Messed up Monday
Sara I am so sorry and I am sorry I am behind on responses. It looks like you have gotten some good support. Little from colum A and from colum B. We have this surgery to have a second chance at life and to save ourselves. It makes no sense if we continue to allow others to put us second and abuse us. that is contrary to our very nature at this point. It feels like a break down but it is more like a break through. Require more of your family you deserve this.
Nicole,
((HUGS)) to you!! No one ever said that marriage was easy, and believe me it isn't !!! The best advice I can give is TALK it out, even if you wind up shouting at each other. There has to be communication between you for this to work! Communication is KEY!!!!
It seems alot of us are going through crap these days! What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right?? Nicole, you are a strong person! We are all here for you in whatever capacity you need us to be!!
My weekend wasn't horrible.....Saturday I was busy all day, cleaning, doing laundry, changing bed sheets, baking, etc. Sunday I wound up spending most of the time on the recliner sleeping since I didn't sleep well Saturday night, It seems when I don't take my meds I don't sleep well, hmmm??? Went and spent some time with some great friends in the afternoon, then came home and spent time with the child.
Today is wor****il 3:30, a couple of errands, then home for the evening! I feel a mental health day coming tomorrow....
Have a great day everyone!!
Love to all, Beth
((HUGS)) to you!! No one ever said that marriage was easy, and believe me it isn't !!! The best advice I can give is TALK it out, even if you wind up shouting at each other. There has to be communication between you for this to work! Communication is KEY!!!!
It seems alot of us are going through crap these days! What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, right?? Nicole, you are a strong person! We are all here for you in whatever capacity you need us to be!!
My weekend wasn't horrible.....Saturday I was busy all day, cleaning, doing laundry, changing bed sheets, baking, etc. Sunday I wound up spending most of the time on the recliner sleeping since I didn't sleep well Saturday night, It seems when I don't take my meds I don't sleep well, hmmm??? Went and spent some time with some great friends in the afternoon, then came home and spent time with the child.
Today is wor****il 3:30, a couple of errands, then home for the evening! I feel a mental health day coming tomorrow....
Have a great day everyone!!
Love to all, Beth
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Nicole I am so sorry you felt that way in the seminar workshop. Again sorry I ran late and could not give you a hug. I do understand the feeling of not living your life as a "Post Op WLS". We re so much more then that in our day to day lives and the further out we go further back on the burner that title goes in our life description.
I wish instead of jumping in bed you would have jumped in the car for us to give you a great big hug cause there was lots of wild raw emotion taking place at the ranch yesterday but lots of love. Love you!
My weekend was pretty quiet yet many things took place I talked to Kim (my dj partner) on Friday evening I talked to her told her as of 2012 I am stepping back from DJing. She took it very well and she is sad she is losing me but understand my reasons. Also the first time in 8 years I asked her to work a job for me last minute since I was not feeling well.
Saturday I did attend the seminar that Nicole spoke of yet I was late and missed Nicole because I had zoned out driving on the turnpike. I found many things helpful and learned many things that day. Saturday night wsa a quiet night with Dennis.
Sunday was spent with many good friend old and new. Then last night Dennis and I had what I will call out own personal support meeting just the two of us. It was great to TALK! I feel so much better today for many reasons in our relationship. Sleep felt good last night.
Today is a new week and here in work thinking about some changes I need to work on...
Life is good!
I wish instead of jumping in bed you would have jumped in the car for us to give you a great big hug cause there was lots of wild raw emotion taking place at the ranch yesterday but lots of love. Love you!
My weekend was pretty quiet yet many things took place I talked to Kim (my dj partner) on Friday evening I talked to her told her as of 2012 I am stepping back from DJing. She took it very well and she is sad she is losing me but understand my reasons. Also the first time in 8 years I asked her to work a job for me last minute since I was not feeling well.
Saturday I did attend the seminar that Nicole spoke of yet I was late and missed Nicole because I had zoned out driving on the turnpike. I found many things helpful and learned many things that day. Saturday night wsa a quiet night with Dennis.
Sunday was spent with many good friend old and new. Then last night Dennis and I had what I will call out own personal support meeting just the two of us. It was great to TALK! I feel so much better today for many reasons in our relationship. Sleep felt good last night.
Today is a new week and here in work thinking about some changes I need to work on...
Life is good!
Beth it is ok you were late. I probably would have stayed if you all had been there, but I am not at all convinced that would have been the best thing for me anyway. So it all ended as it should. I do wish i had gotten in the car and came to you all as well. But you know what? It never even occurred to me. I was so frozen with hurt and anger that it was out of my ability to see straight. This is why i need to learn some new skills and get better at reaching out.
