I wish people would just stop
Good morning all,
Wow, people are really starting to get on my nerves. It seems like almost everyone has something to say about my weight loss. I am eight months out and 4 lbs away from the goal I set. I know that I have done fantastic and have worked very hard for the results.
My plan is to take the 4 lbs off which will put me at 5'10 and 170lbs and in a 33 inch waist.
I will then decide whether I want to lose a few more pounds or not depending on how I feel. When I say a few, I don't mean 10 or 20 lbs, I mean a few pounds.
I am getting tired of going into work or hanging around friends who just keep saying enough with the weight loss already. You don't need to lose anymore.
I don't have anerexia (trust me) or anything like that and I am quite capable of determining where and when my body feels comfortable.
I know people just want to try and be helpful, but I work for a large company, and it just gets so tiresome.
Thanks for the listening ear.
Geoff
Wow, people are really starting to get on my nerves. It seems like almost everyone has something to say about my weight loss. I am eight months out and 4 lbs away from the goal I set. I know that I have done fantastic and have worked very hard for the results.
My plan is to take the 4 lbs off which will put me at 5'10 and 170lbs and in a 33 inch waist.
I will then decide whether I want to lose a few more pounds or not depending on how I feel. When I say a few, I don't mean 10 or 20 lbs, I mean a few pounds.
I am getting tired of going into work or hanging around friends who just keep saying enough with the weight loss already. You don't need to lose anymore.
I don't have anerexia (trust me) or anything like that and I am quite capable of determining where and when my body feels comfortable.
I know people just want to try and be helpful, but I work for a large company, and it just gets so tiresome.
Thanks for the listening ear.
Geoff
It's common. And it sucks.
Do you share with them that you have had surgery? If so, the BEST response I got was when I said something to the effect of "I am working very closely with my surgeon and a nutritionist. They are advising me of where I should go from here. My weight is perfectly within medically accepted standards, and more importantly so is my health. Thank you for the concern" Very rarely did people have something to say to that. If they did it was always something along the lines of "that body mass index thing is so screwed up, nobody fits on it" at which point I would generally say something to end the conversation because it was obvious they weren't going to listen.
In the meantime, thank them for their notice and their concern and tell them how absolutely FANTASTIC you feel!
Do you share with them that you have had surgery? If so, the BEST response I got was when I said something to the effect of "I am working very closely with my surgeon and a nutritionist. They are advising me of where I should go from here. My weight is perfectly within medically accepted standards, and more importantly so is my health. Thank you for the concern" Very rarely did people have something to say to that. If they did it was always something along the lines of "that body mass index thing is so screwed up, nobody fits on it" at which point I would generally say something to end the conversation because it was obvious they weren't going to listen.
In the meantime, thank them for their notice and their concern and tell them how absolutely FANTASTIC you feel!
Instead of complaining that the rosebush has thorns, be happy that the thorn bush has roses. 
Yes it can be very annoying - smile and tell them you appreciate their concern but you feel good and are very healthy now. Problem is they're just not used to the new you so even if you're aren't 'skinny' you appear skinny to them. Trust me, I'm far from skinny (and always will be) but whenever my sister sees me she comments about me being 'skinny' and it annoys the hell out of me. But it is what it is and I'm used to it now.
I know for me personally I went thru different phases of my weight loss where I just didn't look good - and I think it's happened to others - times when I did appear gaunt or my face lost weight so much faster than the rest of me so it appeared I was losing too much too fast - but then my body would catch up and even out and the healthier side of me came out again. Our bodies are going through so much after this surgery and we have to learn to live with those adjustments.
Once people get used to the new you they'll stop commenting - it's just something you'll have to live with for a while.
I know for me personally I went thru different phases of my weight loss where I just didn't look good - and I think it's happened to others - times when I did appear gaunt or my face lost weight so much faster than the rest of me so it appeared I was losing too much too fast - but then my body would catch up and even out and the healthier side of me came out again. Our bodies are going through so much after this surgery and we have to learn to live with those adjustments.
Once people get used to the new you they'll stop commenting - it's just something you'll have to live with for a while.
'One shoe can change your life'...Cinderella
One day you will look back on this and WANT people to compliment you again. You are still fairly new out - after a year or so people will stop making the comments regularly because they forget the "old you" and the "new you" is all they remember. Then they'll see an old pic or something somewhere and not believe it was you even though they knew you both ways.
It can be frustrating but this too shall pass!
It can be frustrating but this too shall pass!
If no one mentioned anything at all, you would be annoyed or hurt. After all, as you said, you have worked for it.
It may be annoying over and over, but take the compliments. You deserve them. They will begin to fade with time. So enjoy it all. and remember the days when you couldn't lose weight and wished you had compliments from co workers.
It may be annoying over and over, but take the compliments. You deserve them. They will begin to fade with time. So enjoy it all. and remember the days when you couldn't lose weight and wished you had compliments from co workers.
When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila & salt and give me a call!
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