New to OH

Welcome, Lydia!!!  Congratulations on the 113 pounds, and I am sorry you are struggling at this time.  I went through a difficult time and finally found my way back to sanity.  What is helping me now is the 12-step group of Overeaters Anonymous, and coming back to Barix support groups.  You don't have to be a Barix baby to attend!  I feel that support is crucial in this journey.  Finding others who have been through similar experiences and are facing similar emotions is very comforting and encouraging.

Lydia,
Welcome.  There's nothing you can say, do, think and/or try that we've haven't tried, said, or  done.  What kind of surgery are you having?

Not to speak for her, but not sure how often she gets on...

Lydia had RNY a little over a year ago.  She is struggling with "haters" and grieving issues. 

Lisa,
What I was trying to get across is that we deal with the same issues to some extent. Some moments are more intense then other.  I didn't mean to come off as offensive.

 I understand .. was just basically letting you know that she had surgery already.. RNY.. 

I definitely know that we all go through stuff.  I have been in a rut for at least a year and WILL get myself out of it.. I refuse to go back

We can do this together!