Buying a dress and mind games
It's mind games, I tell ya.
I stopped into Boscovs early today to pick up a gift. While there, I spotted a great sale on summer dresses, and tried one on. I needed a summer dress. Most of my "good" clothes for work are suits.
But this dress...you know, it wasn't black. And fat girls look better in black.
The bodice was black, but yikes! The bottom was PRINT. And fat girls had better stay clear of prints.
The print had purple as the dominant color. And Heaven help us all if a fat girl wears purple. She's sure to look like a freakin' easter egg rolling around.
The dress had a slight empire waist. And you know the score. When a fat girl wears an empire waist, she just THINKS she's hiding it all. In fact, she looks pregnant when she's not.
The dress was sleeveless. Oh man. Sleeveless? That means the arms show. Fat arms. Plus the excess underneath the arms that rolls around the back and into the boobs.
I came home without the dress.
But I went back tongiht. I tried it on again, in both small and a medium. The medium had too much fabric around the armholes, so I liked the fit of the small better. And I found a cute shrug that ties in front, because I'm cold all the time anyway...and not really really really fond of my upper arms.
I'm not the fat girl any more. I can wear a dress that is a color other than black. I can wear a dress that is print. I can wear any style I want to wear, even an empire waist. And my arms aren't all that bad (for ANYBODY past 50, thank you!)
But oh, the battle in my brain!
I stopped into Boscovs early today to pick up a gift. While there, I spotted a great sale on summer dresses, and tried one on. I needed a summer dress. Most of my "good" clothes for work are suits.
But this dress...you know, it wasn't black. And fat girls look better in black.
The bodice was black, but yikes! The bottom was PRINT. And fat girls had better stay clear of prints.
The print had purple as the dominant color. And Heaven help us all if a fat girl wears purple. She's sure to look like a freakin' easter egg rolling around.
The dress had a slight empire waist. And you know the score. When a fat girl wears an empire waist, she just THINKS she's hiding it all. In fact, she looks pregnant when she's not.
The dress was sleeveless. Oh man. Sleeveless? That means the arms show. Fat arms. Plus the excess underneath the arms that rolls around the back and into the boobs.
I came home without the dress.
But I went back tongiht. I tried it on again, in both small and a medium. The medium had too much fabric around the armholes, so I liked the fit of the small better. And I found a cute shrug that ties in front, because I'm cold all the time anyway...and not really really really fond of my upper arms.
I'm not the fat girl any more. I can wear a dress that is a color other than black. I can wear a dress that is print. I can wear any style I want to wear, even an empire waist. And my arms aren't all that bad (for ANYBODY past 50, thank you!)
But oh, the battle in my brain!
Good for you for beating the "subcommittees" in your brain!!! It really is a mind game....you look FABULOUS! Think about that....
Beth
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Lynn,
I second that you rock that dress and I agree wearing sleevless dress or tops at first made me so self conscious but you know what? I love my arms bat wings and all and it's all that "sub-committes" and congrats for knocking those down!
I second that you rock that dress and I agree wearing sleevless dress or tops at first made me so self conscious but you know what? I love my arms bat wings and all and it's all that "sub-committes" and congrats for knocking those down!
-Shilpa
People comment on my over 100 pound weight loss and attribute it to my WILLpower, but it is my WANTpower: I WANT to be thin and healthy more than anything else!
I am so glad you went back and bought that dress. We have to decide that we are NOT fat anymore. We look GOOD in damn near anything we put on and we can wear whatever the hell we want to and feel good about it!
Now, you know you HAVE to take a picture because we want to see this beautiful purple, empire waisted, sleeveless dress that you are sure to look beautiful in. Why? Because YOU are beautiful!
Now, you know you HAVE to take a picture because we want to see this beautiful purple, empire waisted, sleeveless dress that you are sure to look beautiful in. Why? Because YOU are beautiful!
My tracker
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Good for you for going back and buying the dress, Lynn!!! We all spent a lot of years wearing big clothes and being limited in styles and colors. It's hard, but I think we all need to step outside our comfort zone and try new styles and colors. I'm trying to learn what looks good on me, and sometimes I'm really surprised. Like you, I still have that fat girl lurking in my brain, but in reality she's gone. Sooo glad you bought the dress!!! And like Lisa said, now you have to post a pic so we can see how beautiful you are in it!!!
Julia
Lynn,
Seems the dress brigade is out this week. I am so glad you went back to buy the dress for yourself!
I understand all the feelings that go along with dressing these new bodies. As much as I love my new life deep down inside that fat girl still lives and she shows up in thought from time to time.
Seems the dress brigade is out this week. I am so glad you went back to buy the dress for yourself!
I understand all the feelings that go along with dressing these new bodies. As much as I love my new life deep down inside that fat girl still lives and she shows up in thought from time to time.
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