I am so happy that you got so much good stuff this weekend sounds like it was excellent all around.
I am so happy that you got so much good stuff this weekend sounds like it was excellent all around.
Good Afternoon Nicole & PA;
Nicole I hope things start to look up for you. We went through a long period where everything we did was defined by Gene being a post WLS patient. It was such a time of transition for us both. At that time I had not had surgery. It got to the point where everything we did was defined by him being post WLS. We stopped riding because his sugar was going to drop, we started becoming couch potatos because after Gene passed out cold, he really was scared to death of passing out again. Very rough time, the way we got through it was by talking, and talking, and talking, then talking about it some more. It was a very tough time. My surgery was so totally uneventful except for the minor stumbling blocks I hit with food and things, otherwise we are both very conscious to define ourselves not only as Post WLS patients but by everything that defined us prior to our surgeries. Once Gene got there, prior to my surgery it was easy for him to keep me on track after my surgery. Having a partner that has walked this walk has made my transition so much easier than I remember it being for Gene to make alone. Hang in there, sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
I'm late checking in. Was up again all night. Whatever is up there is nocturnal, so must be a oppossum or raccoon. So I over slept this morning, did not hear the alarm, did not wake up until the GC and his crew were coming through the house yelling is anyone home it's quiet in here....Sent an email to my director and am working from home. I had to put a PP presentation together for Thursday so this gave me the uninturrupted time I needed. If I'd have been in work, too many people stopping by my desk for information, research, just to chat.....Our GC is staying away from me today - he said he's never seen me so quiet and tired looking.
On my agenda this morning was a trip to find a Live Animal Trap. Could not find one anywhere in Philly, finally found one at a hardware store in Rockledge. Went over bought that. Tonight the trap is going upstairs and hopefully the critter (s) will have enough sense to go in and get trapped so we can take it/them for a ride. Our exterminator is also bringing over some extra traps.
I have class tonight from 6-10. Half the class is presenting tonight. I was supposed to but sent a note to my prof that I need an extension till the last night of class June 6th, that gives me two more weekends to work on the final finance presentation. I cannot wait to get out of this class, between the critter on the second floor and this finance class, I've never had so much trouble sleeping. I'm not very functional without sleep.
Hope everyone has a good rest of the day....
Ida
Nicole I hope things start to look up for you. We went through a long period where everything we did was defined by Gene being a post WLS patient. It was such a time of transition for us both. At that time I had not had surgery. It got to the point where everything we did was defined by him being post WLS. We stopped riding because his sugar was going to drop, we started becoming couch potatos because after Gene passed out cold, he really was scared to death of passing out again. Very rough time, the way we got through it was by talking, and talking, and talking, then talking about it some more. It was a very tough time. My surgery was so totally uneventful except for the minor stumbling blocks I hit with food and things, otherwise we are both very conscious to define ourselves not only as Post WLS patients but by everything that defined us prior to our surgeries. Once Gene got there, prior to my surgery it was easy for him to keep me on track after my surgery. Having a partner that has walked this walk has made my transition so much easier than I remember it being for Gene to make alone. Hang in there, sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
I'm late checking in. Was up again all night. Whatever is up there is nocturnal, so must be a oppossum or raccoon. So I over slept this morning, did not hear the alarm, did not wake up until the GC and his crew were coming through the house yelling is anyone home it's quiet in here....Sent an email to my director and am working from home. I had to put a PP presentation together for Thursday so this gave me the uninturrupted time I needed. If I'd have been in work, too many people stopping by my desk for information, research, just to chat.....Our GC is staying away from me today - he said he's never seen me so quiet and tired looking.
On my agenda this morning was a trip to find a Live Animal Trap. Could not find one anywhere in Philly, finally found one at a hardware store in Rockledge. Went over bought that. Tonight the trap is going upstairs and hopefully the critter (s) will have enough sense to go in and get trapped so we can take it/them for a ride. Our exterminator is also bringing over some extra traps.
I have class tonight from 6-10. Half the class is presenting tonight. I was supposed to but sent a note to my prof that I need an extension till the last night of class June 6th, that gives me two more weekends to work on the final finance presentation. I cannot wait to get out of this class, between the critter on the second floor and this finance class, I've never had so much trouble sleeping. I'm not very functional without sleep.
Hope everyone has a good rest of the day....
Ida
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