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Hugs, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
My weekend was o****il last night when my brother called me to let me know that my mom was taken to the hospital. Her temperature was VERY low and she hasn't been eating. She is in the ICU and talking about an NG tube for nutrition and medication. The doctors basically said it was either the NG tube or hospice...so I think we are going to try the tube. I don't know what to hope for. She has suffered long enough but I am having difficulty dealing with the possibility of the loss of my mom. Although in many ways I feel like I lost her many years ago. She is just a shell of the woman I remember. My head hurts and my stomach is in knots.
OH friends please pray for me (and mom) that I have the strength to get through this!! I know once she passes she will be in a much better place. It has been torture to watch her slowly slip away...
Beth
Part of me wants to have the surgery next month since i have been researching everything for so long. The other part of me knows that i cant because i have not learned the basics from my nutritionist. It seems like i have been looking things up for years and becoming positive that this is the step i need to take. It has been many hours thinking that i dont want this tool for vanity reasons but because i need to become healthier. I need to start now so that i wont need to be on some many pills as my parents and grandparents were, and still are.
Just when i think i have my questions answered, i find a new one. I am glad I have some people to turn to that have been down this road and know what to expect.
Thanks

My name is Donna and I am 3 years out from lap RNY. I live in Philly so I am not close to you geographically. This is a very friendly board so please feel free to ask questions. People are usually good about replying. The journey that you are starting is one that is liufe changing. I originally lost 105 lbs but have put 30 back on due to the stress of being unemployed. I dread to think how fat I would be now if I hadn't had the surgery. I hope that your hospital has a support group so that you can meet other people who are going through what you are. Many of us on here attend a support group at Barix hospital right outside Philadelphia. That has been so important to me especially as I move further away from my surgery. Just wanted to say hi to you and hope that you will keep us informed about your journey. Take care.
Donna
Please be assured of my prayers for you and your mom. It must be difficult to see your mom slowly slip away. My father died from a brain tumor almost 20 years ago. It took place in a matter of months but now I see that we were lucky that he didn't linger. Thank God that my mom is going strong at 81. I know that I appreciate her more now than before my dad died. No one is guaranteed tomorrow so I try to make every day count when it comes to the people I care about. I will pray that you will be peaceful and remain strong for whatever comes your way. Take care my friend.

Laureen, thanks for your encouragement on OFF, about sponsoring. It helped.
Today, I am reversing my AA meeting and bloodwork from my OFF post. Both my sponsee and I overslept, and decided to make the noon meeting, rather than the 9:00 am. I then have my volunteer work.
Yesterday, my sponsor spoke at the morning AA meeting, so I went to support her, and introduce her to my sponsee. We then went out to lunch at a diner nearby. She got breakfast, and I got lunch. I got a mini meal that was anything but mini. Oy. Soup, protein, veggie, potatoes, roll and butter. I took about 80% of it home, and made two more meals. Utley helped. LOL
I better get a move on. Looks like a lovely Autumn day.
Hugs,
Trish
Albert Schweitzer

Hi my name is Deanna. I am 42yo. I live in NW PA, about 40miles south of Erie. I have been researching RNY for over a year now. My uncle had WLS about 3 years ago. He had a complication, due to his not following his doctors orders, and had to go back into the hospital to fix the incision. He has good now and follows the docs orders to the "T". He has been off his diabetic meds since the surgery and recommends the procedure. His daughter, my cousin will be going for the surgery soon. I am not sure when. So I have had some family to talk to about this procedure.
I have been on and off diets since about the age of 18. I have been to Curves, Weigh****chers. I have tried Slim fast and all those fad diets over the years. I cant remember all the different ones i have done. I would always lose some and then gain it all back. At one time I was down to 195 and looked and felt great. Then as it happens with all of us, traumatic events make you binge. Between the death of my grandfather due to his diabetic issues, then getting a new job which made my travel time one way an hour, then the moving to a home closer to my work, the lose of my ex-husbands job, then finally the divorce. By the time i looked down at the scale last year it was reading 240lbs.
I recently started going to the gym every day, or at least trying to but my kids school activities prevent that most days. I had such good intentions on going to the gym but my 16 yr old doesnt drive and is in sports so i need to get him to the school for practices. I am constantly being SuperMom at home but getting little help from the BF or the kids. I just feel that I need to focus on me now and get myself feeling better so maybe I wont feel so worn out and run down all the time. As with some cases of kids from other relationships, the boys are my BF's and they are a handful. The oldest is 20 and still at home. Mainly because he is not mentally able to understand the full concept of responsibilities. His brain is still thinking he is 16 when his body is 20. All that stems from his upbringing with his mom, but that is another story...
The 16yr old is so desparate for attention that he will date any girl that likes him because he thinks all the girls in school hate him. UGH! Again another story....
So i just finished a seminar at the hospital with the doctor that will be doing the surgery. I am awaiting a phone call to come back in to meet with a nutritionist and get me started on the 6months of required dieting. In that time i will be meeting again with the doctor and my meetings once a month with the nutritionist. I must keep each appointment or start over again at square 1. I am hoping that I will be able to get the WLS in April of 2013.
I am starting now with finding out the foods i will be eatting and things i will need after the surgery. I am sorry this was such a LOOOOONG post. Is there anybody that is near me? I cant wait to start this journey and get back to a healthier life.
Deanna
It was nice coming on this morning and seeing Harvey post the Sunday thread and all the many people who posted to it. . . this board has been a little light lately, but life is busy and if anyone realizes that, it would be me, as this past weekend I had a whirlwind of activities, whi*****luded babysitting my grandchildren, a farewell party at my friend's house Friday night, she has moved to Hallendale, Florida. . . a good housecleaning, laundry, errands, food prep, watching my team barely beat the Dolpins (ugggh), Jets fan here (lol). . . anyway, right now I am baking a healthy french toast caserole, made with w/w cinnamon raisin bread, eggbeaters, pecans and slices of apple and a drizzle of honey, in a few moments I will get ready for work and then walk my Roxie girl before leaving for the beginning of my workweek. . .
I surely hope you all have a wonderful day!
Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
I took a long walk today, too... felt great, too.
I'm excited and nervous at the same time...
I took her over to Ross to find a new dress for a Bat Mitzvah she is going to in about 2 weeks. I also found a cute one for me that I can wear to work, synagogue, or going out... very versatile and cute. We went to the grocery store for a few things and then just came home to relax.
I'm still doing really well with my eating. I've even surprised myself. Wed-Fri all I had was 3-4 protein shakes per day and water/crystal lite. Saturday, I had a shake for breakfast and on my way home from synagogue and then made a soft boiled egg a bit later. Dinner was just some ricotta w/a tsp of peanut butter and cheesecake pudding powder and then I had a shake before I went out last night.
Today, I ate some ricotta when I got up the first time and then a shake the 2nd time. When we got home, I made one scrambled egg with a bit of cheese sprinkled on it. Dinner was 2 oz tilapia with salad and kale chips. I feel so much better and am only a little bit hungry at times. I am trying really hard to just suck down the water when I feel like I want to nibble. Mind over matter.. I have to do this.
Well, back to relaxing.. I'm in the living room watching Siehara paint her nails all different colors.. lol... Hope everyone had a great weekend?