Depression?

   A lady never kisses and tells. At least, not on a public forum. Over drinks, well that's another story.

Let’s just say I got that pesky little problem out of the way.

you go girl

Cherish, I honestly think the internet is my current addiction...and it also has made me a little ADD along the way!

I know what you are saying about doing too much that involves other people. I seldom turn down an invitation and keep the weekends full. For me, often that is family stuff and church activities, where I do a lot of volunteering. But if I take this weekend as an example, we have plans Sat., Sun., and Mon. - which is probably all good, but it's not allowing me to address things at home that need to be done. 

I wonder....is part of losing weight learning to be comfortable in our own skin and being able to tolderate the quiet spaces in our lives? 

I believe that many of us fall into a social frenzy of sorts, because as fat girls (and guys) we didn't have the social outlets available that other people seemed to enjoy..so we have some catching up to do, I guess. 

All good thoughts....thanks so much.  

You have come to the right place. I think most of us have suffered from depression pre and post op at some point.  Depression is a disease and it needs to be managed. Sometimes it can be managed with diet and excercise, sometimes it needs medical interventions, and these two approaches can switch back and forth.

I have been so depressed that I slept in my closet in college did not attend any of my classes and failed them all only to be kicked out of school. THAT IS BAD, I never want to be there again.

I have had severe depression where I could function but just barely, i went to work and that was it the rest of the time i slept. I think we know our selves best and we know what things are more than just the blues, a hard patch or the weather.  for me when i start want to or actually call off work then I know I am in trouble.

I would encourage you to see a Psychiatrist if possible for a full eval. Not that PCP are bad but this is just not their area of expertise. You would not go to your PCP for a broken leg you go to a specialist. Same thing. They are much more open to trying different doses and combos of meds then your PCP is. Now that being said you may need to see you PCP to get something until you can get a Psych appt because they are hard to get.

Know this, you are not alone. We all have been there in some capacity. Acknowledging it is the first step. Denial is a dangerous place to be. Nip it in the bud.

If you were a diabetic and your blood sugars became unstable and you needed to use meds to help you get them back on track would you call yourself a failure?? 

I encorage you to supplement your tx with Omega 3 a 10 min walk in the sun daily and a gratitude journal helps alot.

I also have positive psychology things I can send you if you are open to it

HUGS

I would like to Piggy Back Nicole's suggestion on seeing a Psychiatrist. It took me over 3 months to get an appointment witha doctor and that was because my PCP had me bouncing on meds. One that has caused a weight gain which only sent me into deeper depression.

It was Nicole's encouragement and support that had me take this route and after last night it was the best thing I could do for myself.

muwah

Thank you Nic. I would love to see what you have in the "positive psychology" arena and I will mention the psychiatrist possibility to my doctor. If you'd like to send me a name (as a facebook private message would be fine) that would be great.

Your comment about calling off work resonated with me. This is a hard part to admit. I work at home on pretty much my own schedule most days. But there are days when I have to FORCE myself to even log on to check my e mail, much less to do an honest day's work. The job isn't difficult but I dread the feeling of settling in at the desk to do it. And it's not as if I am making a different choice - like shifting hours so I can accomplish x, y, or z for a couple of hours. When I feel that dread and give in to it, the time is most often spent in some of that passive, escaping behavior. I end up running behind and forcing myself then into a position of scrambling to catch up with where I should be....

So it's not officially calling off but it's more of what Cherish would call a half assed approach to doing my job. I know in my head the value of being present, being in the moment, and all that....but just can't bring myself to be present in my own life if that makes any sense.

Everything has slid to this default mode. I have denied it in every way possible but don't think I can do that any longer.

anxiety and slight depression for me. Started about 2 years post op. I finally broke down and went to the Dr about it, sat in her office and cried. I was on Lexapro daily and Xanax as needed. When I got pregnant I went on wellbutrin but weaned off of it the first trimester. After having Mia I went on Zoloft and that seems to be helping with the anxiety for the most part. I do still need my xanax sometimes

*hugs* and go make that appt :) You (AND Mike) will be glad you did! Asking for help is never a failure, totally the opposite actually! Admitting you need help is huge!

Hey Lynn,

     I am mostly lurking and just readiing these days but I feel that I have something to add to the discussion.  I have been on antidepressants (Paxil) for almost 20 years.  There have been times when I have tried taking myself off them (not a good idea) but realized that I do not produce enought serotonin.  I also have been in couseling for a long time.  Especially after WLS this has proven to be invaluable to me.  I wasn't comfortable taking medicine for a LONG TIME.  Now I am.  The same way I will have to take vitamins for the rest of my life - my antidepressant will be with me also.  If I skip a few days I can feel the difference.

     Initially I saw this as a major weakness on my part and my then psychiatrist used the diabetic/insulin example with me.  Took me a few more years before I got on board.  I recently had to slightly increase my dosage due to the malabsorption factor.  

     My depression manifests itself in sleeping and isolating.  I have had some bad spells this past year but now am in a good place.  I am glad that you felt comfortable enough to present this to the board.  There are many of us who can relate to you.  Please take this seriously - it is a very real problem and may only be something that is temporary.  You have done such a great job with your exercise and everything.  Know that our second year is a lot more difficult than our first year was.  Call me if you want (267)334-0294.  Take good care of yourself.

Love, Donna 

Another depressed person checking in...    Diagnosed and working on it.. Also dealing with what is most likely ADHD.  

It definitely sounds like you are dealing with SOMETHING.  Best to talk to someone about it and see what can be done with meds and/or behavior mod.  

I can't imagine you NOT trying hard enough.  You work hard and do so much. There is very likely something going on that you need help with.  

I hope you find the answers you need.