Not doing well at all.....

I am not doing well right now. Sunday I came home from shopping and my husband told me his family was going to be here in 20 mins to move all his stuff out and he wants a divorce. I didn't see this coming. I am more than stressed out. He also told me the morgage was two months behind and they will be foreclosing on the house. I am doing everything I can to get help. I don't have a job I get $280.00 a month for child support. I don't know what to do. I can't work either. Sorry for rambling.

I am having a hard time eating and drinking without getting sick. It was a little better yesterday. But I am concerned about not getting enough of the thinks I need in me, I know it is stress. Has anyone went thru anything stressful to cause them to feel this way. I am trying to drink allot but it is very hard. Should I call my doctors office? I am trying to eat as much as I can without getting sick. I am very concerned about my health.

Sorry if this isn't the kind of post that should be here but I am at a loss.

This is exactly where you need to post! We are here for you. So sorry to hear about all of your difficulties. I cannot imagine the stress you are under, but it is understandable. Do you have a therapist or someone who can help you? I have a great one if you need her name. She is in Newtown PA. She deals mostly with WLS patients. Are you drinking protein shakes or drinks? You need to try to focus on what you need nutritionally or you won't be able to deal with anything else. I know you are in a very difficult situation right now, but really make it a point to do what you need to do. I would call your dr as well, maybe he can suggest some meds for you....

Take care and keep posting! Let us know how you are doing...

((HUGS))

Beth

Beth,
Thank you so much.
I do have a therapist. She is great. She had me come in on Monday on her lunch. I go see her again today. I haven't even thought about my protein shakes will get one now and try to drink it.
I will keep posting now. I was embarrassed to post at first that is why it is days later.
Tammi

Tammi,

No need to be embarrassed! You didn't do anything wrong. We all have things go wrong in our lives and we need support to help us through. As you can tell, there are many people here who are willing and able to give you all the support you need. Do you go to a support group? Ours at Barix in Langhorne is THE BEST!! Many of the people who post on here are from that support group. I find it fun to meet people face to face that I have chatted with on OH.

Keep your chin up and think positive thoughts...

Beth

Thanks Beth,
I am going to try to go to the support group near Pittsburgh. I think it is next week.I just have to find a ride. My car is broke down. It has been since my surgery. He said he was going to get it fixed for me so I am not without a car. I hope so.
All I will need is a sitter for my kids then I will be going. If I don't make it this month I am going to go next month.

It's okay - we all post things going on in our personal lives since it does affect our health and we have to be very conscious that our bodies are getting what they need - especially in your case since you are so early out from your surgery.

I am so sorry to hear of your personal issues - I can't even begin to imagine how you're feeling going though all this - if you can't get to a counselor do you have close friends or family around you can turn to?

If you are on the mortgage with your husband you could contact the bank and tell them what is going on - see if there are any programs available to you to allow you to stay in the house. If not it does take a while for a foreclosure to go thru so in the meantime try to save as much money as you can for an apt if you have to move.

And keep trying to get protein shakes in - if nothing else works - food might not work too well right now due to all of your additional stress but you have to take care of your body or you will end up with physical health issues as well.

Sending big hugs and many prayers your way - and yes, call the doctor's office too - ask them if you can come in and tell them how you're feeling and why - they may be able to offer something as well.

Take care and keep posting - you didn't say why you can't work - is there some type of assistance you can apply for? Food stamps? Medicare? Look into it - can't hurt!!

I am not on the mortgage just the deed to the house.   I am saving as much as I can. I have a lady getting me into a program to help me find a place for me, the kids and my pets.

I did go Monday and get food stamps and medical.

I see my doctor on the 15th. But I will call them anyway.

I have Bipolar and anxiety and borderline personality disorder. I have never been able to hold on to a job because of it . I have kids two and no babysitters for them. It makes it really hard.    
 
Thank you for all the good advice!
Tammi                                                                                                                                          

Hi Tammi,

     You have come to the right place for support during this time. You are newly out and as hard as the stress factor is you must try to get your protein in so you do not get sick. If eating is hard try to work on drinking protein shakes through the day or even try the protein bullets that pack upo to 42 grams of protein at time.

  You have been blindsided it sounds with a lot at the moment. I am glad to see you do have a therapist maybe you also have to look into a legal consult. Your spouse left you that is abandonment he will have to provide some sort of finanacial support to you.

Take one day at a time and we are here for you when you need us.

I am so sorry that you are going this but a wise person once told me that everything is replaceable but if you don't have your health you don't have anything. Of course a death of a marriage is not something one anticipates especially when you had no idea this was happenning. Hang in there everything happens for a reason I know it sounds like a cliche but trust me in this too god has a plan. {{{{{Hugs}}}}}

Thank you so much. That was something I needed to hear.