slipping!!!

 I lost my Dad 2 weeks ago on Sunday  ... Have found myself slipping back into OLD habits....  Just NOT staying on program....I do NOT Dump and have No side effects of anything   ...  Noticed I was consuming too much wine and such before his passing  but have a handle on that now  so it seems... I just want to eat.....even when I am NOT really hungry....I have retained my 103 weight loss.  I will celebrate 1 year sxversary on may 3.....Just needed to  VENT!!!   We are getting a dumpster delivered today and the cleanup begins......sweeping up the heart and storing away  the memories!  Been reading up on transfer addictions .   Very aware that I am an excellent candidate for falling into this category!!!    Need to reconnect with my WLS freinds!!1   You all have so much love and support!!!!    HUGS  P ROCK!

Hey Pam!  You just took the first step in what you need to do---you admitted that you're having a rough time.  Good for you to come here for help!  Not sure I have any magic words for you, but how about a hug for my friend? 

Times of extreme sadness, pain and stress can certainly lead us back into the old (i.e. compulsive) ways of dealing with things.  You are very courageous and wise to see it and reach out for support.  Sometimes I think I am the Queen of Tranfer Addictions.  LOL.  We do have a forum on OH, but being technically impaired, I'm not sure how to post the link. 

Again, you did a great thing reaching out here.  Keep doing that.  Post through your feelings here and in any face-to-face support resources you can find. 

You are in my thoughts today. 

So very sorry to hear about your dad's passing.

Glad you are reaching out for support and finding the connection you need.

Pam,

So sorry about your Dad! We are always here for you when you need love, support or good swift kick in the butt!! Stressful times make it very easy to fall into old patterns. Like Julia said, you took the first step by posting here and asking for help.

Take care and keep in touch!

Love, Beth

Sorry to read about your loss and the sadness that is a part of what you are going through now.  As has been said, these are the times when we go on autopilot and therefore old habits can creep in, sounds like you became aware of what it was you were doing and that is the good part of things. 

I post on another forum here and recently started a thread to deal with the issues surrounding us as we progress further down the line, I entitled the post, Feelings and Emotional Eating because many of us, most especially when we get 2 and more years from our WLS have reverted to old patterns and suffer the consequences, we silently slither away because of guilt and shame, so stay connected here, talk about your feelings and how to get through them without resorting to old behaviors.  This board is an awesome place for support.

Wishing you peace as you sort through your memories and remember your Dad is now your champion on high. . . 

Hugs, Laureen

 Cannot Thank all of you enough for the response!!!!       tough days ahead!!!!   WISH a glass of wine did NOT make me feel better....BUT it DOES!!!   SO...... count my sips and be aware of the outcome!!!!     Will get thru this!!!    I KNOW SO!!!!   

 Sorry to hear of the passing of your Dad.  Will send good thoughts and lots of prayers your way.

I am cross addicted, and have been in AA for 21 years.  Eating and drinking when I am have emotional problems, like loss, are my usual MO.  I am so sorry for your loss, and how it i****ting you.  I lost my baby brother six weeks post-op, and then my other brother 13 months later.  Those deaths were part of my two year relapse with alcoholism. 

Lisa mentioned the Transfer Addiction Forum.  Here is the link:  http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/crossingtotransferaddiction s/discussion/

Sending Hugs,
Trish

P.S.  If you ever need to talk, I am available.  267-812-5855