the meeting, as there are times people have a need to discuss things where having a small child there inhibits their ability to discuss openly talk about what they need to. Thank you for your understanding.
Jill
Blessings, Jill
WLS 5/31/07. Maintaining a weight loss of 141 pounds and feeling amazing!
It's not a boast to share how wonderful your life has become as a part of doing all that this "new" life entails and it's especially a wonderful thing to read about your experiences and how having chosen to have WLS impacted your life in such a positive way!!! It is inspirational and what people need to know.
A great big 
for all that you've done and continue to do in your pursuit of living life the way the former you was only able to dream of!!! I wish you many years of continued high elevation climbs, in reality, as well as in your "successing" portion of your life!
Kind regards, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Morning everyone, feeling a bit better today. I'm still struggling a little bit with the time of year. But, I am trying to remember the things I have to be thankful for.
Thinking of Nicole today as she lays her beloved Pap to rest. I'm off to the dermatologist to get rid of a wart that has been on my finger for years. It never really bothered me until I tried over the counter products to get rid of it. Now, it is worse than it ever was.. go figure..
Later today, Siehara has an appointment with her therapist. She is still doing really well. She has dealt with school frustrations really well and has been using her manners and showing more appreciation for the little things that I do for her. What a fantastic improvement in our relationship!
Back to both jobs tomorrow. So, today I am going to work on my room. I didn't touch it at all yesterday. I guess I just needed a day to do nothing and reflect on life in general.
I'm going to try really hard to keep my food in check and drink my water.
Hope everyone has a great day! I'm going to try really hard to make mine good.
My tracker
hers 
Lisa,
I can totally relate to your feelings of loneliness, commitment to program, daily struggles and feelings about not having family during holiday times.
The month of December has always been difficult for me. I think it is a combination of early darkness, holidays, all the hoopla about Christmas and feeling left out.
It is good that you posted this here. I do not reach out so easily when I struggle, I think I can fix everything myself. I keep thinking that this should not be so hard at this point in time.
The last few days I've been writing down my frustrations. Please stay in touch and share whatever it is that you feel.
Lisa,
I can relate to what you are saying. For so many years I felt the same exact way. I don't know if it is age or just plain lack of energy but I don't get bent out of shape anymore. I used to beat myself up if I wasn't in touch with everyone. Now when I get to it - I do. I figure that they can pick up the phone or drop me an e-mail if they are interested. I try not to tie my self worth up in it because I only have control over my own thoughts and actions. Don't know if any of that makes sense or not. Just know that when I don't see you on the OH board I do miss you - even though I don't get around to saying it. Hang in there.
Donna
Thanks Donna, I often wonder about my family of choice, too, though. I feel like I am always the one reaching out. When I disappear from places, forums, websites, etc., it seems as if nobody misses me. Nobody picks up the phone to see if I'm ok. I'm always the one. I am really struggling right now and need to find help. I have thought about looking for an OA group that is local. But, I'm not sure if that is the right direction for me. I guess I won't know unless I try, right?
My tracker
hers
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