Embracing my muffin top!
Thank you Steffi 
I can really relate to what you said your hubby said to you about the skin being free of fat cells. I have always carried a lot of my fat in my belly, family genetics on my mom's side (stocky German women). Gene like Larry is soooooo supportive. When I mention my fat belly - he always points out that although the fat cells are not totally melted away they are at least half of what my belly used to be.
Big (((((((Hugs))))))))))) to you!
I can really relate to what you said your hubby said to you about the skin being free of fat cells. I have always carried a lot of my fat in my belly, family genetics on my mom's side (stocky German women). Gene like Larry is soooooo supportive. When I mention my fat belly - he always points out that although the fat cells are not totally melted away they are at least half of what my belly used to be.
Big (((((((Hugs))))))))))) to you!
IdaMae
Steffi,
We love you for who you are NOT what you look like!! Your personality and natural light comes through every time someone meets you! We ALL have perceived imperfections and years of self abuse. You worked very hard as we all have to get to where we are now, so be proud of what you have accomplished! I know I am proud of you and glad to call you my friend!!
Love and hugs, Beth
We love you for who you are NOT what you look like!! Your personality and natural light comes through every time someone meets you! We ALL have perceived imperfections and years of self abuse. You worked very hard as we all have to get to where we are now, so be proud of what you have accomplished! I know I am proud of you and glad to call you my friend!!
Love and hugs, Beth
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Hey Steffi,
I totally understand everything you said. Even though my stomach is not bad. I hate my saggy boobs, butt, thighs and most of all my arms. I will not wear a tank top or anything sleeveless. I have this idea that because I am thinner that people will think my body should look better and it makes me more stressed about showing it.
My husband and I went Thur a horrible week this week and we were talking about everything trying to save our marriage and the one thing he said that we should go to the nude beach in NJ so I can see what other "normal" people look like and not be so hard on myself. I love the idea of it, just to be free and say F' it but I don't know that I can. Thankfully alcohol is allowed on the beach so that might help a bit. I see what he is trying to do. I am what I am and I am not going to get plastics anytime soon since I've had a major surgery every year for 3 years in a row. I need a break.
You look wonderful...and I see skinny girls with low jeans that have HUGE muffin tops...I guess they don't see what they look like from behind.
I totally understand everything you said. Even though my stomach is not bad. I hate my saggy boobs, butt, thighs and most of all my arms. I will not wear a tank top or anything sleeveless. I have this idea that because I am thinner that people will think my body should look better and it makes me more stressed about showing it.
My husband and I went Thur a horrible week this week and we were talking about everything trying to save our marriage and the one thing he said that we should go to the nude beach in NJ so I can see what other "normal" people look like and not be so hard on myself. I love the idea of it, just to be free and say F' it but I don't know that I can. Thankfully alcohol is allowed on the beach so that might help a bit. I see what he is trying to do. I am what I am and I am not going to get plastics anytime soon since I've had a major surgery every year for 3 years in a row. I need a break.
You look wonderful...and I see skinny girls with low jeans that have HUGE muffin tops...I guess they don't see what they look like from behind.
5'9 and a size 6...I love my tool.
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Steffi my dear, you are truly beautiful inside and out. And we are so on the same wavelength sometimes it's scary.
I too wear shapewear (my "spanx" or "flexees" - and say what you like they are NOT "girdles" like the horrible torturous ones I wore in my teenage years, thank you very much) almost every day. I like the way they keep things from "jiggling." And the way they smooth out some of the lumpier places.
BUT... if you think that any piece of fabric is miraculous enough to DRAMATICALLY change your body shape, think again. Simply hasn't been invented, even with whalebone and steel! It's certainly not enough to make a 26-year-old waiter hit on you JUST because you're wearing it... and I'd be if you went back in there NOT wearing it, he'd STILL hit on you. The effect of shapewear is, in my opinion, largely one of confidence and movement (keeping things from jiggling) rather than making things look dramatically smaller. But they do/can make you feel more confident, and therefore carry yourself differently, etc.
I challenge you to have Larry take a couple of RANDOM pics of you (completely candid) on a day when you're not wearing one, then do the same on a day when you are. I'll bet that you cannot see much if any difference. Honestly! Doesn't mean you shouldn't wear them if they give you confidence and you like how it feels - but it frees you to CHOOSE based on your own comfort and feeling instead of some perception of how others are seeing and judging you.
Hugs, girl!
Karen
Steffi my dear, you are truly beautiful inside and out. And we are so on the same wavelength sometimes it's scary.
I too wear shapewear (my "spanx" or "flexees" - and say what you like they are NOT "girdles" like the horrible torturous ones I wore in my teenage years, thank you very much) almost every day. I like the way they keep things from "jiggling." And the way they smooth out some of the lumpier places.
BUT... if you think that any piece of fabric is miraculous enough to DRAMATICALLY change your body shape, think again. Simply hasn't been invented, even with whalebone and steel! It's certainly not enough to make a 26-year-old waiter hit on you JUST because you're wearing it... and I'd be if you went back in there NOT wearing it, he'd STILL hit on you. The effect of shapewear is, in my opinion, largely one of confidence and movement (keeping things from jiggling) rather than making things look dramatically smaller. But they do/can make you feel more confident, and therefore carry yourself differently, etc.
I challenge you to have Larry take a couple of RANDOM pics of you (completely candid) on a day when you're not wearing one, then do the same on a day when you are. I'll bet that you cannot see much if any difference. Honestly! Doesn't mean you shouldn't wear them if they give you confidence and you like how it feels - but it frees you to CHOOSE based on your own comfort and feeling instead of some perception of how others are seeing and judging you.
Hugs, girl!
Karen
Oh Steffi,
I cry about once everyday about my muffin top and in myhead I know it is not as bad to everyone else as it is to me. I looked at my vacation photos what did I see my muffin top. Then I stop talk to myself say look your dressis a size large or a medium what are you crying about,. Some days it works other days it does not work.
We are the hardest on ourselves to that I am sure of if nothing else. Just as Larry supports you Den will do the same but just once I don't want to feel like that my muffin top is all that I am.
Hang inthere girlfriend.
I cry about once everyday about my muffin top and in myhead I know it is not as bad to everyone else as it is to me. I looked at my vacation photos what did I see my muffin top. Then I stop talk to myself say look your dressis a size large or a medium what are you crying about,. Some days it works other days it does not work.
We are the hardest on ourselves to that I am sure of if nothing else. Just as Larry supports you Den will do the same but just once I don't want to feel like that my muffin top is all that I am.
Hang inthere girlfriend.
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